
108 Coming to a Place of Peace Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) with Heather Bollman
03/04/21 • 26 min
Coming to a Place of Peace Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Heather did not like being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). She struggled with accepting the trait. She also felt challenged being a Highly Sensitive Person and working as a nurse. Heather talks about learning to accept how she’s wired, and developing an understanding of the trait, and being able to verbalize to others about being a Highly Sensitive Person.
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN, is someone who is still learning who she is. She’s an RN who holds a master’s degree, and she’s been practicing for almost 16 years. She’s an introvert, an HSP, and an empath.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—[email protected]
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Coming to a Place of Peace Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Heather did not like being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). She struggled with accepting the trait. She also felt challenged being a Highly Sensitive Person and working as a nurse. Heather talks about learning to accept how she’s wired, and developing an understanding of the trait, and being able to verbalize to others about being a Highly Sensitive Person.
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN, is someone who is still learning who she is. She’s an RN who holds a master’s degree, and she’s been practicing for almost 16 years. She’s an introvert, an HSP, and an empath.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
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To write a review in itunes:
- click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
- choose “ratings and reviews”
- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—[email protected]
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Previous Episode

107 A Sensitive Man Who Embraces and Loves his Sensitivity with Andy Smallman
TITLE
A Sensitive Man Who Embraces and Loves his Sensitivity.
GUEST
Andy Smallman
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Andy talks about being called a woman/man when he was a teacher, and having a girlfriend break up with him because he wasn’t “tough enough.” His personal stories embody vulnerability that most can relate to, and they show his remarkable resilience. Andy is passionate about helping boys maintain their sensitivity. He and his wife founded a school based on social and emotional learning, and he now offers online classes internationally for kids to learn to see awe and wonder, and to focus on kindness.
GUEST
For over 25 years, Andy Smallman has been promoting ordinary activities that awaken kindness, helping people connect to their true nature and increase peace in the world. With our shelter-in-place rules, he has been helping people feel less isolated by offering opportunities to connect with others via video chat. Andy is also a visionary educator, being the founding director of the Puget Sound Community School. Andy has brought his pioneering work in SEL (Social & Emotional Learning) online, offering children from all over the world a chance to connect to others.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Andy’s Links
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
To write a review in itunes:
- click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
- choose “ratings and reviews”
- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—[email protected]
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Next Episode

109 The Power of Attachment Styles and the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) with Jessica Fern, MS
TITLE
The Power of Attachment Styles and the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Jessica Fern, MS
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jessica Fern explains why attachment is important; what fosters a secure attachment; what creates an insecure attachment; the 4 types of attachment systems, and she has an insight about the Highly Sensitive Person and attachment. We talk about how attachment injuries show up in relationships, and that ruptures and misattunement aren’t always bad. Jessica talks about what to do if we’re experiencing an attachment injury, and we want to regulate and experience a secure attachment.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is attachment
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- Attachment theory John Bowlby
- We’re wired to expect connection
- We have a biological need for attunement.
- It’s a primary survival response—emotional bonding
- Why is attachment important
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- It’s our blueprint for life
- It dictates our sense of self-esteem
- We learn that people are safe, we can trust and that we are cared for
- What fosters a secure attachment
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- In childhood, children need a safe haven and a safe base
- Caretakers/parents receive you
- You have a safe place to turn to
- You and your needs are responded to
- ARE—Available, Responsive, Emotionally Engaged
- What types of things create insecure attachment
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- Neglect, abuse, emotional neglect, childhood emotional abuse, having parents who are emotionally immature
- Inconsistency in responding to your needs
- Codependency on the parent’s part—role reversal
- Over focus on independence
- 4 types of attachments:
- Secure
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- You still will have insecurities
- Can communicate your needs
- Respect your self and and your partner’s needs
- Can set boundaries
- Don’t worry about getting too close or being engulfed or abandoned
- Avoidant/Dismissive
- Withdrawn
- Keep people at arm’s length
- Don’t have needs
- Very independent
- Minimizing other’s needs
- Aloof, uncaring
- Can be related to Narcisstic Personality Disorder
- Ambivalent (Anxious)/Preoccupied
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- Hyperactivating
- Focus on the partner
- Concerned about being left
- “clingy,” “needy,” “too much”
- Tuned into relational needs
- Miss red flags
- Don’t trust love when they receive it
- Can be related to Borderline Personality Disorder
- Disorganized/Fearful/Withdrawn
- Due to overt trauma
- Push/pull
- Come here/go away
- Insights about the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and attachment
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- Highly Sensitive Children (HSCs) and parents have mismatched nervous systems
- Can create a disorganized/fearful/avoidant attachment
- HSPs tend to internalize
- How do attachment injuries show up in relationships?
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- Problems with intimacy
- Ruptures in relationships
- Missatunements
- Mistrust
- Conflict/avoidance of conflict
- If we’re experiencing an attachment injury, what are things we can do to get that feeling of security
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- Lean in/lean back
- Imagine your partner either extending to you, or you taking your energy back
- Body scan for a relaxation
- Imagine the people who love and support you around you in a peaceful place you imagine
- Repeat, “In this moment, I am safe.”
- Imagine your inner protector/outer protector
GUEST
Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-com...
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