Big Sexy Chat Podcast

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and your community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].
You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod
Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)
Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

This is our very first interview with a guest. We had a great time chatting with the creator of the Adipostivity Project, Substantia Jones.
We had a few sound issues, but thanks to our fabulous editor, it sounds great. Thank you, Asherlee. We appreciate you.
If you would like to be photographed for the Adipositivity Project, you can email Substantia at adipositivity @ gmail.com - No fat shamers, assholes, or jerks, please.
Substantia also shared a few fun stories about awkward sex stories, fabulous sex toys, and some of her amazing exotic locations from past photoshoots.
If you struggle with loving your fat body, fill your feed on IG and FB with other fat people.
If you are like us and you LOVE and APPRECIATE all of Substantia's work to make fat people of all gender expressions, donate to her Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/adipositivity
Email us if you have any questions or want to share with us. [email protected]

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and your community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].
You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod
Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)
Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

Bonus Episode: Merf interviews Tigress and me about our 2 Fat Hysterectomies
Bonus Episode: Heavy Duty Hysterectomies

Welcome Tigress Osborn

Creator of Full Figure Entertainment in Oakland, CA Tigress now lives in Arizona.

Fat Visibility and Fat Activism since 2008: If you are a fat person and enjoy some type of fat freedom fatties did not have before 2008, it’s likely Tigress had her hand in it. (Along with a lot of other fabulous, loud, no shit style fat activists. Thank you Tigress and to the other 60 years worth of activists that have all been working hard for all of us.

Content Warning: Numbers mentioned. There is lots of discussion of blood and clots, because, well. It comes with the territory. This is not a SEXY episode, but we feel like it’s an important story to tell. We are two fat women in our 40’s (TO) and 50’s (CB)

We try our best to NOT use gendered language while discussing uteruses and hysterectomies. We are being mindful of our non-binary friends, two-spirit listeners, and trans friends. But, we do slip up or if you notice we slip up, please accept our apologies. (CB and Merf)

4:27 Merf defines and describes the various types of hysterectomies. (CB : I had a radical style which meant everything was removed, including my cervix.) I had 2 days to decide if I wanted mine. Tigress has a longer experience of dealing with her medical problems around getting her

Hysterectomy.

Myths and Misconceptions about Hysterectomies. Some of the things we grow up hearing about women who have hysterectomies - we dry up, our vaginas are no longer “good” or useful.

Tigress brings up the tender feeling around going to the “women’s health” departments where there are lots and lots pics of babies and moms and like everything to do with women’s reproductive issues are such a fun, good time! NOT. And, not for everyone. Including, sometimes, not for Tigress. Having a hysterectomy gives you a lot to examine - and one of the big ones is that you never have the opportunity to have your own children.

7 minutes Tigress goes into her hysterectomy story. She started having a cycle at 11. (The same week she went to the “special talk” in grade school - Free To Be You And Me.) 10 minutes in we discuss some pretty gory stuff around all of the blood clots we have all dealt with. Clots that remind us of animal organs and aliens running down our legs.

Perimenopause is 10 years LONG and maybe a little less and maybe a little more.

Tigress had some fibroids, an ablation, adhesions, PCOS, and possibly endometriosis. Same with Merf. Merf is currently dealing with PCOS, endo, and really want to have a hysterectomy, but is getting push back from her drs.
RESOURCES: Tigress and I both got a lot of support from Caring for our Fat Bodies on Facebook.

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and your community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].
You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod
Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)
Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

Big Sexy Chat Podcast: Episode 5 we spend a lot of time talking about foreplay and our favorite lubricants. We discuss lubes for handies, piv, and best lube for anal sex.
Merf tells us how much she is loving Lizzo's new reality show - and how their reality show formula is about building each other up and not tearing each other down. How refreshing. The show is called "Let's Hear It For the Big Grrrls."
Personally, I am loving the show, too. I am 3 episodes in so far. And, I have seen a lot of people commenting on her show on FB and IG and so far I have not seen one negative review.
We also discuss Lizzo's upcoming product called Yitty and it looks to be a collaboration between her and Fablestics and she is making sizes 6x to XS. She is making loungewear and something she is calling shapewear. Not really sure if it's designed to cinch you in or smooth you out. It officially drops on April 12th, so we will find out.
We had a listener write it o ask us what to do about a lover who is not good at foreplay and she wants to know how to broach the topic with him without hurting their feelings. We have quite a bit of good advice and ideas for everyone who listens.
I also talked about how much I loved the show "The Principles of Pleasure" on Netflix and how most of the people who were narrating seemed to be FAT BABES. (Not sure of their pronouns, so not guessing.) There was one more straight-sized person narrating, too. And, Emily Nagosek who writes fab books about pleasure for clitoris owners!
We both wish all high school kids could be forced to watch this since it teaches PLEASURE and not just your typical SAFE SEX, DO NOT GET AN STD, DO NOT GET PREGNANT ridiculous education we get about sex in high school.
Our next episode we are interviewing a friend of mine who is a professional Dominatrix, so if you have any questions for her, send them to [email protected]
Be sure to follow us on FB, IG or Twitter. We are BigSexyChat on FB and IG, but @bigsexychatpod on Twitter.
And, feel free to email us to suggest other topics for our fat podcast!

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and your community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].
You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod
Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)
Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

Profanity Warning! I drop a lot of F BOMBS because I am fed up with diet culture and the diet industry and how they work so hard to make us feel shitty about our bodies. Also, we do get into a discussion about Anorexia and how Fat Babes can also have Anorexia, so content warning about Eating Disorders.
We discuss body shame, shame about sex or feeling horny, shame about sex toys, shame about our ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING. We hope this podcast helps you to overcome your own fat shame.
We decided that we really needed to address the Buffalo and Uvalde (and other) massacres to hold space and we discuss how sad and made we have both been. Merf shares with us how important self-care is when the FUCKING WORLD IS ON FIRE!
As always, Merf and I are pretty clear about how disgusted we are by the diet industry and this is a theme that runs through all of our episodes. We are both diet industry dropouts and we are unapologetically fat. We are sex-positive, fat positive, sex work positive, anti-racist, and Black Lives Matter. We are PRO responsible gun ownership (and NO ONE needs to own an a.r. unless you are in the military) and so disgusted by how many children are murdered in our country by guns the murderer bought just hours before they go on their rampages.
A friend of the show sent in a question about DATING WHILE FAT and how she often cancels dates right before they meet because she is anxious about the other person not approving of her body. She feels like she might be catfishing them, so she just doesn't show up.
Merf and I share some tactics we have used to STOP apologizing for our bodies. I share a dating story about how I put it ALL OUT THERE on my dating profile along with my least favorite pics so my date would be happily surprised when I arrived. I also talk about what I say about SEX in my dating profile. (This was when my sweetie and I had a re-boot.)
Merf has P.C.O.S. and she talks about her shame and guilt with her facial hair. Merf also shares how her anorexia screwed up her body permanently. It impacted her height (she should have been taller) and it also impacted her breast size. According to her doctors, she should have had larger cups.)
We also talked about some femmes that rock their beards and I want to link to them here. These babes have hirsutism and some due to P.C.O.S.
In the beginning, Merf also shares a book by Malcolm Gladwell she highly recommends. The book is called "Talking To Strangers" and Merf talks about it in the discussion and shares with us all about the theory and how it related to our country's obsession with guns. Malcolm's theory is called the "coupling theory." More info about coupling theory here.

We have a couple

BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and your community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at [email protected].
You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.
Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPod
Check out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)
Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!