05: Rebuilding The Relationship After Betrayal with Dr. Ruth Harpur

07/19/22 • 36 min

The aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating. So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship. Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship?
In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal.
Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a new detail.
She warns being too eager to ask for all the details of the affair but instead focusing on the details of what the affair meant to the offender and what it means to you.
This episode is not intended as therapy and could contain potentially distressing material.
Free Compassion Focused Meditation from Dr. Harpur: https://ruth-ann-harpur.mykajabi.com/pl/2147603458
Connect with Dr. Harpur on IG and TikTok @drruthannharpur

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[00:00:00] Shanenn Bryant: I wanna highlight this episode as potentially triggering for some of you. I will say that any episode could be a bit triggering and just ask that you use some self-care and if you start to feel too emotional, too triggered nd that you maybe can't handle today, the conversation, press pause and come back to it later if you feel like it.

[00:00:28] Shanenn Bryant: I won't say that in front of every episode, but I did wanna call