Are you a racist? Last year had many of us asking that very question. Join philanthropist and leader in the black community, Katara Mccarty and we discuss wellness, racism, and how we can help.
07/25/22 • 49 min
Many of us understand the importance of yoga and mindfulness. But when you do not have basic necessities like food, shelter, and visibility, you will have difficulty accessing your consciousness. Over the past summer, with growing food lines, police brutality, and a political divide that rocked the country to its core, we saw the struggles that Black and brown communities face being played out time and again. Katara Mccarty has made it her life’s mission to reach out to Black, indigenous, and women of color through her speaking, writing, and philanthropic work. 2020 gave her the fuel to redirect her focus, bringing mindfulness techniques to Black and brown communities through her app, EXHALE. In this conversation, Katara opens up about how being adopted by a Black mother and accepted into the community led her to philanthropic work. We talk about her experience of running a truly inclusive church, given that a lot of organized religion is not accepting of everyone. Our conversation then moves onto systemic racism, where we touch on how we, as individuals, can work to dismantle it, and the power that comes with being open to learning. As we wrap up, we touch on the wellness space and how, through its whiteness, it excludes and can even harm marginalized communities. Taking apart systemic racism is not easy, and we might feel as though we have no part to play. Our actions do not have to be perfect. However, if we approach change with vulnerability and humility, we can make a difference.
Key Points From This Episode:
• Why Katara struggled with a sense of belonging despite having a supportive community.
• The story of Katara’s spiritual journey and how she met her husband.
• The importance of acknowledging the systemic racism that we are upholding.
• Why sitting in neutral and saying you are not racist does not create change.
• It's not that systemic racism does not benefit Black and brown people; it literally kills them.
• Why Katara believes that anti-racism is a practice rather than an endpoint.
• We have to be willing to change and evolve and accept that it will be messy.
• The work that the yoga and mindfulness spaces have to do to be more inclusive.
• Difficulties that Black and brown women have in predominantly white wellness spaces.
• When we think about antiracism, it’s about Black and brown liberation.
• We need to move past an all-or-nothing mentality; there is a full spectrum in between.
• Katara’s impetus for starting the EXHALE app and the feedback she has received.
• How Katara believes we can educate our children about racism; we can learn with them.
• We need brave spaces, not safe spaces for Black and brown people.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Many of us understand the importance of yoga and mindfulness. But when you do not have basic necessities like food, shelter, and visibility, you will have difficulty accessing your consciousness. Over the past summer, with growing food lines, police brutality, and a political divide that rocked the country to its core, we saw the struggles that Black and brown communities face being played out time and again. Katara Mccarty has made it her life’s mission to reach out to Black, indigenous, and women of color through her speaking, writing, and philanthropic work. 2020 gave her the fuel to redirect her focus, bringing mindfulness techniques to Black and brown communities through her app, EXHALE. In this conversation, Katara opens up about how being adopted by a Black mother and accepted into the community led her to philanthropic work. We talk about her experience of running a truly inclusive church, given that a lot of organized religion is not accepting of everyone. Our conversation then moves onto systemic racism, where we touch on how we, as individuals, can work to dismantle it, and the power that comes with being open to learning. As we wrap up, we touch on the wellness space and how, through its whiteness, it excludes and can even harm marginalized communities. Taking apart systemic racism is not easy, and we might feel as though we have no part to play. Our actions do not have to be perfect. However, if we approach change with vulnerability and humility, we can make a difference.
Key Points From This Episode:
• Why Katara struggled with a sense of belonging despite having a supportive community.
• The story of Katara’s spiritual journey and how she met her husband.
• The importance of acknowledging the systemic racism that we are upholding.
• Why sitting in neutral and saying you are not racist does not create change.
• It's not that systemic racism does not benefit Black and brown people; it literally kills them.
• Why Katara believes that anti-racism is a practice rather than an endpoint.
• We have to be willing to change and evolve and accept that it will be messy.
• The work that the yoga and mindfulness spaces have to do to be more inclusive.
• Difficulties that Black and brown women have in predominantly white wellness spaces.
• When we think about antiracism, it’s about Black and brown liberation.
• We need to move past an all-or-nothing mentality; there is a full spectrum in between.
• Katara’s impetus for starting the EXHALE app and the feedback she has received.
• How Katara believes we can educate our children about racism; we can learn with them.
• We need brave spaces, not safe spaces for Black and brown people.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Did you know that cider is actually classified as a wine? And that you can find a cider flavor that can be paired with almost any type of food? Cider has not yet experienced the same level of popularity as traditional wine and beer, but Andrea Homoya is on a mission to change this. Through her company, Ash and Elm Cider, Andrea is putting cider on the map! Andrea, a self-proclaimed risk taker, runs Ash and Elm Cider alongside her husband, who is the ideas man behind the brand. In today’s episode Andre candidly shares the upsides and downsides of combining her work life and her personal life in this way. She also opens up about her journey to motherhood, which has not been without its own challenges. Ash and Elm has experienced a lot of growth over the years, and Andrea and her husband have some exciting plans for the future expansion of the company. If you haven’t tried an Ash and Elm Cider yet, do yourself a favor!
Key Points From This Episode:
• Complementary characteristics that allowed Andrea and her husband to get their business off the ground.
• The holiday that sparked the creation of Ash and Elm Cider.
• Alcohol content in Ash and Elm Ciders, and the type of alcohol that cider is classified as.
• Andrea explains the process that they go through to create their ciders.
• Statistics on consumption of beer versus cider by gender.
• Observations that Andrea had around traditional branding of beer, and how this has informed their own branding.
• What Andrea’s day-to-day work involves.
• Growth that the company is experiencing, and how they are dealing with it.
• Challenges of running a business with your life partner, and how Andrea and her husband try to maintain a balance.
• Parallels between Andrea and Jessica’s marriages.
• Andrea shares her journey of becoming, and being, a working mom.
• The seasonality of ciders.
• A new project that Andrea and her husband are working on at the moment.
• Variation that is possible with ciders, and examples of how these can be paired with different foods.
• The most difficult experience that Andrea and her husband have had while running their business.
• Future goals that Andrea and her husband have for Ash and Elm.
• How the Ash and Elm subscription service has helped put the company on the cider map.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Ash and Elm Cider on Instagram
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Fix Yourself First: Building Sexual Self-Esteem with Dr. Kristie Overstreet
We don’t often talk about our sex lives, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that we, as moms, are not enjoying sex as much as we could be. What greater pleasure is there in life than having an intimate and satisfying connection with your partner? Today, we welcome Dr. Kristie Overstreet, clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, host of the Fix Yourself First Podcast, and author of Fix Yourself First: 25 Tips to Stop Ruining Your Relationship. She focuses on helping you build strong relationships through focusing first on the most important relationship you have: the one you have with yourself, to give you the power to create the life you deserve. You’ll hear all about her journey to becoming a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist after studying medicine for a year, before meeting a therapist for the first time, and how failing helped her to get to where she is today. She shares some of her own tumultuous story of relationships and sex, before finding her partner of 14 years, Rob. Dr. Overstreet tells us how the importance of sex in your relationship depends entirely on how much each partner values it, and introduces us to the concept of opening up a sexual buffet. She assures us that you can still have a healthy relationship even if you value sex differently from one another, provided there is no judgment and a willingness to meet one another’s needs. We hope you join us to hear this and loads more pearls of wisdom from Dr. Overstreet today!
Key Points From This Episode:
- How the importance of sex in your relationship depends on how each partner values it.
- How we define sex, and why you have to open up a sexual buffet.
- Why you can still have a healthy relationship even if you value sex differently.
- Why she tells everyone in relationships to stop assuming their partners are going to change.
- What she means by sexual self-esteem: how you feel about your sexual self.
- Sexual trauma as an emotional energy that enters into every sexual encounter.
- The first step: giving yourself permission to go there without expectation.
- The twelve different types of intimacy that go beyond sexual encounters.
- Why it is important to frame the conversation about sex by talking about yourself.
- The myth of men needing loads of sex, and how they need quality sex instead.
- How, in most couples, the issue with the relationship is not sex, but the connection.
- Why it is necessary to feel emotional safety and non-judgment to have a good sex life.
- How doing the things that you are passionate about as an individual serves your relationship.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Dr. Kristie Overstreet
Dr. Kristie Overstreet on Facebook
Dr. Kristie Overstreet on Instagram
Dr. Kristie Overstreet on Pinterest
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