Coping with professional 'ghosting'
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05/06/21 • 20 min
This week Frankie Tortora and Steve Folland have a chat in response to a question from Detective Jason Chase, aka Anonymous. They say:
“My question is about professional 'ghosting'... spooky!
I was recently in touch with an old acquaintance who now works with a big organisation that I have been interested in working with for a while. This person encouraged me to pitch for quite a big contract, chatted through the project with me on the phone and even read through my ideas and made encouraging suggestions before I submitted.
But — I didn't get the gig.
I was really gutted but assumed I was up against some tough competition. The acquaintance apologised, and told me that there would be further opportunities coming up really soon and also offered — unprompted — to give me some feedback on a call. Great, I thought!
But when I replied to schedule a time to chat I didn't get a reply. A week or so later I sent a follow up message and again... silence!!
I think this professional ghosting is becoming more and more common and I hate it! How hard is it to send a quick message to someone, especially if you have volunteered to share the information in the first place?
I would love to move on from this, but feel a bit embarrassed, and also annoyed, and a bit like a ditched date! I'd love a chance to work with this organisation, and to have the feedback that was offered up. Would love to hear what you think! Any advice?”
What would your advice be? Let us know your thoughts using #DIFTKpodcast on Twitter and Instagram, and join in the conversation via the DIFTK Community on Facebook.
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The flexible pension for freelance parents. Penfold provides freelancers with an online pension that’s simple to use and completely flexible.
Sign up with the code DIFTK and get a £25 bonus into your pension pot. Penfold are also offering up to a £1,000 top up on pension transfers until the 31st of March 2021, so you can earn more from your old pension pots!
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Frankie Tortora's website
Steve Folland's website
Steve's podcast - Being Freelance
Doing It For The Kids website
DIFTK Facebook Community
DIFTK Instagram
DIFTK Twitter
This week Frankie Tortora and Steve Folland have a chat in response to a question from Detective Jason Chase, aka Anonymous. They say:
“My question is about professional 'ghosting'... spooky!
I was recently in touch with an old acquaintance who now works with a big organisation that I have been interested in working with for a while. This person encouraged me to pitch for quite a big contract, chatted through the project with me on the phone and even read through my ideas and made encouraging suggestions before I submitted.
But — I didn't get the gig.
I was really gutted but assumed I was up against some tough competition. The acquaintance apologised, and told me that there would be further opportunities coming up really soon and also offered — unprompted — to give me some feedback on a call. Great, I thought!
But when I replied to schedule a time to chat I didn't get a reply. A week or so later I sent a follow up message and again... silence!!
I think this professional ghosting is becoming more and more common and I hate it! How hard is it to send a quick message to someone, especially if you have volunteered to share the information in the first place?
I would love to move on from this, but feel a bit embarrassed, and also annoyed, and a bit like a ditched date! I'd love a chance to work with this organisation, and to have the feedback that was offered up. Would love to hear what you think! Any advice?”
What would your advice be? Let us know your thoughts using #DIFTKpodcast on Twitter and Instagram, and join in the conversation via the DIFTK Community on Facebook.
•••
This episode is supported by Penfold.
The flexible pension for freelance parents. Penfold provides freelancers with an online pension that’s simple to use and completely flexible.
Sign up with the code DIFTK and get a £25 bonus into your pension pot. Penfold are also offering up to a £1,000 top up on pension transfers until the 31st of March 2021, so you can earn more from your old pension pots!
Penfold is regulated by the FCA. When you put money in a pension, it’s an investment, and like all investments, your capital is at risk. Check for benefits before transferring.
Go to www.getpenfold.com/diftk
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Frankie Tortora's website
Steve Folland's website
Steve's podcast - Being Freelance
Doing It For The Kids website
DIFTK Facebook Community
DIFTK Instagram
DIFTK Twitter
Previous Episode
When you're not sure about a new opportunity
This week Frankie Tortora and Steve Folland have a chat in response to a question from coach, leader and feminist Lisa Townsend. She says:
“I need some help to work out which opportunities are for me and which to say no to!
An opportunity to collaborate comes my way for example and my mind automatically lists off all the negatives/worst case scenarios. I've been wondering lately if that’s just the fear of feeling like I've potentially got someone else to answer to (which is why I left employment) or whether the opportunity just isn’t right.
How can you make a best guess about a new opportunity, without having any prior experience to relate to?"
What would your advice be? Let us know your thoughts using #DIFTKpodcast on Twitter and Instagram, and join in the conversation via the DIFTK Community on Facebook.
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This episode is supported by Penfold.
The flexible pension for freelance parents. Penfold provides freelancers with an online pension that’s simple to use and completely flexible.
Sign up with the code DIFTK and get a £25 bonus into your pension pot. Penfold are also offering up to a £1,000 top up on pension transfers until the 31st of March 2021, so you can earn more from your old pension pots!
Penfold is regulated by the FCA. When you put money in a pension, it’s an investment, and like all investments, your capital is at risk. Check for benefits before transferring.
Go to www.getpenfold.com/diftk
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Lisa Townsend's website
Frankie Tortora's website
Steve Folland's website
Steve's podcast - Being Freelance
Doing It For The Kids website
DIFTK Facebook Community
DIFTK Instagram
DIFTK Twitter
Next Episode
Finding your 'thing'
This week Frankie Tortora and Steve Folland have a chat in response to a question from Detective Tom Snow, aka Anonymous. They say:
“Hi Frankie and Steve,
My partner is a very creative person, but is currently doing an employed job that helps others in creative education, but is bogged down with institutional admin, company politics, meetings etc. It doesn't allow her to be creative herself.
I'd like to encourage her to take the leap to become self employed and find the thing she loves doing. Finding 'the thing' is the hard part — how do you turn your love of creating and making into a money earner? How do you find what your passion might be on the one hand, and also think about how it will bring in money on the other?
Thanks a lot, Tom"
What would your advice be? Let us know your thoughts using #DIFTKpodcast on Twitter and Instagram, and join in the conversation via the DIFTK Community on Facebook.
•••
This episode is supported by Penfold.
The flexible pension for freelance parents. Penfold provides freelancers with an online pension that’s simple to use and completely flexible.
Sign up with the code DIFTK and get a £25 bonus into your pension pot. Penfold are also offering up to a £1,000 top up on pension transfers until the 31st of March 2021, so you can earn more from your old pension pots!
Penfold is regulated by the FCA. When you put money in a pension, it’s an investment, and like all investments, your capital is at risk. Check for benefits before transferring.
Go to www.getpenfold.com/diftk
•••
Frankie Tortora's website
Steve Folland's website
Steve's podcast - Being Freelance
Doing It For The Kids website
DIFTK Facebook Community
DIFTK Instagram
DIFTK Twitter
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