162 Refresh with Dysfunctional Affirmations

04/13/21 • 17 min

Difficult Happens; Effective Communication for Bosses

Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see those little affirmation posts? What’s your first reaction? Have you tried them and found that they don't really work for you?

You're not alone.

Affirmations for self-care, love affirmations, black women empowerment affirmations, etc., are some of the most popular "affirmation for" searches on Google.

Why don't you see affirmations for dysfunctional people? Dysfunctional affirmations are for those whose first reaction to seeing motivational quotes is to roll their eyes (figuratively or literally) more often than not, it’s because you were raised in dysfunction.

This is where pillar four of the Empowerment Pillar Model comes in; Refresh.

Refresh your body, mind, and sense of self. Anyone who has experienced some ‘ish, dealt with a manipulator or breathed air, needs time to repair because your body keeps the score of every emotion you feel.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

What are affirmations
What refresh means
Self-care
Toxic positivity
What refreshing involves
Three dysfunctional affirmations

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue:

https://difficulthappens.com/159/

Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do:

https://difficulthappens.com/160-2/

Podcast 161 - Restore - Essential Boundaries For Bosses

https://difficulthappens.com/161-2/

Podcast 139 - When Positivity is Toxic

https://difficulthappens.com/139-2/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand

https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see those little affirmation posts? What’s your first reaction? Have you tried them and found that they don't really work for you?

You're not alone.

Affirmations for self-care, love affirmations, black women empowerment affirmations, etc., are some of the most popular "affirmation for" searches on Google.

This is where pillar four of the Empowerment Pillar Model comes in; Refresh.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

What are affirmations
What refresh means
Self-care
Toxic positivity
What refreshing involves
Three dysfunctional affirmations

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue:

https://difficulthappens.com/159/

Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do:

https://difficulthappens.com/160-2/

Podcast 161 - Restore - Essential Boundaries For Bosses

https://difficulthappens.com/161-2/

Podcast 139 - When Positivity is Toxic

https://difficulthappens.com/139-2/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

Carol Cox - Speaking Your Brand

https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/

Previous Episode

161 Restore - Essential Boundaries for Bosses

“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.”

-- Doreen Virtue

Do you ever feel like you’re being taken advantage of? A coworker, boss, or even a friend asks more and more of you. It could be anything from your time, work product, or even your attention that they seek and when you tell them no, they keep pushing. You don’t really want to, but you feel pressured, and you say yes anyway because you don’t want to be rude.

This is a classic manipulation technique where manipulators will slowly chip away at your boundaries overtime to get the attention they need from you.

This is where the third step of my Pillar of Empowerment framework comes in; Restore.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

The Empowered Pillar Model
What boundaries are
The four main types of boundaries
The four different boundary levels
Micro-boundaries
Signs of weak boundaries
How guilt plays into boundary breaches
Emotional vampires

Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group “Community Happens Group”

Work with Lara:

Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!

Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation

Got a Question? Comment? Email [email protected]

Corporate Training

Difficult Happens by Lara Currie

Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/

Podcast 159 - Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue:

https://difficulthappens.com/159/

Podcast 160 - Reclaim Your Power; Breaking Up Is Hard To Do:

https://difficulthappens.com/160/

Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Series on Conflict Personality-Types

Difficult Happens Squad

https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/

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Next Episode

163 Lara has a Vulnerability Hangover

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” -- Brené Brown

Opening our true selves and exposing our thoughts, dreams, and shames can be a frightening experience.

Trading our comfort for courage and opening ourselves up to public judgement often leads us to a Vulnerability Hangover.

The Vulnerability Hangover was coined by Brene Brown to describe the feelings that wash over us after sharing publicly and stem from shame and vulnerability.

We subconsciously and continually seek out acceptance, reverting to our primal selves where group survival was critical. That's why showing our vulnerable, true selves can be so frightening.

In my TED-style talk with Speaking Your Brand's Thought Leadership Summit, Echos of a free-range childhood, I shared a vulnerable story about a traumatic time in my life and how I reclaimed my power, afterwards, emotions washed over me and led to a Vulnerability Hangover.

Here’s how I worked through it, and how you can too.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode: