
Meet Rachael Kelsey and Robert Gilmour of SKO Edinburgh
11/05/15 • -1 min
In this 'co-mediated' chat they explore just how flexible the CALM model of mediation is. What is the CALM model? It's really just how we describe the way our lawyer-mediators uniquely approach family mediation around Scotland. The flexibility talked about in this interview rests on how we can make sure you feel most comfortable in mediation, and therefore, how we can help make it work well for you. So Rachael and Robert describe how, if it will help you resolve YOUR dispute, your mediator can bring in another mediator, male or female depending on what would be best; or they could bring in the solicitors you and your ex-partner may have been instructing; or they might recommend third party non-legal specialists to help you build on what you've been working towards in mediation; or they might introduce something called shuttle, or 'caucus' mediation if spending some time apart from each other during sessions might help keep up a momentum towards sorting things out.
The advice at the end? Feel free to explore with your mediator what will work best for you in your situation.
In this 'co-mediated' chat they explore just how flexible the CALM model of mediation is. What is the CALM model? It's really just how we describe the way our lawyer-mediators uniquely approach family mediation around Scotland. The flexibility talked about in this interview rests on how we can make sure you feel most comfortable in mediation, and therefore, how we can help make it work well for you. So Rachael and Robert describe how, if it will help you resolve YOUR dispute, your mediator can bring in another mediator, male or female depending on what would be best; or they could bring in the solicitors you and your ex-partner may have been instructing; or they might recommend third party non-legal specialists to help you build on what you've been working towards in mediation; or they might introduce something called shuttle, or 'caucus' mediation if spending some time apart from each other during sessions might help keep up a momentum towards sorting things out.
The advice at the end? Feel free to explore with your mediator what will work best for you in your situation.
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Meet Ewan Malcolm
Meet Ewan Malcolm, Chief Executive of Relate London North West, in this wonderful interview about online mediation recorded via Skype. If you push to one side the slightly dodgy resolution in the audio, you'll have the opportunity of listening to the thoughts of a genuine guru and pioneer of mediation in Scotland and beyond. Ewan established the Scottish Mediation Network here before working in New York and England, but still plays a major part in training and accrediting mediators in Scotland.
Here he chats about online mediation, something being developed with more emphasis as time goes on and as the technology begins to improve and shape itself around the dreams of its creators, bringing dispute resolution, the chance to resolve differences in a civil, meaningful way, to more people than ever no matter their location or technological know-how.
He talks passionately about his part in developing guidelines to make sure those entering into online mediation feel safe and confident, and how he sees this amazing service develop in the next few years.
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Meet Susan Oswald of SKO Family Law Specialists, Edinburgh
Meet Susan Oswald of SKO Family Law Specialists, Edinburgh. In this wonderfully gentle interview, Susan talks about the types of situations, and the types of people, mediation can help. She tells us that if you are recently separated, have been separated for some time, even if you've been embroiled in court with your ex partner or spouse, mediation can help you grasp control of your future.
Susan considers how it might feel if you visit a family court lawyer, who asks questions he or she thinks relevant to your type of case in order to progress your interests, and she talks about how different mediation can be. For example, your mediator will recognise that your feelings can still be raw & that it's difficult to look past those feelings and far into the future to think carefully about how to shape your new life and that of your kids. In mediation, you might find that you are really listened, empowered to control the agenda at your own pace and discuss what's genuinely important to you and your kids, what is fair to you rather than what might SEEM fair because that's how a court would look at it objectively. She recognises that mediation is difficult, particularly when it comes to considering the balance of responsibility for couples and parents after separation, but that what you can end up with is a future that you have drawn up yourselves rather than imposed on you, and which therefore makes it easier to follow through with.
The message which comes through loud and clear from Susan is that court is something that happens TO you, that it can feel sometimes like an out of body experience where strangers are deciding the fate of you and your children, whereas mediation puts the control back firmly in your own hands. Why not give it a go and see what happens?...
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