100. Raising Worry-Free Girls (with Sissy Goff)

10/27/20 • 32 min

If you or someone you love -- especially your kids -- struggle with anxiety or worry, you do not want to miss this episode of The Crystal Paine Show. I'm joined by Sissy Goff, the author of Raising Worry-Free Girls.

In our conversation, Sissy talks about how to spot signs of anxiety in our kids, how our approach can help or hurt our kids, what to do if your child is struggling with perfectionistic tendencies or stressing over grades, why anger and frustration in our kids can be a sign of anxiety, and practical tools and steps to help your child break free from incessant anxiety.

This episode is so actionable and important -- especially right now! Don't miss it!

In This Episode:

[00:33] Welcome to our 100th episode and welcome Sissy Goff.

[02:09] Learn more about Sissy and her background.

[03:12] Why did she choose to focus solely on girls versus kids in general?

[04:56] How our anxiety can impact our kids.

[07:24] Why perfectionism is one cause of anxiety and how to address it.

[08:58] How can parents navigate the internal criticism that perfectionist girls tend to live with?

[11:25] Is there a way to help perfectionistic children to branch out and try new things?

[13:17] Ways that you can recognize anxiety versus normal behavior.

[18:42] What to do once you recognize that your child is suffering from anxiety.

[22:45] Don’t forget to name the worry to remove the fear associated with the voice in their head.

[25:51] It’s so important to do preventative breathing.

[27:39] Why you need to let your kids go through the experiences and not save them.

[31:15] Go out and grab a copy of Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff, these tactics work with boys as well!

Links and Resources:

Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff
Raising Boys and Girls
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My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
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This episode is so actionable and important -- especially right now! Don't miss it!

In This Episode:

[00:33] Welcome to our 100th episode and welcome Sissy Goff.

[02:09] Learn more about Sissy and her background.

[03:12] Why did she choose to focus solely on girls versus kids in general?

[04:56] How our anxiety can impact our kids.

[07:24] Why perfectionism is one cause of anxiety and how to address it.

[08:58] How can parents navigate the internal criticism that perfectionist girls tend to live with?

[11:25] Is there a way to help perfectionistic children to branch out and try new things?

[13:17] Ways that you can recognize anxiety versus normal behavior.

[18:42] What to do once you recognize that your child is suffering from anxiety.

[22:45] Don’t forget to name the worry to remove the fear associated with the voice in their head.

[25:51] It’s so important to do preventative breathing.

[27:39] Why you need to let your kids go through the experiences and not save them.

[31:15] Go out and grab a copy of Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff, these tactics work with boys as well!

Links and Resources:

Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff
Raising Boys and Girls
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

Previous Episode

99. Answering Your Burning Questions

It’s been a while since we’ve answered your burning questions and this is one of your favorite types of episodes! So Jesse and I had fun answering another batch of questions you all have submitted recently.

In this episode, we talk about how old we are, how long Champ will be with us, what to do if you want to have kids and your spouse doesn't, when we start talking about the birds and the bees with our kids and how we approach it, how school is going for our kids, plans for international travel, saving for our kids' college tuition, how we got involved in youth group ministry at our church, and our favorite part of having big kids.

In This Episode:

[00:36] Welcome back and welcome Autumn. I recently read a holiday-themed novel -- A Very Bavarian Christmas!

[02:01] Oatmeal and milk (turned into no-bake cookies) are saving my life these days.

[04:37] We are answering some burning questions today!

[06:06] Jesse is now the big 4-0. SO much older that Crystal. ;)

[06:47] We’re sharing how much longer we think may have Champ.

[09:38] How do you proceed when you’re ready for kids but your spouse isn’t?

[14:56] What age is appropriate for the birds and the bees talk with your kids?

[19:59] Any plans to travel internationally?

[21:56] Are we saving for the kid’s college tuition?

[25:44] What is our favorite part of having “big” kids?

[26:47] How is school going this year?

[28:27] How we got involved in the youth group ministry at our church.

Links and Resources:

A Very Bavarian Christmas by Katie M. Reid
No-Bake Cookies
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

Next Episode

101. Honest Confessions of a Control Freak

Jesse and I have both struggled with being what you could call "control freaks" in our life. I like to have a plan and I like other people to go along with my plan. Jesse's control shows up more in wanting to be able to control decisions other people make or to make sure that everything is always okay with me and our kids -- and when it's not, he feels a lot of stress and like things are spinning out of control.

Fostering has been such a good exercise for us in learning to let go of our neat little plans. Since we don't make almost any of the decisions for him, we've just had to love him as our own on behalf of his mom while also keeping our hands open to whatever God has for him.

It has been easy, but it's been so good -- and it's taught us how much peace there is when we stop clenching our fists and trying to micromanage our lives and instead release our tight grip and trust God fully.

In this episode, we share lessons we are learning, what has helped us let go of our tightly wound control, and how loving on this little boy has completely changed our lives.

We also give some family updates, share about what's helping Jesse drink more water, my favorite eyebrow definer, and two books we've been reading.

In This Episode:

[01:01] Champ recently received hearing aids and it has been an adventure.

[03:58] We are so excited about our Gatlinburg weekend trip and why we voted early.

[06:19] I have a quick update on the No Bake cookies we were talking about several weeks ago.

[07:02] Water and his half-gallon water bottle are saving Jesse’s life.

[11:01] Maybelline Total Temptations Eyebrow Definer is saving my life.

[13:31] Jesse is back to reading his most recent Brad Thor book, Near Dark.

[14:50] I’ve been reading Dare to Lead by Brene Brown.

[17:30] We’re chatting all about being control freaks and what we've been learning.

[20:40] How our experiences as foster parents have shown us our need to release control.

[24:55] Lessons we're learning about control as parents -- and in other areas of our lives.

[27:40] What stress and fear tell me about resting in the Lord.

Links and Resources:

Maybelline Total Temptations Eyebrow Definer
Near Dark by Brad Thor
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
No-Bake Cookies
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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