What It Takes to Divorce a Difficult Toxic Person: A Hijackal®!
07/12/17 • 51 min
The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.
In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.
You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.
Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.
What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?
How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.
CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn
Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.
Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com
Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships
Watch her YouTube Channel
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.
In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.
You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.
Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.
What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?
How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.
CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn
Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.
Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com
Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships
Watch her YouTube Channel
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Christine then became a top coach for John Gray and by combining this coaching experience with her own personal dating experience she created her Transform Your Dating Life system.
Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's work at ForRelationshipHelp.com
Subscribe to her YouTube channel , ForRelationshipHelp
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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