26. Rebecca's Story: Family Completion Using Donor Eggs After A Long Fertility Journey Dealing With Blocked Fallopian Tubes And Premature Diminished Ovarian Reserve.
09/19/23 • 34 min
In this episode, I chat with Rebecca, a mother from Alabama who is a 41-year-old preschool director.
She's happily married and a mother of two: a daughter from her own egg and a son conceived through a donor egg.
She found out at 28 that her fallopian tubes were blocked, and that IVF would be her only way of getting pregnant, thus beginning her journey.
After 18 months of trying to conceive naturally, Rebecca was
recommended to a clinic in Colorado known for successfully helping women with diminished ovarian reserve.
With the IVF treatment framed as a holiday and an opportunity to relax and explore another part of the States, Rebecca and her husband embarked on the journey.
She credits the vacation environment as a
contributing factor to successfully conceiving her daughter.
Taking a five-year break to prepare financially and emotionally for a donor egg cycle, Rebecca aimed to
complete her family of three. Desiring a sibling for her daughter, she recognized that using a donor egg
was the way forward. The couple once again embarked on an IVF adventure, this time choosing San
Diego Fertility Centre for the donor egg transfer.
Despite a heart-wrenching setback with her initial donor selection, they eventually experienced a
successful transfer, welcoming their son into the family. Rebecca shares with us how she explained the
egg donation concept and the dynamics within their family to her children.
Rebecca’s children are well-aware of the process that led to their conception, and this transparency has
nurtured a strong and trusting family relationship. For her, a family's essence is defined more by the
love, care, and dedication shared among its members than by genetics.
Rebecca’s story offers valuable advice to others on a similar path. She encourages parents to trust their
instincts, embrace the uniqueness of their family dynamic, and maintain open communication with their
children.
A common concern voiced by many women seeking to complete their family via egg donation is the fear
that they might not bond with their donor-conceived child or love them as much as their biological child.
Rebecca says, “When my son was born prematurely, I struggled initially due to the birth circumstances,
but the bond grew strong as we spent time together. He's my son in every sense, and genetics don't
define our connection.”
Rebecca’s story helps ease worries and doubts for those concerned about their feelings toward their
donor egg child. Tune in to episode 26 to hear Rebecca’s personal account of her fertility journey and
how she overcame common donor egg mindset hurdles along the way.
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In this episode, I chat with Rebecca, a mother from Alabama who is a 41-year-old preschool director.
She's happily married and a mother of two: a daughter from her own egg and a son conceived through a donor egg.
She found out at 28 that her fallopian tubes were blocked, and that IVF would be her only way of getting pregnant, thus beginning her journey.
After 18 months of trying to conceive naturally, Rebecca was
recommended to a clinic in Colorado known for successfully helping women with diminished ovarian reserve.
With the IVF treatment framed as a holiday and an opportunity to relax and explore another part of the States, Rebecca and her husband embarked on the journey.
She credits the vacation environment as a
contributing factor to successfully conceiving her daughter.
Taking a five-year break to prepare financially and emotionally for a donor egg cycle, Rebecca aimed to
complete her family of three. Desiring a sibling for her daughter, she recognized that using a donor egg
was the way forward. The couple once again embarked on an IVF adventure, this time choosing San
Diego Fertility Centre for the donor egg transfer.
Despite a heart-wrenching setback with her initial donor selection, they eventually experienced a
successful transfer, welcoming their son into the family. Rebecca shares with us how she explained the
egg donation concept and the dynamics within their family to her children.
Rebecca’s children are well-aware of the process that led to their conception, and this transparency has
nurtured a strong and trusting family relationship. For her, a family's essence is defined more by the
love, care, and dedication shared among its members than by genetics.
Rebecca’s story offers valuable advice to others on a similar path. She encourages parents to trust their
instincts, embrace the uniqueness of their family dynamic, and maintain open communication with their
children.
A common concern voiced by many women seeking to complete their family via egg donation is the fear
that they might not bond with their donor-conceived child or love them as much as their biological child.
Rebecca says, “When my son was born prematurely, I struggled initially due to the birth circumstances,
but the bond grew strong as we spent time together. He's my son in every sense, and genetics don't
define our connection.”
Rebecca’s story helps ease worries and doubts for those concerned about their feelings toward their
donor egg child. Tune in to episode 26 to hear Rebecca’s personal account of her fertility journey and
how she overcame common donor egg mindset hurdles along the way.
