
Episode 8 - When You're Done Having Babies
08/01/20 • 70 min
Making the decision to officially not have any more children is not always an easy one. There are so many factors that contribute to this decision; such as financial circumstances, the number of children you already have, lifestyle choices, and so much more. Each family has their own unique set of elements to consider when arriving to this decision.
Of course, the decision to not have any more children should be made between yourself and your partner only. It should be a private and intimate decision; however, this is not always the case. Many times you will find yourself with many external voices telling you how many children you should have, how you should have just one more, or how you should even have another in hopes you have children of male AND female gender (as if this is even something you can actually pick), and on and on. But those in our lives with those strong opinions are not the ones actually raising YOUR children, so how do you shut them out? Whether it is your mother or the neighbour down the street, someone will always have something to say about your body and your choices, so in this episode we discuss how challenging this can be. You're not alone.
During this episode, I also included a segment en español at the very end. I recognize that it is a factor of our Latin American culture to have those strong opinions always happy to provide their two cents. Pero si esas voces no son las que van a criar a nuestros hijxs, entonces porque no mejor se quedan calladas? Si solo fuera tan facil! Aunque estas opiniones sobre el tema de si tener un bebe mas o no son "normal" en nuestra cultura, no se ignifica que las tenemos que aceptar. En este episodio hablamos de formas como tratar de silenciar a estas voces y enpoderarnos para vivir por si mismas (o mismos). Para escuchar el segmento en español, comienzen el episodio en 45:30.
Visit Vida With Christie for more content. Also, connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Making the decision to officially not have any more children is not always an easy one. There are so many factors that contribute to this decision; such as financial circumstances, the number of children you already have, lifestyle choices, and so much more. Each family has their own unique set of elements to consider when arriving to this decision.
Of course, the decision to not have any more children should be made between yourself and your partner only. It should be a private and intimate decision; however, this is not always the case. Many times you will find yourself with many external voices telling you how many children you should have, how you should have just one more, or how you should even have another in hopes you have children of male AND female gender (as if this is even something you can actually pick), and on and on. But those in our lives with those strong opinions are not the ones actually raising YOUR children, so how do you shut them out? Whether it is your mother or the neighbour down the street, someone will always have something to say about your body and your choices, so in this episode we discuss how challenging this can be. You're not alone.
During this episode, I also included a segment en español at the very end. I recognize that it is a factor of our Latin American culture to have those strong opinions always happy to provide their two cents. Pero si esas voces no son las que van a criar a nuestros hijxs, entonces porque no mejor se quedan calladas? Si solo fuera tan facil! Aunque estas opiniones sobre el tema de si tener un bebe mas o no son "normal" en nuestra cultura, no se ignifica que las tenemos que aceptar. En este episodio hablamos de formas como tratar de silenciar a estas voces y enpoderarnos para vivir por si mismas (o mismos). Para escuchar el segmento en español, comienzen el episodio en 45:30.
Visit Vida With Christie for more content. Also, connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
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Episode 7 - Working Parents in a Pandemic
There is no doubt that parenting through the COVID-19 pandemic has been a struggle to each and every one of us. Working parents, in particular working mothers, have especially suffered a hard hit as our governments and other systematic powers determine what the best approach is while Coronavirus continues to hit us, physically, emotionally and mentally.
In this episode, I share with you my personal experience of the phases I have overcome, and am still overcoming, throughout this pandemic. Additionally, I also discuss the plans (or lack thereof) when it comes to our kids potentially going back to school in the fall and what this may look like for us working parents.
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Episode 9 - The Radical Self Love of a Mother
"To love yourself unconditionally in a space that is consistantly reminding you of "your flaws" is radical." -- Christie Lazo
Many of us struggle with doubts, insecurities, guilt and so much more that keep us from living our potential to the fullest. In this episode, I discuss the ways that parents, mothers in particular, face challenges with loving themselves in the unconditional manner that they deserve. In addition, we explore how the act of truly loving yourself is radical and even political. How can we change these habits and feelings within ourselves? How can we influence our children to love themselves unconditionally when we are not quite sure how to do that ourselves? Tune in to this episode as we break down these two questions and many more.
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