How to Clear the Stress of Asking

No stress, just being clear on what you want and asking for it.

Sounds simple, eh?

This episode walks you through how easy it can actually be.

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Mentioned in this episode:

• Heather McGregor, Soul Life Laser Coach, www.naturallypresent.com/
• Heather's FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/naturallypresentnetwork

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Transcript:

Clarity of messaging is so important. And that sounds kind of formal, a bit intimidating maybe, but honestly I don’t mean it to be. When you boil it down, it’s about knowing what you want or need and being able to simply say it.

So while I normally get all PR-ish and strategic when I talk about messaging and the like, today I want to reframe it and have a look at knowing what you want and need, and asking for it. Clearly and simply.

INTRO

Now, in addition to me usually being very clinical - straightforward and I have had someone comment on my use of statistics, I like evidence based stuff, what can I say? This episode is coming from the gut, I promise not to throw numbers at you or reference any studies. Are you feeling relieved?

I feel like oftentimes we are kind of free floating through life, you know? Like, you know you have to make sales to get money to pay your bills and buy a coffee Saturday morning when you go out for a walk. You know you need to post on social media and have something for sale, and talk about it, entice people in. You probably know you have to forge some partnerships, make some connections, collaborate in order to grow but it kinda just stays there in your mind. You know these things are good things but knowing and doing don’t always meet up. And without the doing, you don’t receive.

So how do you fix that?

The starting point for me is the purpose or intention, the need or the want. You can’t go off doing things without a reason, otherwise you’re wasting time and energy. I hate to nail myself down to something like I need to make $500 from this product by the end of the week, that creates pressure and stress; it comes from a place of lack which is never a great place to be, but it’s important to be clear in your mind on what you want so try: I’m paying that bill before it’s due or I’m getting a new client this week. Or it could be as simple as I’m starting a business that helps these particular people with this particular challenge.

That doesn’t feel too scary, does it? Not a ton of pressure on yourself in any of those intentions, right? And note the language is all present tense, it is happening. That also feels nicer because it’s like a foregone conclusion.

So what is it that you intend to accomplish? It might not even be an action, it might be a feeling or desire that you want to imprint on othe...