How Can I Heal From Being Hurt by the Church?

07/07/23 • 26 min

In this episode, Robb examines why being hurt by the church is so painful; he discusses six specific ways in which we can be hurt by the church; and, he shares some practical steps to take to begin to heal from these wounds.
Jesus' instructions on what to do when we feel someone has sinned against us can be found in Matthew 18:15-17.

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How Can I Heal from the Wounds from my Father?

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In this episode, Robb talks about how our relationship with our earthly father impact us in several critical ways; how we can be hurt by our fathers; and how, with God's help, we can begin the process of healing from our "father wounds."
For specific, practical steps to begin the forgiveness process, check our episode 10: "How Can I Forgive Someone Who's Really Hurt Me?"
Some of the attributes of our Heavenly Father:

available

“The Lord will hear when I call to Him.” (Psalm 4:3)

benevolent

“How much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him.” (Matthew 7:11)

comforting

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation.”
(2 Cor. 1:3-4)

compassionate

“As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.” (Psalm 103:13-14)

caring

“Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

Father

“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:1)

faithful

“For You, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.” (Psalm 9:10)

forgiving

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

good

“Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!” (Psalm 34:8)

generous

“If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!” (Matthew 7:11)

gentle

“He will feed His flock like a shepherd; He will gather the lambs with His arm, and carry them in His bosom, and gently lead those who are with young.” (Isaiah 40:11)

guide

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

healer

“Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, for You are my praise.” (Jeremiah 17:14)

just

“God is a just judge.” (Psalm 7:11)

kind

“But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us.” (Titus 3:4-5)

merciful

“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.” (Psalm 103:8)

refuge

“The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.” (Psalm 9:9)

righteous

“For the Lord is righteous, He loves righteousness.” (Psalm 11:7)

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How Can I, or Someone I Care About, Be Set Free from Pornography?

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In this episode, Robb clarifies what pornography is, talks about the damage it can do in a person's life and relationships, and shares specific strategies you can take to begin to be set free from porn. He also addresses practical steps to take if you're involved with someone who is struggling with pornography.
Notes from this episode:
Jesus said looking at a woman and lusting after her is just like having sex with her in Matthew 5:28.
Jesus said nothing is impossible with God in Matthew 19:26.
The story of Jesus asking the disabled man if he wanted to be made well is found in John 5:1-15.
Jesus talked about plucking out your eye and cutting off your hand to avoid temptation to sin in Matthew 5:29-30.
Paul's story about asking God to remove his "thorn in the flesh" can be found in
2 Corinthians 12:7-10.
The book I mentioned about overcoming addiction to pornography is:
"Every Man's Battle" by Stephen Arterburn.