AMA | Stop Lying To Yourself: How To Stop Procrastination + Self Sabotage

Wellness + Wisdom Podcast Host, Josh Trent, shares practical steps on how you can finally stop lying to yourself and shift from procrastination and self-sabotage to your full potential.

Mar: Why do we keep lying to ourselves? Why do we keep procrastinating on the goals and the dreams that we set to achieve, even though they matter so much to us, and we've really, really want this so bad, but we still don't get ourselves work and push through the discomfort and get out of the comfort zone and actually achieve that.

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Let's get to the question because it's a question from you, which I love your vulnerability. I love that you're actually sharing something that's human that you struggle with self-sabotage to and procrastination.

Well, you said it, almost everybody struggles with this. And since we're in a new year and it's a new beginning, I think it's the best opportunity for us to actually look into this topic. So my question is:

Why do we keep lying to ourselves? Why do we keep procrastinating on the goals and the dreams that we set to achieve, even though they matter so much to us, and we've really, really want this so bad, but we still don't get ourselves work and push through the discomfort and get out of the comfort zone and actually achieve that.

It's so good. So thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what most people deal with, but they haven't developed the courage yet to say. Let's start with this. Let's start with a story because I love stories and it's how we learn.

In 2014, I was deep in a pornography addiction. I hadn't experienced any plant medicine. I was really at a low point in my life. And in the span of 6 months, I broke up with a woman I thought I was gonna be with. I put my mom in a mental home and I got fired from a quote safe corporate job. Wow. It was like a reckoning for me.

And I had been sitting on this idea of having a podcast for like 3 years. For 3 years, I was like, should I do it? Should I not do it? I was procrastinating. And here's why It wasn't until I got my ass kicked so hard self or by the universe that I was forced to look at the honesty of my life because of pain.

I knew I didn't want what was around me anymore. I knew I didn't want the fruits of my life anymore, but I just simply did not know how to change.

And let's be honest, I was procrastinating for 3 years, playing the safe route, because A, I didn't know really how to love myself. B, I wasn't surrounding myself with the kind of people that could actually fuel the productive side of me. And actually I was hanging out with people on the procrastination side of me. And then C, I didn't experience enough pain yet to really change from.

Like I have to clear my throat because it's interesting. My throat chakra is getting blocked right now. It's because I'm reflecting on that time when I didn't trust myself to speak and express with authority and with conviction. I hadn't earned it yet. I hadn't earned the right to do what you and I are doing right now.

And so for all of us that are dealing with procrastination, let my story be a starting place for you in whatever phase story that you're in.

What is something in your life that every night when you put your head on the pillow, you know that you get to do differently yet you're not doing it? And how much torture and pain does that cause you on a daily basis? Because let's be real, Mar, we're not gonna change habits unless there's enough friction.

I'm reading a book right now called Atomic Habits by James Clear. And he says that friction, the more friction that you have, the harder it is to do a behavior, the harder it is to change. So we actually need so much friction that it becomes so exhausting that we finally do the thing that's causing us the friction we've been resisting.

In other words, the friction or pain has to be so high that we finall...