10 Lessons from 10 Years of Parenthood
10/11/21 • 12 min
“The best measure of your parenting is your child’s happiness.”
— Allison Villa
Have you ever stopped to think about what lessons you have learned in parenthood?
Recently, I’ve celebrated a huge milestone in my life; 10 years of motherhood.
In today’s episode of Couplehood, I took some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in my 10 years of parenting and what I would tell myself 10 years ago when I began my motherhood journey.
As you listen, I encourage you to reflect on your own parenting journey and write down the lessons that you’ve learned along the way.
I find it helpful to find compassion for my younger self, as a new mother, and I hope that you share that grace with yourself as well.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
- What the true measure of your parenting is
- How your childhood plays a role in your children’s childhood
- What to do when you make a mistake as a parent
- How important your relationships with your partner and your friends are in your parenthood journey
“Our children are our mirrors and they reflect our own inner-child wounds that may still need healing. Let your children be your guide to keep going inwards and understanding yourself.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
01:36 You can’t get an A in parenting
02:57 Repair ruptures
03:50 Make time for yourself
04:38 Grief and growth
05:10 Make your own choices
05:55 Your children’s childhood is their’s
07:46 Prioritize your couple
08:40 Friendships will change
09:30 Vacation
10:54 Change direction
Links:
Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season?
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“The best measure of your parenting is your child’s happiness.”
— Allison Villa
Have you ever stopped to think about what lessons you have learned in parenthood?
Recently, I’ve celebrated a huge milestone in my life; 10 years of motherhood.
In today’s episode of Couplehood, I took some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in my 10 years of parenting and what I would tell myself 10 years ago when I began my motherhood journey.
As you listen, I encourage you to reflect on your own parenting journey and write down the lessons that you’ve learned along the way.
I find it helpful to find compassion for my younger self, as a new mother, and I hope that you share that grace with yourself as well.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
- What the true measure of your parenting is
- How your childhood plays a role in your children’s childhood
- What to do when you make a mistake as a parent
- How important your relationships with your partner and your friends are in your parenthood journey
“Our children are our mirrors and they reflect our own inner-child wounds that may still need healing. Let your children be your guide to keep going inwards and understanding yourself.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
01:36 You can’t get an A in parenting
02:57 Repair ruptures
03:50 Make time for yourself
04:38 Grief and growth
05:10 Make your own choices
05:55 Your children’s childhood is their’s
07:46 Prioritize your couple
08:40 Friendships will change
09:30 Vacation
10:54 Change direction
Links:
Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season?
Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!
Previous Episode
Baby Shower vs. Blessing Way
“A Blessing Way is traditionally when multi-generations come together to celebrate & support the mother-to-be before baby’s arrival.”
— Allison Villa
Today’s episode of the Couplehood podcast is for those of you that are expecting, or have someone in your life that’s expecting. We’re going to cover the difference between a Baby Shower and a Blessing Way.
If you’ve never heard of a Blessing Way - don’t worry - I’m going to fill you in!
I recently hosted a Blessing Way that had a unique twist from the traditional ceremony. This one celebrated both the mother and father-to-be - such a beautiful way to honour and support their couple as they transition into parenthood. A great reminder that you can design a Baby Shower or Blessing Way, in whatever way is right for you, your family, and your community.
In this episode, I provide you with some ideas that you can use in planning your own Blessing Way, and simple touches to personalize it to your needs.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
- What is a Blessing Way
- Ideas & details about the ceremony
- How you can host your own
“In the circle, you are accessing your heritage and the generations that live within you.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:23 The Couplehood Podcast
01:10 What is a baby shower?
02:27 What is a blessing way?
05:17 Ideas for your blessing way
07:10 Guests
09:30 Affirming words
10:00 Lighting candles
12:47 Recap
Links:
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Next Episode
Simple Ways To Show Love Every Day
“The day to day moments are just as meaningful as the date nights you have.”
— Allison Villa
How do we show love every day, when family life is so full-on?
I get this question a lot.
This is why I created the Love.Every.Day. series every Tuesday on Instagram...and now, also on the podcast!
Love.Every.Day tips are simple yet powerful ways to show your love to each other.
If you’ve been around for a while, you’ll know how much I advocate showing your kids what a loving relationship looks like, because how you love each other today lives on for generations.
Let’s continue to build an army of parents who are creating honest + sustainable relationships.
These tips are a gentle reminder that on those busy family days, it’s still possible to show your kids what love looks like in action.
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
- How Love.Every.Day. impacts your kids
- Why showing your love everyday is so important
- Some tips to help you get started showing and receiving Love.Every.Day.
“Children want to feel purposeful and they like having a sense of responsibility, like they are part of the team. So let them.
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:38 Setting an example of love
01:40 Get some sleep
03:00 Be playful
04:03 Create a centerpiece
05:30 Play games
06:28 Meal plan together!
09:40 Recap
Links:
Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season?
https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f984bffa2c7af0014e9a0b7
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