237 Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
04/02/24 • 43 min
Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
· Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
· Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
· Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.
More about unmasking
- Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships.
- It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity.
- The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable.
- Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking.
- The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships.
- Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.
Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
· Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
· Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
· Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.
More about unmasking
- Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships.
- It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity.
- The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable.
- Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking.
- The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships.
- Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.
Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Previous Episode
236 Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Staying true to your authentic self is important when creating content.
Building trust and security in relationships takes time and vulnerability.
The value of a podcast is not solely determined by download numbers.
Interdependence allows for mutual support and growth in relationships.
- Understanding the importance of emotional vulnerability.
- Exploring newfound perspectives and insights.
- Recognizing and embracing feelings of exposure.
- Reflecting on personal trauma and its impact on self-awareness.
- Acknowledging the significance of maintaining authenticity in self-expression.
- Navigating the balance between showcasing autism identity and personal growth.
- Exploring the process of redefining podcast branding and content focus.
- Embracing the journey of self-discovery and acceptance.
- Recognizing the value of open-hearted communication.
- Reflecting on personal growth and aspirations for authenticity in content creation.
- Discussing the impact of external validation on podcast metrics and audience engagement.
- Emphasizing the importance of sharing valuable content.
- Reflecting on personal struggles with content creation and self-expression.
- Recognizing the significance of relational content in podcast episodes.
- Embracing the challenges and rewards of discussing personal relationships openly.
- Exploring the impact of neurodivergence on relational dynamics and communication.
- Navigating shifts in podcast content focus and listener engagement.
- Reflecting on the journey of self-acceptance and authenticity.
- Embracing the diversity of perspectives and experiences in relationships.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
02:44 Struggles with Linear Content and Personal Experience
08:04 Shifting Focus to Relational Content
13:26 Building Trust and Security in the Relationship
21:18 Navigating Attachment Insecurities
25:24 Interdependence and Holding Space for Each Other
28:08 Communication and Vulnerability in the Relationship
31:20 Planning Visits and Considering Context
34:08 Conclusion and Gratitude
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Next Episode
238 Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.
Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.
Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.
Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.
Additional takeaways:
- Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years.
- Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships.
- Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity.
- Discover the importance of staying connected during separations.
- Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system.
- Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo.
- Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships.
- Explore personal growth through periods of solitude.
- Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence.
- Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience.
- Consider the balance between independence and interdependence.
- Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations.
- Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship.
- Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion.
- Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone
03:04 Trusting the Process
04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD
05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others
06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy
07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
09:13 Taking Care of Pets
11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships
13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension
16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting
22:30 Processing and Communication
24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance
26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace
28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
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