BEST OF: Ditching What Doesn't Matter (with the Lazy Genius)

08/09/23 • 45 min

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What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms

Are people with clean houses doing a bit? Are people with messy ones somehow less worthy? Kendra Adachi, author of THE LAZY GENIUS WAY tells us how to make a just-good-enough system that works for exactly us - and stop caring about everything else.

Kendra Adachi also hosts "The Lazy Genius" podcast and is the mother of three young kids.

Kendra, Margaret, and Amy discuss:

How to implement systems that are practical rather than Pinterest-worthy
Why we should stop applauding chaos as the only indicator of vulnerability
The power of putting everything in its place

Here's where you can find Kendra:

www.thelazygeniuscollective.com
Buy The Lazy Genius Way: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780525653936
@thelazygenius on IG

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Kendra Adachi also hosts "The Lazy Genius" podcast and is the mother of three young kids.

Kendra, Margaret, and Amy discuss:

How to implement systems that are practical rather than Pinterest-worthy
Why we should stop applauding chaos as the only indicator of vulnerability
The power of putting everything in its place

Here's where you can find Kendra:

www.thelazygeniuscollective.com
Buy The Lazy Genius Way: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780525653936
@thelazygenius on IG

We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:

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Previous Episode

Ask Margaret: My Child Is Being Ostracized

When our child is suddenly being left out of their friend group, how can we help them cope without giving in to our own emotions about the situation?

A member of our Facebook group writes:

"My 9-year-old finally made a new group of friends this year in school, and the other day at recess they announced that they don’t want to be her friend anymore.

She is crushed, and while I know this is part of growing up, I don’t know how to help her. I let her stay home today- to be honest, partly so she doesn’t have to endure a recess with this group of girls ignoring her or worse.

I know missing school is not the answer. How can I help her? "

Margaret reminds this listener that she's not on the emotional roller coaster with her kid in this situation - rather, she is a neutral and safe space for her child to express their feelings about the situation.

It's important to let your child feel whatever they need to about the situation without trying to "fix" them or suggesting how they might behave differently in order to gain entry back into the friend group. Remind them that they can only control how they react to the situation, and empower them to focus on other friendships, hobbies, and activities for the time being.

In the meantime, watch out for signs that your child is suffering from severe bullying, such as weight loss, loss of appetite, or loss of interest in normal activities - this could mean that they need a more robust form of intervention on their behalf.

Here are links to some resources Margaret mentions:

Sherri Gordon for VeryWell Family: 7 Tips for Helping Kids Deal With Being Ostracized
Our episode about bullies
Our episode "Mean Girls with Katie Hurley"

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Next Episode

Fresh Take: Jamilla Svansson-Brown on How Motherhood Changes Us

Can we grieve the person we were before motherhood? Jamilla Svansson-Brown, who runs a YouTube channel with her wife Que, discusses how motherhood changes us, strengthening marriages, and listening to people with different lived experiences.

Jamilla and Que are a two-mom family based in Atlanta, GA, who have been creating content for over 7 years after recognizing a gap in the influencer industry and not seeing creators who were Black Women, Fem/Masc presenting, or a part of the LGBTQ community.

Jamilla and Margaret discuss:

How parenthood changes our relationships with our partners
How the division of labor works in the Svansson-Brown household
What it means to be an authentic ally

Here's where you can find Jamilla and Que:

www.jamillaandque.com
@jamillaandque on YouTube, TikTok, and IG

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