1 in 3
Ingrid Dutton
According to the CDC and WHO respectively, 1 in 3 American men experience physical or sexual violence or stalking by an intimate partner within their lifetime. 1 in 3 women worldwide experience physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner or sexual violence by a non partner in their lifetime.
The thing is, domestic abuse and violence go beyond physical and sexual assault. There is also emotional, psychological, and financial abuse.
As a domestic violence survivor myself, I empower people to break the silence on domestic violence through bold education, real talk, and unstoppable strength. I speak about abusive relationships with accompanying statistics to help audiences recognize violent behavior and realize their personal worth and inner strength in order to develop a plan of action.
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04/16/25 • 16 min
Money and fame shouldn't protect abusers, but they often do. This latest episode delves deep into one of Hollywood's most notorious domestic violence cases – the disturbing relationship between Mel Gibson and Oksana Grigorieva.
The relationship began like a Hollywood romance in 2009, quickly resulting in the birth of their daughter. But by January 2010, Gibson allegedly punched Oksana while she held their infant, breaking her teeth. What followed was extraordinary – recorded phone calls captured Gibson's terrifying threats. Despite pleading no contest to domestic violence, facing minimal consequences, and surrendering his firearms under the Lautenberg Amendment, Gibson recently had his gun rights restored by Attorney General Pam Bondi.
This isn't just about one celebrity – it reveals how power and influence can override the systems designed to protect survivors.
Sources:
https://people.com/crime/mel-gibson-not-obligated-to-pay-ex-oksana-grigorieva-settlement-balance/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxh3iQF0ZpI
https://www.today.com/video/mel-gibson-audio-recordings-awful-moment-in-time-44510787755
https://www.cnn.com/2010/SHOWBIZ/celebrity.news.gossip/07/09/mel.gibson.rant/index.html
https://people.com/celebrity/inside-mel-gibson-and-oksana-grigorievas-turbulent-romance/
https://www.usmarshals.gov/resources/forms/lautenberg-amendment
https://people.com/mel-gibson-gun-rights-restored-attorney-general-1170915
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
04/09/25 • 12 min
Two years in, and I'm finally ready to share some of my personal healing journey following domestic violence. What began as determination to leave my abuser slowly morphed into doubt and questioning - was it really abuse? Could the relationship be saved? In therapy, a seemingly simple exercise changed everything. Writing my story on an imaginary scroll and reading it back as if it belonged to someone else broke me open. "That poor woman," I whispered through tears, before realizing that woman was me.
The healing journey hasn't been linear. After the initial freedom of leaving came unexpected challenges - misinterpreting friends' intentions, suspecting hidden agendas, experiencing physiological responses to everyday interactions. Through dedicated therapy work, I've learned that healing requires feeling everything: the sadness, exhaustion, frustration, anger, pain, happiness, uncertainty, and even pride. Most importantly, I've discovered that obsessing over understanding my abuser only prevented my own growth. Questions like "Was the abuse intentional?" and "Did they ever truly love me?" consumed mental space better used for self-discovery and healing.
From a small idea launched on March 1st, 2021, 1 in 3 has grown into a community spanning 40+ countries with thousands of downloads and 16 incredible guests. This episode marks a new chapter, but the mission remains the same: sharing real stories of domestic violence, raising awareness, and offering hope to everyone affected. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or well along the path, remember that self-love is the foundation, and you're never alone. Your messages of encouragement and support keep this podcast going, and I'm deeply grateful for each of you.
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
The devastating intersection between suicide and domestic violence remains largely hidden, yet the statistics tell a shocking story. In this deeply important conversation, LCSW Jessica reveals that one in three women who attempted suicide in the past year were recent victims of intimate partner violence.
Drawing from her years of experience working with suicidal individuals, Jessica unpacks how the risk factors for suicide directly mirror the experiences of domestic violence victims. The isolation, hopelessness, and psychosocial stressors created by abusive relationships establish perfect conditions for suicidal thoughts to take hold. Most alarmingly, research shows the window between having suicidal thoughts and taking action can be as brief as five minutes to one hour.
