Episode 11 Season 4: How to Heal Trauma Without Blaming Yourself
08/26/24 • 41 min
Episode Description
Even if we know it intellectually not to be true, trauma, abuse, and neglect survivors internalize blame when they are mistreated, particularly those who suffer from childhood abuses and narcissistic abuses. Knowing the difference between blame and self-validation, finding the balance between knowing what happened to you and taking ownership of healing, and finding the line between self-compassion and victim mindsets can make all the difference in your healing journey. It's important to know that two things can be true at once:
- Abuse is never your fault AND you can take ownership of your healing journey.
- You are enough AND feeling like it is your fault is normal when you've experienced abuse.
- You can acknowledge what happened to you AND not live in blame or victim mentalities.
Breakdown of Episode
1:17 Intro to Episode
6:17 Do You Know It Wasn't Your Fault on a Body Level?
11:42 Abuse is NEVER Your Fault
14:56 What Is the Difference Between Blame and Validating Your Experience?
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Episode Description
Even if we know it intellectually not to be true, trauma, abuse, and neglect survivors internalize blame when they are mistreated, particularly those who suffer from childhood abuses and narcissistic abuses. Knowing the difference between blame and self-validation, finding the balance between knowing what happened to you and taking ownership of healing, and finding the line between self-compassion and victim mindsets can make all the difference in your healing journey. It's important to know that two things can be true at once:
- Abuse is never your fault AND you can take ownership of your healing journey.
- You are enough AND feeling like it is your fault is normal when you've experienced abuse.
- You can acknowledge what happened to you AND not live in blame or victim mentalities.
Breakdown of Episode
1:17 Intro to Episode
6:17 Do You Know It Wasn't Your Fault on a Body Level?
11:42 Abuse is NEVER Your Fault
14:56 What Is the Difference Between Blame and Validating Your Experience?
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Episode 10 Season 4: Twenty-One Ways to Protect Yourself as an HSP
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An HSP, or Highly Sensitive Person, is a person who has been proven by science to respond to the world differently. You may be more sensitive to light, sound, stimuli, people, and the emotions of others. Being an HSP comes with a unique set of gifts and challenges. While you are more attuned to the beauty around you, you may also be more aware of the dangers. In this talk, we cover how HSP's are wired, the science behind HSPs, how you can protect yourself as an HSP, and how you can care for yourself as a Christian HSP so you can share your gifts, love and help others, protect yourself, and do the healing work, at the same time. We cover twenty-one strategies to protect yourself through boundary setting, self-care practices, and protecting yourself as a Christian HSP in particular. God made you how you are because He wanted you exactly as you are, and you have a right to protect yourself as an HSP so you can live a happy and productive life.
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Episode 12 Season 4: Roles and Relationships in Narcissistic Family Dynamics
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If you were raised in a family where people were narcissists or had high narcissistic traits, understanding the roles and relationship dynamics in a narcissistic family can help you understand your trauma and protect yourself now. When we say narcissistic family, this doesn't mean everyone is in the family has high narcissistic traits, but it means that one or more people does, either children, parents, or both, and this deeply impacts all family members.
We discuss the roles children play in this family dynamic. Then we discuss narcissistic family dynamics in general and the unwritten rules and behaviors in this family structure. Lastly, we cover when a sibling has these traits and how this can impact others in the family and when a parent has narcissistic traits and how this impacts the family. While it isn't healthy to obsess over the narcissist, understanding these family dynamics, you can learn more about why you are the way you are, know it isn't your fault, love all people in your family in the best way possible, and start the healing process to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself. You can live the life God intended, because you are empowered and educated on this family dynamic.
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