I would love you to hit subscribe to find out when my next episode has landed and leave me a review :)
✨Follow me on Instagram for all topics Donor Egg IVF @donoreggsupport
✨ Check out my website www.donoreggsupport,com
✨ Book in for a short consult for practical advice here
✨ Book in for 60 mins Donor Egg Guidance, Fertilty Counselling and/or Hypnosis here
✨To join my free donor egg support community Facebook group click here
✨ To be a guest on my podcast click here
✨ Contact me here
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26. Rebecca's story: Family Completion Using Donor Eggs After A Long Fertility Journey Dealing With Blocked Fallopian Tubes And Premature Diminished Ovarian Reserve.
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In this episode I chat with Rebecca from Alabama who’s a 41 year old preschool director, happily married, mom to two, to her ‘own egg’ daughter, and her donor egg conceived son.
She found out at 28 that her fallopian tubes were blocked and that IVF would be her only way of getting pregnant and so her journey began.
After 18 months of TTC naturally Rebecca was recommended to a clinic in Colorado who had success helping women with diminished ovarian reserve.
She and her husband decided to view the IVF treatment as a holiday and opportunity to relax and enjoy another part of the States.
She credits the holiday environment as part of the success in conceiving her daughter.
Rebecca took a five year gap to get ready financially and emotionally to prepare for a donor egg cycle to complete her family of three.
She longed for a sibling for her daughter and knew that the only way forward was to use a donor egg.
She and her husband decided to travel interstate once more and have another IVF adventure, this time choosing San Diego Fertility Centre for her donor egg transfer.
After a setback with her first donor selection, they had a successful transfer and welcomed her son into the family.
Rebecca shares with us how she explained to her daughter and son the egg donation concept and the dynamics between her family.
Rebecca’s children are all well-aware of the process that led to their conception, and this transparency has nurtured a strong and trusting relationship within their family. For Rebecca, the essence of a family is defined more by the love, care, and dedication shared among its members than by genetics
Rebecca’s story offers valuable advice to others who might be on a similar path. She encourages parents to trust their instincts, embrace the uniqueness of their family dynamic, and above all, maintain open communication with their children.
A common concern that is voiced by many women who are looking to complete their family via egg donation is the worry that they may not bond with their donor conceived child nor love them the same as their own egg child.
Rebecca says, “When my son was born prematurely, I struggled initially due to the birth circumstances, but the bond grew strong as we spent time together. He's my son in every sense, and genetics don't define our connection.”
I would love you to hit subscribe to find out when my next episode has landed and leave me a review :)
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27. Lynn's story: How Fibroids, Endometriosis And Low AMH Challenged My Dream To Become A Mother
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In this episode we feature Lynn, sharing her story of battling endometriosis and navigating through
infertility.
Lynn's journey began when she and her husband decided to start a family after getting married in their
mid-30s. They faced challenges with conception and visited a doctor after six months of trying. Lynn's husband, who had survived childhood cancer, went through testing. After several tests, it became clear that the issue did not come from his side. They later found out that it was due to her age, and the doctors recommended seeking more professional support.
During one of her doctors appointments, Lynns situation took an unexpected turn when several tests were conducted. The results of these tests revealed that she had a low AMH, blockages in her tubes, and fibroids.
As part of the diagnostic process, a fibroid removal surgery uncovered a significant detail: Lynn was also suffering with severe endometriosis.
She expressed that discovering her endometriosis was validating. She saw it as an explanation for the pain she had endured for years. Subsequently, she had surgeries to deal with her endometriosis, remove fibroids, and address blockages.
Lynn talks about her inner struggle with considering donor eggs. At first, she was hesitant, but she eventually became more receptive after a friend mentioned an organization called Keeping Hope Alive.
This organization provides Infertility support grants for local couples and she said:
“you know what? Thats not a bad idea. And I put it in the universes hands. And I said, you know what?
If we win this grant, then thats our sign. Thats a sign that we need to move forward with this.”
After receiving an infertility support grant that assisted with expenses, Lynn found comfort in a group called Resolve, focused on infertility support. She talks about forming strong bonds with other women who openly shared their infertility experiences, emotions, and struggles. This group gave her essential support and a sense of connection.
You can follow Lynn on Instagram - @finkla
Tune in for more stories like this.
I would love you to hit subscribe to find out when my next episode has landed and leave me a review :)
✨Follow me on Instagram for all topics Donor Egg IVF @donoreggsupport
✨ Check out my website www.donoreggsupport,com
✨ Book in for a short consult for practical advice here
✨ Book in for 60 mins Donor Egg Guidance, Fertilty Counselling and/or Hypnosis here
✨To join my free donor egg support community Facebook group click here
✨ To be a guest on my podcast click here
✨ Contact me here
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