
10: How To Tame Your Jealous Actions
08/30/22 • 25 min
In this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions. She breaks these action habits into two categories
- Undercover Action Habits
- Direct Action Habits
Download the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions.
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In this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions. She breaks these action habits into two categories
- Undercover Action Habits
- Direct Action Habits
Download the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions.
Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.
Wanna feel more supported?
Join women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.
Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy
Disclaimer
The information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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09: Is Jealousy Keeping You Ruthless with Dr. Marcia Sirota
“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia Sirota
Being kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well.
There seems to be a common theme among society, which is that we experience a lot of negative self-talk which causes us to not be compassionate with ourselves, or others. This can become an issue, especially in intimate relationships, because a lot of the mistrust and jealousy comes from innate negative self-talk where we filter the world through that perception.
What would happen if you became aware of those filters, and decided to change your perspective to have ruthless compassion for yourself and others? What would your life and relationships look like?
Forgiving yourself for the past is the first step, and resetting to do better in each moment is the key. You will never be ‘perfect’. This is an impossible standard that we need to do away with. What we can do is improve in every moment with kindness as our anchor.
On today’s episode, we have invited Dr. Marcia Sirota who is a board certified psychiatrist and host of the ‘Ruthless Compassion’ podcast. Who better to help us uncover what it means to be ruthlessly compassionate and cultivate kindness within yourself and others!
Marcia is on a mission to create an army of kindness warriors, because the world is in desperate need of this. Also, having this compassion for yourself could be the turning point for your jealousy in relationships.
So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we have a challenge for you. Listen in to hear what it is and let us know if it helped you!
Topics discussed in this episode:
● What does it mean to be a kindness warrior
● Two ways we can have jealousy
● Importance of a reality check when differentiating jealousy
● When you need to use ruthless compassion
● Importance of slowing down and relaxing to conjure a reality check
● Difference between being self indulgent, lenient, and kind
● Importance of having reasonable expectations of yourself
● Perception through the filter of our past vs. the truth
● Importance of mindfulness as a tool to cut through our filters
● The ruthless piece of ruthless compassion
● The importance of mental flexibility
● Take every opportunity to be kind
● A challenge for all the jealousy junkies out there!
To learn h
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11: Tap Into The More Wise Part Of You w/ Dr. Ann Balkanski
All of us tend to lead with our thinking mind, which only makes up about 10% of who we actually are. There are other parts of our brain that have a larger capacity to accurately intake the information around us. However these parts of our mind are difficult to tap into, which is why there are tools such as hypnotherapy that can be used to enter these wiser faculties of our mind and help aid us in dealing with unpleasant feelings and emotions like jealousy.
On today’s episode, medical doctor and hypnotherapist Dr. Ann Marie Balkanski shares one way of tapping into the subconscious mind and explains why it’s so important to get to know our subconscious mind as well as our working mind.
By communicating directly with the feeling body, Dr. Balkanski helps her patients to engage with their subconscious in order to facilitate the start of the healing process.
Dr. Balkanski’s work centers on the idea that memories are actually held within the body and that by familiarizing oneself with what those experiences make us feel, we can work through these traumas and let go.
Hypnosis is about waking up and finding clarity on a situation, and feelings and experiences of jealousy are no different.
So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we’re inviting you to try a bit of self-hypnosis and tap into the bigger, wiser part of your mind. Listen and let us know if it helped you!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Tapping into the subconscious mind
- There’s so much more to who you are
- Befriending all parts of your mind
- Behaviors: the movie-based experiences of life
- Dr. Balkanski’s journey to hypnotherapy
- How hypnotherapy can help overcome jealousy
- Waking up with hypnosis
- Working within the hypnagogic state
- The power of meditation
Check out two of Dr. Balkanski’s meditations below.
Building Confidence Meditation
Reaching Your Goals Meditation
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Top Self - 10: How To Tame Your Jealous Actions
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[00:00:00] Shanenn Bryant: There's a really simple model to help understand how your thoughts are directly connected to your results. The model goes like this thoughts become feelings, feelings, become actions, actions become results.
[00:00:15] Shanenn: Now I'll say that one more time in case you were multitasking. So here it. Thoughts become feelings, feelings, become actions, actions become results. So it's clear your thoughts kick off this chain of e
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