We explore the generational impacts as well, discovering disturbing international data showing children who witness domestic violence face significantly higher suicide risks. In the U.S., one in fifteen children are exposed to intimate partner violence annually, with 90% being eyewitnesses to abuse.
This episode provides crucial information about recognizing warning signs, creating effective safety plans, and understanding what happens during crisis intervention. Jessica emphasizes the importance of direct communication, explaining that asking someone specifically about suicidal thoughts doesn't plant the idea – it opens the door for life-saving conversation.
Remember the crisis line number: 988.
References:
Suicide and intimate partner violence
UNC Gillings School of Global Public Health, April 11 2022 discussed this study: Intimate partner violence victimization and perpetration as precursors to suicide - ScienceDirect
Intimate partner violence, suicidality, and self-harm: a probability sample survey of the general population in England - PMC Lancet Psychiatry, 2022 Jul; 9(7)
Scale of homicide and suicides by domestic abuse victims revealed content
Resources:
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
03/26/25 • 38 min
What happens after you leave an abuse relationship? The movies would have you believe it's all sunshine and roses once you escape, but the reality is far more complicated. Author Emma Jean Rowin returns to share the final chapter of her journey, reading from her powerful memoir "When Things Collapse" and exploring the complex aftermath of domestic abuse.
Emma Jean opens with a reading about "The Work of Letting Peace In," describing how survivors often develop hypervigilance as a protection mechanism. This overwhelming need to control one's environment—especially for parents trying to shield their children from further harm—becomes its own struggle that requires intentional healing.
One of the most profound revelations in our conversation is how both of us believed we were "too smart" or "too strong" to be abuse victims. This common belief actually makes us more vulnerable, as it prevents us from recognizing abuse for what it is and seeking help. We discuss how abuse creates neural pathways that trigger unexpected reactions in future relationships, requiring conscious reprogramming through therapy and self-awareness.
"If a person's good side is very good and their bad side is very bad, you have to let go of both," Emma Jean shares, highlighting one of the most difficult aspects of leaving—the uncertainty about whether those good moments were real, and learning that ultimately, it doesn't matter. The intensity that many survivors become accustomed to in relationships is not healthy, though it can take time to understand that peaceful relationships are actually the goal.
While the journey after abuse isn't fair and requires tremendous work, the peace and freedom are worth it. There's a special appreciation for autonomy that survivors develop—the ability to make decisions without fear, to experience calm without walking on eggshells, to simply be. If you're on this journey, remember that all your feelings are valid, healing isn't linear, and you are never, ever alone.
Emma Jean’s 1in3 bio: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/emma-jean-rowin/
Link to “When Things Collapse”: https://a.co/d/8wTUZ1W
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
03/19/25 • 32 min
When Emma Jean's young daughter offered to "act really cute" to prevent her father's rage, something profound shifted. In this raw, emotional conversation, Emma Jean reads a pivotal passage from her book, "When Things Collapse," revealing the exact moment she realized her children weren't just witnessing abuse—they were absorbing it as training for their future.
This powerful discussion dismantles the myth that staying "for the kids" benefits children in abusive households. Emma Jean shares how her daughter, now 21, demonstrates remarkable strength in relationships precisely because she witnessed her mother's courage in walking away. "That's the thing in my life I am the most proud of," Emma Jean confesses, noting that children who see their parents respect themselves learn to demand respect in their own lives.
We tackle difficult truths: the façade of an "intact family" shatters the moment abuse begins; children perceive tension regardless of parents' attempts to hide it; and perhaps most importantly—a good father simply does not abuse his children's mother. For listeners struggling with these decisions, Emma Jean offers a clarifying question: "What would you tell your daughter to do in this situation?"
The conversation acknowledges the very real dangers of leaving, with practical advice about timing, safety planning, and the emotional reality that many victims attempt to leave multiple times before making a final break. Through it all runs a thread of hope—that when parents find the courage to walk away from abuse, they give their children an invaluable gift: a model of self-respect that becomes internalized and "sealed in their fate" in the most positive way possible.
