163 Lara has a Vulnerability Hangover

04/20/21 • 14 min

Difficult Happens; Effective Communication for Bosses

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” -- Brené Brown

Opening our true selves and exposing our thoughts, dreams, and shames can be a frightening experience.

Trading our comfort for courage and opening ourselves up to public judgement often leads us to a Vulnerability Hangover.

The Vulnerability Hangover was coined by Brene Brown to describe the feelings that wash over us after sharing publicly and stem from shame and vulnerability.

We subconsciously and continually seek out acceptance, reverting to our primal selves where group survival was critical. That's why showing our vulnerable, true selves can be so frightening.

In my TED-style talk with Speaking Your Brand's Thought Leadership Summit, Echos of a free-range childhood, I shared a vulnerable story about a traumatic time in my life and how I reclaimed my power, afterwards, emotions washed over me and led to a Vulnerability Hangover.

Here’s how I worked through it, and how you can too.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

What is vulnerability?
The Vulnerability Hangover
The courage of being vulnerable
Echos of a free-range childhood
The cathartic feeling of being vulnerable
How to deal with a Vulnerability Hangover
Empowerment Pillar Four, Refresh

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 162 - Refresh with Dysfunctional Affirmations:

https://difficulthappens.com/162/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad:

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

Subscribe - 10 Tips on how to deal with difficult people and sticky situations:

https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/

Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand:

https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

Brene Brown:

https://brenebrown.com/

Brene Brown: Listening to Shame:

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music

Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” -- Brené Brown

Opening our true selves and exposing our thoughts, dreams, and shames can be a frightening experience.

Trading our comfort for courage and opening ourselves up to public judgement often leads us to a Vulnerability Hangover.

The Vulnerability Hangover was coined by Brene Brown to describe the feelings that wash over us after sharing publicly and stem from shame and vulnerability.

We subconsciously and continually seek out acceptance, reverting to our primal selves where group survival was critical. That's why showing our vulnerable, true selves can be so frightening.

Here’s how I worked through it, and how you can too.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

What is vulnerability?
The Vulnerability Hangover
The courage of being vulnerable
Echos of a free-range childhood
The cathartic feeling of being vulnerable
How to deal with a Vulnerability Hangover
Empowerment Pillar Four, Refresh

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 162 - Refresh with Dysfunctional Affirmations:

https://difficulthappens.com/162/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad:

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

Subscribe - 10 Tips on how to deal with difficult people and sticky situations:

https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/

Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand:

https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

Brene Brown:

https://brenebrown.com/

Brene Brown: Listening to Shame:

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music

Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Previous Episode

162 Refresh with Dysfunctional Affirmations

Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see those little affirmation posts? What’s your first reaction? Have you tried them and found that they don't really work for you?

You're not alone.

Affirmations for self-care, love affirmations, black women empowerment affirmations, etc., are some of the most popular "affirmation for" searches on Google.

Why don't you see affirmations for dysfunctional people? Dysfunctional affirmations are for those whose first reaction to seeing motivational quotes is to roll their eyes (figuratively or literally) more often than not, it’s because you were raised in dysfunction.

This is where pillar four of the Empowerment Pillar Model comes in; Refresh.

Refresh your body, mind, and sense of self. Anyone who has experienced some ‘ish, dealt with a manipulator or breathed air, needs time to repair because your body keeps the score of every emotion you feel.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

What are affirmations
What refresh means
Self-care
Toxic positivity
What refreshing involves
Three dysfunctional affirmations

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue:

https://difficulthappens.com/159/

Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do:

https://difficulthappens.com/160-2/

Podcast 161 - Restore - Essential Boundaries For Bosses

https://difficulthappens.com/161-2/

Podcast 139 - When Positivity is Toxic

https://difficulthappens.com/139-2/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand

https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

Next Episode

164 Drama in the workplace with Patti Perez part 1

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?” -- Shannon L. Alder

Summary:

Drama in the workplace is inevitable.

Sometimes situations don't seem fair. How many times have you seen or know of someone who received a promotion or a raise at work and can't help but wonder why? What about being rejected for a position because you didn't fit their "workplace culture"?

Patti Perez from Persuasion Point Inc and the Drama Free Workplace Podcast joins us for this first, two-part podcast discussing her experience with workplace drama. Patti has conducted over 1200 workplace investigations over the last 20 years, giving us insight into workplace drama, patterns and themes, and workplace culture.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: