368 Choose To Step Up And Step In
02/11/25 • 35 min
368 Choose To Step Up And Step In
It’s a strange and frightening world we are living in right now. With divisiveness and anger seeming rampant, it falls to us to maintain our community, to show up with a heart of love and understanding for each other and ourselves, to save our village from burning and refusing to let a lack of empathy and communication drive us to destruction.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Erin Miller discuss the vital importance of community and taking care of one another, of building bridges and allowing our differences to strengthen us instead of divide us, as well as accepting when a bridge cannot be built and an olive branch is refused and trying to find peace with the results.
Highlights
- What is your moment of satisfaction or awe in what you do?
- Are you giving or just taking?
- Sitting down and talking to someone who’s different in some way. Building bridges as opposed to burning them.
- Celebrate our differences, do not let them drive us apart. But acknowledging when you cannot build a bridge, and seeking to find peace.
- The Cause and Effect of what changes individuals.
- It’s okay to sit down and let your community help you.
Quotes
“Yes we are individuals, but we are also a collective. If you don’t feed the collective, if you don’t nurture the collective, the collective won’t nurture you.”
“Give what you want to receive. If you want community, you have to give community. If you want patience you have to give patience, and if you want respect and so on and so on.”
“The problem is we’re not talking to each other, we’re not communicating, and we’re not willing to hear.”
“We need to be able to sit down. We’re adults, we can do this, I believe that we can, and we have the capability to sit down and have discussions.”
“Once I extend an olive branch, if the person burns it, I let the ashes fall where they may. I just let them fall.”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
What are you going to take from this conversation? Who will you reach out to, to go and have a cup of coffee without having the intention of changing their mind but with the intention of listening to their story? Find out what matters to them and have a conversation. I would love to hear what happens for you when you choose to step up and step in.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Erin (from her website)
Erin Patrice is the heart and creator behind The Breaking Bread Village, a space intentionally created for people to come together and have transparent conversations with no judgment so ideas and perspectives may be heard respectfully.
Erin is a conversationalist and a Midland, MI, resident and native to Cincinnati, Ohio. She is a mother and wife and has been a community advocate for twenty years.
Erin has an incredible gift of storytelling and connecting with others of all ages. She shares her story in a way that draws people closer rather than apart. She has a unique teaching style that resonates with all who experience it. Erin has years of life experience, training, and facilitating conversations through empathy, strategy, and storytelling.
Erin is dedicated to being a voice for those with no voice and helping the unseen to be seen.
She believes that everything we do within our small communities changes the world because every good deed causes a ripple effect that will eventually impact the world.
Erin shares her teachings as a community engagement ambassador by facilitating workshops, keynote speaking, panels, and conversations nationwide.
Be sure to check out Erin’s LinkedIn, and her website Breaking Bread Village! As well as the article about her from the Midland Daily News!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns tha...
368 Choose To Step Up And Step In
It’s a strange and frightening world we are living in right now. With divisiveness and anger seeming rampant, it falls to us to maintain our community, to show up with a heart of love and understanding for each other and ourselves, to save our village from burning and refusing to let a lack of empathy and communication drive us to destruction.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Erin Miller discuss the vital importance of community and taking care of one another, of building bridges and allowing our differences to strengthen us instead of divide us, as well as accepting when a bridge cannot be built and an olive branch is refused and trying to find peace with the results.
Highlights
- What is your moment of satisfaction or awe in what you do?
- Are you giving or just taking?
- Sitting down and talking to someone who’s different in some way. Building bridges as opposed to burning them.
- Celebrate our differences, do not let them drive us apart. But acknowledging when you cannot build a bridge, and seeking to find peace.
- The Cause and Effect of what changes individuals.
- It’s okay to sit down and let your community help you.
Quotes
“Yes we are individuals, but we are also a collective. If you don’t feed the collective, if you don’t nurture the collective, the collective won’t nurture you.”
“Give what you want to receive. If you want community, you have to give community. If you want patience you have to give patience, and if you want respect and so on and so on.”
“The problem is we’re not talking to each other, we’re not communicating, and we’re not willing to hear.”
“We need to be able to sit down. We’re adults, we can do this, I believe that we can, and we have the capability to sit down and have discussions.”
“Once I extend an olive branch, if the person burns it, I let the ashes fall where they may. I just let them fall.”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
What are you going to take from this conversation? Who will you reach out to, to go and have a cup of coffee without having the intention of changing their mind but with the intention of listening to their story? Find out what matters to them and have a conversation. I would love to hear what happens for you when you choose to step up and step in.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Erin (from her website)
Erin Patrice is the heart and creator behind The Breaking Bread Village, a space intentionally created for people to come together and have transparent conversations with no judgment so ideas and perspectives may be heard respectfully.
Erin is a conversationalist and a Midland, MI, resident and native to Cincinnati, Ohio. She is a mother and wife and has been a community advocate for twenty years.
Erin has an incredible gift of storytelling and connecting with others of all ages. She shares her story in a way that draws people closer rather than apart. She has a unique teaching style that resonates with all who experience it. Erin has years of life experience, training, and facilitating conversations through empathy, strategy, and storytelling.
Erin is dedicated to being a voice for those with no voice and helping the unseen to be seen.
She believes that everything we do within our small communities changes the world because every good deed causes a ripple effect that will eventually impact the world.
Erin shares her teachings as a community engagement ambassador by facilitating workshops, keynote speaking, panels, and conversations nationwide.
Be sure to check out Erin’s LinkedIn, and her website Breaking Bread Village! As well as the article about her from the Midland Daily News!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns tha...
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367 Manifesting Humanity
367 Manifesting Humanity
It can be easy to forget that we’re human. When work is stressful and all consuming, when dealing with people stuck in the past and the past versions of you, it’s easy to forget we are a person with needs to lead a fulfilling life.
In this episode Sarah Elkins and Alison Miller discuss how the stories we carry with us alter the people we are, often making us revert to the person we used to be and not the person we are now or the person we want to be.
Highlights
- How do you manifest your humanity?
- Practicing new ways of being in a community.
- Are you being there for yourself?
- It’s okay to fall sometimes.
Quotes
“This is a human being living in our society, how do we decide that we make life work for people.”
“We’re observing it, we're not judging it.”
“We always have choices but rarely are they apparent to us.”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
I would love to hear from you, what part of this conversation resonated with you? To be in community, to grow, to learn, to connect in an authentic way with people who have diverse backgrounds and have led different lives than you. And When are you going to decide who you’re going to bring to that next conversation to someone you want to have a relationship with.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Alison
Alison Miller, PhD, is a Los Angeles-based entrepreneur who is passionate about making personal and spiritual growth accessible and easy to incorporate into daily life. Educated in Clinical Psychology at Cornell University and The University of Illinois at Chicago, Alison has helped lead thousands of graduate students to earn their degrees over the last two decades. As a founder of Lead True, she helped foster and develop the professional leadership skills of countless women around the world. Having recently sold The Dissertation Coach, her expert dissertation coaching & consulting business, she’s now at the helm of her latest business endeavor, The Academic Writers’ Space (TAWS). TAWS is an online coworking community Alison designed for graduate students and academic writers to get real work done in a supportive and nurturing environment. Since its inception in 2020, TAWS has hosted thousands of coworking sessions with academic writers from across the globe. Alison’s living a full life as a public speaker at universities and private businesses, working on the 2nd edition of her book, Finish Your Dissertation Once and for All! How to Overcome Psychological Barriers, Get Results, and Move on With Your Life, and being a wife and mother to her two adult children and dogs Nacho and Koko. Be sure to check out Alison’s social medias at LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok! And be sure to check out The Academic Writers Space, The TAWS Instagram, and the TAWS Youtube!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Be sure to check out the Storytelling For Professionals Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
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369 Nurturing Community
369 Nurturing Community
We’re all human. We all have family, we all have struggles, we all have experienced some sort of adversity, which means we’re more alike than we are different. It can be easy to view the world with blinders on, to ignore it all and keep your nose to the ground, but then your community suffers for it. The people who rely on you, whether it be your friends and family, or a client or customer, by choosing to nurture only our corner of existence, the rest of our community suffers. Just like tending a garden, you must tend the whole garden, spread love and nutrients where you can, and remove what is harmful. It’s hard work, but all things worth doing require effort.
In today’s episode Sarah Elkins and Claudia Krevat discuss the importance of caring for your community as a whole, how vital it is to remove the blinders and to see things as they are and how you best can contribute to a healthy and happy community.
Highlights
- Lifting others up also lifts you up.
- You never know the doors you’ll open when you just participate.
- Have you tried to appeal to someone’s empathy? Their humanity? How did that go for you? What can you do to see people who disagree with you as human?
- Connection through how we are similar and how we show our humanity.
Quotes
“You know that when people are asking for it and your participation is growing, you are creating a positive impact.”
“Strangers become friends around the dining table.”
“A lot of us have family in common.”
“There’s a story and we got to tell the story, because don’t we learn from stories?”
Dear Listeners it is now your turn,
I would love to see some comments or get an email from you about how sharing food, breaking bread together, changed your mind about something or someone. I would love to hear the story about the time you ate with people or surrounded a dining table with other people where you experience something unexpected or maybe something that changed your life or changed everything about how you perceived something that you were surprised by.
And, as always, thank you for listening.
About Claudia (from her Instagram page)
Community organizer through food. Recipe designer and alchemist. The Lentil Queen. Recipes and stories.
Be sure to check out Claudia’s Threads, and Instagram! As well as the article written about her on Yellowstone Public Radio!
About Sarah
"Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision."
In my work with coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share - on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.
My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.
The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!
Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah's band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.
Be sure to check out the Storytelling For Professionals Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!
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