The Pros and Cons of Being a Slut

12/12/23 • 81 min

Hoe-tales: The Pros and Cons of Being a Slut

We thought that we were done slut-shaming, but apparently we’re back to calling women sluts and whores. The double standard is real. Way too many are pointing the finger at women calling them out of their names, but not enough people are recognizing that they’re not sleeping with themselves. Plus, the assumption of what someone is doing without actually knowing is definitely frustrating all parties involved. We’re so quick to pass judgment on women on their own journey learning to navigate and figure themselves out. Your youth is designed for learning and exploring. And keeping your options open, having a multitude of energetic exchanges, and living life your way is your choice! Just be clear of the consequences, benefits, and opportunities of it all! We talk through the whole spectrum and explore the pros and cons of being a slut.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8q4ikMIo-hs

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Quote of the Week

“If you consider a woman less pure after you’ve touched her, maybe you should take a look at your hands.” - Kaija Sabbah

Dating Well AF Tip

“Knowing who you are and what you want sets your standard and helps you date better.” – Alechia Reese & Dani Bourdeau

Getting to know yourself better is a lifelong journey of self-discovery and personal growth. It takes real intentional effort to become your own bestie.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Sex connects and disconnects some women and it's many times based on how you were introduced to it.
You will have to resolve the person you once were as you change and evolve, it’s necessary to forgive yourself and honor that past version of yourself without feeling shame.
The decisions you make directly affect your type of lifestyle and experience.
Is ignorance really bliss? Once you know how it’s supposed to feel it’s hard to go to something that doesn’t feel good.

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Alechia Reese

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Dani Bourdeau

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Hoe-tales: The Pros and Cons of Being a Slut

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8q4ikMIo-hs

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

Quote of the Week

“If you consider a woman less pure after you’ve touched her, maybe you should take a look at your hands.” - Kaija Sabbah

Dating Well AF Tip

“Knowing who you are and what you want sets your standard and helps you date better.” – Alechia Reese & Dani Bourdeau

Getting to know yourself better is a lifelong journey of self-discovery and personal growth. It takes real intentional effort to become your own bestie.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Sex connects and disconnects some women and it's many times based on how you were introduced to it.
You will have to resolve the person you once were as you change and evolve, it’s necessary to forgive yourself and honor that past version of yourself without feeling shame.
The decisions you make directly affect your type of lifestyle and experience.
Is ignorance really bliss? Once you know how it’s supposed to feel it’s hard to go to something that doesn’t feel good.

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

Like what you're hearing? Follow Triggered AF and share the love!

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

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How to Build Your Legacy and Manage Your Assets

Money and Legacy: Planning for the Final Chapter

Over 70% of African Americans don’t have an estate plan. Over the next 25 years the largest wealth transfer will occur in American history, but the majority of Black people aren’t going to participate in that because we don’t have estate plans. You can keep complaining about what’s happening to you or learn how to build legacies for yourself and your families. Edges were laid and wigs were snatched speaking with Attorney India Ali, Esq. and Ashley M. Fox of Empify, they gave actionable steps that you can use today to begin preserving and structuring the legacy for your family. Whether you're rich or working on it, this episode is for you!

Watch the conversation on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/_SLg_eOby3I

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Quote of the Week

“Might fuck around and find out how worthy I am in this lifetime.” – Lauren Eliz Love

Dating Well AF Tip

"The longer you entertain what's not for you, the longer you postpone what is."

Dating potential and not honoring what you truly want and the type lifestyle you desire will only ensure you never get it.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Legacy is started and created while you’re living.
We hyperfocus on death, but when it comes to legacy planning, focus on putting a structure around the legacy you’re living now.
You plan trips, marriages, and vacations. Be willing to also structure your end of life plans.
People die, assets don’t!
Wanting your children or family to “get it out the mud” comes from a place of anger, not love.
Set your child up so they have the tools and resources to lead the life they want to lead versus the one they have to lead.
The person in the mirror is who changes your life.

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India Y. Ali, Esq

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Ashley M. Fox

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleymfox1

Website: https://www.empify.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | http://linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

Like what you're hearing? Follow Triggered AF and share the love!

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The more stories you collect the more clogged your meaning-making machine can be. Many times, this prevents us from moving through our emotions as quickly. Sitting down with Shaun Derik, affectionately known as, Internet Jesus, we took a deep dive into the things we hide, the shade we throw, and the actions that aren’t as becoming. One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly. Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long. Tap into the episode to help develop your tools to get there.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SA07wbeF05I

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Quote of the Week

“Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it — it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy.” - Brené Brown

Dating Well AF Tip

“Learning how to identify and manage how you respond to your triggers helps you to breathe through your triggers so you can think.”

STEP #1: Write down 10 of your triggers. Then on a scale of 1(mild reaction)-10(Blowing shit up), rate each one.
STEP #2: For all 6+ ratings, write out your usual or default reaction.
STEP #3: For all 6+ ratings, create new alternative reactions or defaults.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

How you’re feeling is not always an indication of how you’re doing.
Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long.
One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly.
Working through shame can be achieved by asking yourself “why?” Getting down to the why behind your decisions and choices helps you overcome your shame around them.
Different people have different access to learning tools so you cannot hold judgment for them based on your growth and resources.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Shaun Derik

Instagram | http://instagram.com/shaunderik

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@shaunderik

Website: https://beacons.ai/shaunderik

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com