Emma Jean’s 1in3 bio: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/emma-jean-rowin/
Link to “When Things Collapse”: https://a.co/d/8wTUZ1W
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
03/12/25 • 33 min
Emma Jean Rowin survived an abusive marriage that culminated in her ex-husband becoming an active shooter. Her powerful memoir "When Things Collapse" chronicles this journey, but more importantly, reveals the subtle pathway that led her there - the very pathway many dismiss with "I would never stay in an abusive relationship."
Through reading passages from her book, Emma Jean transports us to her college years when the relationship began. We witness the seemingly small moments that were actually major warning signs: a boyfriend who breaks up with her repeatedly as punishment for minor disagreements, who throws a full drink at her friend over a harmless joke, who creates emotional chaos that somehow felt like passion to a young woman whose own parents modeled a passionless marriage.
What makes this conversation particularly insightful is the exploration of why smart, capable people remain in toxic relationships. Both Emma Jean and host Ingrid reflect on how their family backgrounds created blind spots, how the intense chemistry masked manipulation, and how the absence of relationship education in the 1990s left them navigating dangerous waters without a map. They unpack the psychology behind staying - how victims absorb blame, make excuses, and gradually accept increasingly problematic behavior as normal.
For anyone who has ever judged someone for not leaving, this episode provides crucial perspective. For those currently questioning their own relationships, it offers validation and recognition. And for everyone else, it serves as a reminder that abuse doesn't announce itself with violence - it sneaks in through charm, intensity, and moments of connection that make the red flags easier to dismiss.
The conversation beautifully illustrates how modern awareness around mental health and relationship dynamics provides tools previous generations lacked, while acknowledging there's still much work to be done in educating young people about healthy relationships. Listen as Emma Jean shares her story with courage and clarity, reminding us that understanding how people enter these relationships is the first step toward helping them find their way out.
Emma Jean’s 1in3 profile: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/emma-jean-rowin/
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
03/05/25 • 37 min
Discover the art of thriving amidst the challenges of high-conflict co-parenting in this engaging episode featuring insights from Marisol, a co-parenting coach with firsthand experience. Uncover practical strategies for maintaining your identity as a parent while ensuring your kids have a balanced relationship with both parents. We delve into the importance of stepping back and letting kids navigate their time with their other parent, alongside the emotional hurdles that come with independence.
As we explore the fine line between emotional support and parental roles, Marisol encourages parents to prioritize self-worth and re-engage with their interests outside motherhood. Communicating effectively with an ex-partner is another essential aspect we cover, introducing techniques to reduce emotional upheaval during difficult discussions.
Finding a supportive community during these tough times can make all the difference; Marisol shares details about resources that uplift and empower single parents. Tune in to learn how to not just survive but flourish as a co-parent, reinforcing the message that you are not alone on this journey. Together, we can foster healthier relationships and, ultimately, a better environment for the children we love.
Marisol's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/marisolvasquez
Marisol's 1in3 profile: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/marisol-vasquez-ms/
https://marisolvasquezofficial.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marisolvasquezofficial/
https://www.instagram.com/marisolvasquezofficial/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredmomscircle
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
02/26/25 • 35 min
Navigating the stormy seas of high-conflict co-parenting is no easy feat, and today I have Marisol sharing her compelling journey. Imagine juggling not one, but two custody and child support cases, all while facing the emotional upheaval of multiple court hearings and even bankruptcy. Marisol's story is a testament to resilience, offering listeners a raw glimpse into the challenges of dealing with high-conflict co-parents and the emotional toll such situations take on both parents and children.
Our conversation takes a deep dive into the heart-wrenching realities of domestic violence and its impact on custody arrangements, especially during sensitive times like holidays. Marisol opens up about the struggle to prioritize her children's needs over lingering resentment, a challenge many in similar situations will resonate with. We explore the often toxic dynamics where manipulation and abuse make cooperation seem impossible, and Marisol bravely discusses personal experiences of verbal abuse and stigma, highlighting the emotional distress it caused for her children.
We wrap up with empowering strategies for co-parents to focus on their children's futures amidst adversity. Marisol shares invaluable insights on navigating these difficult dynamics, emphasizing the importance of strategic decision-making to create a nurturing environment. Join us for this eye-opening episode as we uncover ways to safeguard relationships with children, offering hope and guidance for those tackling the complexities of high-conflict co-parenting.
