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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

Ashley Jameson, Heather Kolb, Pure Desire Ministries

Since 2016, Ashley Jameson and Heather Kolb have supported, educated, and equipped women to experience sexual health, healing from betrayal trauma, and success in relationships. We know what it’s like to be in crisis—searching for answers—and continually hearing the churchy answer. Each week, you’ll hear real talk about sex and relationships from a biblical and clinical perspective.
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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 010 - Good Sex, Bad Sex

010 - Good Sex, Bad Sex

Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

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07/25/24 • 16 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • Can my husband rape me?
  • Can I say no to my husband?
  • I feel disconnected when we don't have sex, but when I have sex with my husband I feel used. What can I do to change this pattern?

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 009 - Orgasm…That’s Right, We Said It

009 - Orgasm…That’s Right, We Said It

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07/18/24 • 20 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:

  • My question is how do you know if you are actually having an orgasm?
  • I don’t know that I have ever enjoyed sex. I can orgasm but I don’t know how to wake my body up. Sex was shamed in my Christian home then I was supposed to enjoy it after marriage but for so long, sex was used as a tool when my husband was in his addiction. We are doing so much better, relationally, after PD but I don’t know how to start liking sex.
  • How are the brain and orgasm connected?

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 008 - Sex and Shame

008 - Sex and Shame

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07/11/24 • 19 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:

  • My husband went to a “massage parlor” for a hand job about every two weeks until I discovered what he was doing 13 months later. How do I get over the shame?
  • My question is, after a 33-year marriage, where I trusted my husband, I found out he was having a long-term affair with a married woman. I suspected porn and seeing some of the pictures on his phone, he was into some very devious stuff. I’m now divorced, and I’m wondering if I can trust another man again to love who I am and not feel like I have to be a woman of the world to grab a man’s attention again. I’m doubting that I’m someone desirable in bed anymore.
  • After having sex with my husband, I feel so much shame and often cry. Why is this? We’ve been through the healing process, but I can’t seem to shake these feelings after sex.

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 007 - Lying, Gaslighting, and the Truth

007 - Lying, Gaslighting, and the Truth

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07/04/24 • 17 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:

  • Since discovery, it's been hard for me to know when my husband is telling me the truth. Should I trust my gut intuition even though he’s telling me I’m being paranoid?
  • What is gaslighting? Can you give examples of what this looks like?
  • What are the best ways to respond if I think someone is gaslighting me?

Show Notes:

The Betrayal Bind, by Michelle Mays

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

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Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 006 - When Anger Shows Up Unannounced

006 - When Anger Shows Up Unannounced

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06/27/24 • 16 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • Why am I so angry?
  • My husband betrayed me; why am I taking it out on my kids?
  • Growing up, it was implied that being angry was sinful. I know I'm hurt but how do I know if I'm dealing with anger?

Show Notes

Anger Test

Resources

Full episode on YouTube

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 005 - Is Sexual Addiction Legit?

005 - Is Sexual Addiction Legit?

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06/20/24 • 17 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • Is calling a sexual sin “addiction” just excusing the behavior?
  • Is sex addiction real?
  • People who struggle with sex addiction, why can’t they just stop the behavior?

Show Notes

Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships

Resources

Full episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 004 - D-Day: Discovering Sexual Betrayal

004 - D-Day: Discovering Sexual Betrayal

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06/13/24 • 15 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • What is betrayal trauma?
  • My husband says I'm overreacting but the pain and foggy-headedness I'm feeling seem uncontrollable. Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?
  • Women I’ve been with in group use phrases like "before Pure Desire and after Pure Desire.” What are they referring to?

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 003 - Fantasy

003 - Fantasy

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06/06/24 • 22 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • Is fantasy ever okay?
  • Should my husband share his fantasies with me?
  • I can’t be intimate with my husband unless I fantasize. How can I practice being more present?

Show Notes

The Fantasy Fallacy, by Shannon Ethridge

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 002 - Sex, Sex, and More About Sex

002 - Sex, Sex, and More About Sex

Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

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06/06/24 • 22 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

  • I quit drinking and now I don’t enjoy sex. How can I learn to like sex again?
  • I am afraid to re-engage with my husband sexually after quitting porn. How do I learn to become aroused by my husband instead?
  • My husband and I are doing well with our recovery and healing but I’m still afraid to engage sexually, because I can’t get the images of his porn use and affairs out of my head. Will this ever go away and what can I do to help this process?

Resources

Full Episode on YouTube

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

GET STARTED

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love - 022 - Parenting While In Recovery Part 1

022 - Parenting While In Recovery Part 1

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10/17/24 • 19 min

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:

  • As a parent in recovery, how do I start the conversation about sexual health with my kids?
  • Is there anything about a teen brain that is different from an adult when it comes to struggling sexually or emotionally?
  • How can I help my kids who struggle?

Resources

Full Episode On Youtube

Betrayal & Beyond

Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships

Authentically You

Seven Pillars

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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How many episodes does Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love have?

Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love currently has 28 episodes available.

What topics does Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love cover?

The podcast is about Porn, Addiction, Christianity, Healing, Sex, Women, Love, Self-Help, Mental Health, Religion & Spirituality, Podcasts, Marriage, Self-Improvement, Education, Religion, Trauma, Relationships, Recovery and Christian.

What is the most popular episode on Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love?

The episode title '010 - Good Sex, Bad Sex' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love?

The average episode length on Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love is 18 minutes.

How often are episodes of Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love released?

Episodes of Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love are typically released every 7 days.

When was the first episode of Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love?

The first episode of Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love was released on May 30, 2024.

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