The Porn Identity : Fat Porn Stars? Oh, yah!

05/07/22 • 60 min

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Merf and I have a very necessary discussion about the pitiful showing of pron that includes fat babes that are NOT dehumanizing.
Fortunately, some people are making it!
In the intro, we discuss how DISGUSTING the "don't say gay" bill that was put forth by the bigot and asshole Governor DeSantis in Florida. Here is info from the AP about this bigoted antiquated bill : AP Article
I brought this topic up because that is ironic and hilarious how you have to say the word "Gay" every time you talk about the bill or write about bill, which means we are constantly saying GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY you idiot. Desantis is the new tRump. BARF!
We also discuss again how SEX WORK IS REAL WORK and Merf and I strongly believe this. We are both sex work positive, sex-positive, and fat sex evangelists! We interviewed my friend and pro dominatrix Mistress J and here is the link to episode 6:
https://www.bigsexychat.com/interview-with-a-curvaceous-dominatrix/
Our next interview-style episode is coming up. Episode 8 we will be joined by our friend Ru and she is going to educate all of us about Polyamory and the 100's of things we all get wrong about polyamory. Excited to hear all about it and be educated and entertained by Ru. She is always provocative, full of sass, and so smart. You will love her way of turning a phrase. She is hilarious.
For Current Events, we discuss Gia Casey from The Breakfast Club podcast and radio show where she admitted to faking orgasms for 21 years with her husband DJ Envy! SHAKING MY HEAD. When you take an orgasm, you are setting yourself up for a lot of future disappointment. (Not to mention that if you want to have a fabulous relationship, it's a good idea to not put them down in public. Save that stuff for private discussions. Your relationship will be much more enjoyable if you do not ever tear each down, but especially not in public or ON A PODCAST
HOT TOPIC:
We discuss the word "BBW" which seems to be pretty much only used in the porn industry now.
Merf does explain the types of porn one can enjoy. She also shared some amazing resources with us and fat-positive porn producers.
Fat Porn Resources and Twitter Handles Below:
@shapeofbeautyx
www.shapeofbeauty.com
@angelawhite
@thebreemills
@courtneytrouble
@karlaxxxlane
Weight of Infidelity: https://www.puretaboo.com/en/video/puretaboo/The-Weight-of-Infidelity/131413

We had a listener question about Role Playing and we have lots of fun ideas for our listeners and I admit my favorite fantasy for roleplaying!
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Interview With A Curvaceous Dominatrix

**Content Warning**
Please note at the [44:00] minute mark, dieting and bodybuilding are briefly discussed. If these topics are a trigger for you, please take care of yourself and skip ahead to the minute mark [48:00].
http://www.MistressJStudios.com
Our podcast website is http://www.BigSexyChat.com where you can find our other podcasts.
My sex toy website is http://www.BlissConnection.com
In this episode, Merf and I interview my friend Mistress J about her career as a professional dominatrix.
We had so many questions for Mistress J.
Mistress J also tells us a bit of background on Bondassage.com and Elysium as taught to her by the creator and amazing human, Ms. Jaeleen Bennis.
We asked her about the following:
Do clients ever just want to cuddle?
What kinds of kinks and fetishes do your clients have.
What type of session with your clients are your favorite?
Why do people have a foot fetish or a tickle fetish?
How long are your typical sessions?
Do your clients sometimes want to talk instead of play?
Are you dominant in your personal life? Have you always been
more on the dom side?
How did you get started in this industry?
What kinds of toys and gear to you have for your submissives?
This was such a fantastic interview. If you ever wanted to learn more
about what actually happens in a session with a professional dominatrix,
this is the perfect episode to tune in to.
Merf, Mistress J, and I all agree that Sex Work is REAL WORK and that, personally,
I feel that sex work should be legalized and normalized. It's been around since the beginning
of time and it's not going anywhere. Let's make sure our sex workers are receiving
benefits like health insurance, disability, and social security benefits.
We hope you enjoy our chat. It was a blast to chat with Mistress J.

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Soul-mate; Not Sole Mate. Polyamory 101: Sydney #Fat_Troublemaker

Polyamory is our topic for this episode and we were so delighted to have Sydney on our podcast to help dispel Polyamory Myths.
Sydney LIVES the polyamorous life. She has a husband she nests with. She has a wife who is her bestie and she is married to her, but they do not have sex. And, she has two male partners in her polycule. And, they all practice radical honesty - which is the key to almost all relationships. And, radical honesty is REQUIRED if you are polyamorous. She very clearly describes it and shares with us how she LIVES this life.
Some of you may remember Sydney from a Curvy Girl fashion show a few years back where she dressed as a bride. FABULOUS! She was a show-stopper.
We had about 10 to 15 questions from listeners and friends and we went through the whole list of questions and asked her a few others.
We had a discussion about compersion and jealousy and she shares her theories about jealousy and compersion.
We discussed the fact that poly people come in all ages, all sizes, all skin colors. (Although Sydney would like to see more Black representation in the poly world soon, but we will get into that next time we interview Sydney and discuss Polyamoury 201.
DO NOT UNICORN HUNT is very firm advice Sydney strongly believes can be damaging to the unicorn and cause some trauma. Be honest. Are you a swinger or poly? Be honest with yourself and your future partners.
We discuss if people who are poly are kinky or not.
Resources from Sydney:
1. More Than Two Author: Veaux, Franklin, Rickert, Eve
2. PoleSecure Author: Jessica Fern
3. Love is Not Color Blind: Ruby Bouie Johnson
4. Sydney also recommends a podcast and blog called Polyphia.blog.
Happy Polydays with Leanne Yau
Merf, Sydney, and I are very married to the idea that none of us are in any place
to judge how people live their lives. NO JUDGEMENT. If Polyamory is not for you,
just move along.
Polyamory requires ALOT of talking and communication. NO LIES. Radical honesty,
no deception, no surprises.
We also discussed the meaning of metamour, fluid bonded, polycule, processing, kitchen table polyamory, and so much more.
Merf also recommended a book that is a recourse that discusses how poly relationships
have been around longer than most of us and in hundreds of cultures. I will get that title and add it here, soon.
Thanks a million to our guest Sydney for her time and expertise. Thanks to the best co-host, Merf and to our fabulous (and poly) editor, Asherlee.
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