Marisol's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/marisolvasquez
Marisol's 1in3 profile: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/marisol-vasquez-ms/
https://marisolvasquezofficial.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marisolvasquezofficial/
https://www.instagram.com/marisolvasquezofficial/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredmomscircle
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
02/19/25 • 41 min
What if cultural traditions are quietly trapping victims in cycles of abuse? Join us as Dr. Anisha returns to "1 in 3" with a profound exploration of Indian marriage dynamics and their influence on domestic violence. Drawing from her personal experiences and her book, "The Power to Break Free: Surviving Domestic Violence, With a Special Reference to Abuse in Indian Marriages," Dr. Anisha sheds light on the pressures women face within arranged, introduced, and love marriages, and the cultural expectations that can complicate their escape from abusive relationships. Her insights provide a compelling look at the silent battles victims endure and the need for increased awareness and understanding.
Navigate the complex realities of intergenerational households, where victims often find themselves isolated in environments resistant to outside intervention. Dr. Anisha bravely shares her own journey through an abusive marriage, highlighting the struggle to seek help in a setting where family dynamics can either ignore or inadvertently support the abuser. This episode underscores the critical importance of a supportive network and how resources like journaling and pivotal literature have empowered survivors to recognize and break free from detrimental patterns of behavior.
Discover the challenges faced by domestic violence survivors, particularly those from Indian backgrounds in America, as they navigate inadequate support systems. We address the pressing need for culturally sensitive approaches within both mainstream and specialized domestic violence organizations. Through Dr. Anisha's stories of unexpected community support and the stigmas surrounding domestic abuse, we emphasize the power of listening and believing victims. By creating dialogues about healthy relationships, we aim to foster a community that empowers individuals to overcome abuse and build a future of hope.
1in3 guest profile: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/anisha-durve/
Nonprofit Website: https://www.power2breakfree.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/power2breakfree/
Nonprofit YouTube: https://youtube.com/@powertobreakfree
Book: https://a.co/d/iLcP73R
Workbook: https://a.co/d/8d3kjaM
Anisha's Meditation App: https://www.picosuite.com/app/bliss
Anisha's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anishadurve/
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
02/05/25 • 31 min
Meet Sheena Yap Chan, a remarkable author and podcaster whose mission is to uplift and empower Asian women through self-confidence and leadership. Sheena's journey from experiencing cultural identity struggles after moving from the Philippines to Toronto, to embracing her heritage and launching the influential podcast "The Tao of Self-Confidence," is nothing short of inspiring. With hundreds of interviews to her name, she dismantles stereotypes and amplifies underrepresented voices, culminating in her latest book, "Bridging the Confidence Gap: How Empowered Women Change the World." Discover the transformative power of representation and the critical need for gender parity in leadership roles.
Join the conversation as we tackle the sensitive subjects of mental health and abuse within Asian communities, breaking cultural taboos and addressing intergenerational trauma. Sheena and I explore practical ways to boost self-esteem and combat self-doubt, drawing parallels between mental and physical fitness. We confront the grim realities of domestic violence and societal issues in places like the Philippines, emphasizing the importance of support systems and challenging harmful media portrayals. This episode is a heartfelt call to action to foster empathy, raise awareness, and help victims reclaim their worth and envision a brighter future.
https://www.sheenayapchan.com/
https://www.sheenayapchan.com/products
https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/sheena-yap-chan/
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to [email protected]
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening and please remember to rate, review & subscribe!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
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How many episodes does 1 in 3 have?
1 in 3 currently has 65 episodes available.
What topics does 1 in 3 cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Ptsd, True Crime, Domestic Violence, Abuse, Podcasts, Trauma and Relationships.
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The episode title '63-Therapy, Tears, and TikTok: Behind the 1 in 3 Podcast' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on 1 in 3 is 27 minutes.
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Episodes of 1 in 3 are typically released every 7 days.
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The first episode of 1 in 3 was released on Feb 28, 2023.
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