96. Help! I Got Fired From My Favorite Job

04/05/25 • 48 min

Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Julie Voris as we explore the profound and often overlooked transition to empty nesting—a journey that many parents experience but few openly discuss. In a society lacking cultural roadmaps and generational models, this phase can leave parents feeling lost and uncertain about their purpose once their children become independent.

Julie shares her personal path of moving from Indiana to Florida while her three daughters embarked on their own independent lives across the country. She reveals a crucial insight: the initial empty nesting phase, when children leave for college, is merely a rehearsal for the deeper transition that occurs when they achieve full autonomy—landing jobs, forming significant relationships, and making major life decisions without parental input.

Highlights:

Emotional complexities during this transition, experiencing simultaneous feelings of pride, sadness, confusion, and excitement.
The empty nest phase as an opportunity for personal growth and identity reclamation.
The importance of seeking professional support and building a fulfilling life that fosters healthier relationships with adult children.

Key Takeaways:

Recognize that college is just a "dress rehearsal" for true empty nesting, where autonomy presents the biggest challenges.
Understand that feelings of confusion and sadness are common and should not be isolated or ashamed.
Strive to be the kind of person your adult children want to be around, demonstrating the value of self-improvement.

Julie Voris Bio

Julie Voris is a Mindset + Habits coach for women who are done getting lost in the minutiae, tired of playing small, and “so over” asking for permission. She helps them to tap into the power of habits to create more impact & income while serving as inspiring role models for their family.
When Julie isn’t dishing truth, hope & energy to her audience, you can find her soaking in the magic at Walt Disney World in Florida, where she and her husband recently moved, making a lifelong dream come true, as well as traveling to see their three amazing daughters, and buying too many books in a local bookstore.

You can find Julie Online: Instagram, Facebook, Website

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Highlights:

Emotional complexities during this transition, experiencing simultaneous feelings of pride, sadness, confusion, and excitement.
The empty nest phase as an opportunity for personal growth and identity reclamation.
The importance of seeking professional support and building a fulfilling life that fosters healthier relationships with adult children.

Key Takeaways:

Recognize that college is just a "dress rehearsal" for true empty nesting, where autonomy presents the biggest challenges.
Understand that feelings of confusion and sadness are common and should not be isolated or ashamed.
Strive to be the kind of person your adult children want to be around, demonstrating the value of self-improvement.

Julie Voris Bio

You can find Julie Online: Instagram, Facebook, Website

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3 Steps to Loving Your Empty Nest Life

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95. Your Kids, Their Debt: A Parent's Guide to College Funding Conversations

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What happens when a burnt-out attorney with $200,000 in student loan debt decides to completely transform her life as an empty nester? Join us as Jessica Medina candidly shares her experiences burdened with a staggering average student loan debt of $145,000. She discusses the emotional weight of student loans and why they require special consideration, alongside practical strategies for parents approaching college funding conversations with their children.

The conversation takes a personal turn as Jessica prepares for her own empty nest. After raising twins as a single mom while juggling her legal career, she found love and began plotting her “second chapter” with her husband, which included developing the financial skills necessary to leave law behind and pursue their dream of vineyard ownership in Asheville, North Carolina.

Highlights:

The emotional burdens associated with student debt and its impact on effective financial planning.
Strategies for open conversations about college funding expectations with children.

Key Takeaways:

Addressing student loan debt requires unique strategies and emotional awareness.
Early discussions about college funding can alleviate future stress and miscommunication.

Join us for this insightful episode as we explore Jessica's journey and her wisdom on navigating the challenges of student debt, redefining personal identity in mid-life, and building a vibrant community as an empty nester.

Jessica Medina's Bio

Jessica Medina is a lawyer turned Accredited Financial Counselor on a mission to help attorneys create the financial freedom they need to do big things. She graduated from Columbia Law School in 2004 as a single mom of twins with over $200,000 in student loans and went straight to work at a Biglaw firm. After eight years she switched roles and became Senior Counsel at the Division of Enforcement at the United States Securities and Exchange Commission. She left the government to work in an area of the financial industry outside of the securities world and now teaches other lawyers how to use their money to finance their dream lives.

You can find Jessica online: LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, Website

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97. Beyond the Scale: Rethinking Health, Strength, and Purpose After the Kids Leave

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As our bodies begin to show the signs of aging, it’s easy to feel defeated. In this empowering episode, wellness expert Krista Daley shares her insights on how to navigate the midlife transition with strength and strategic adaptation, fostering a resilient mindset that celebrates our capabilities.

Krista's journey as a "wellness warrior" began after her brain tumor diagnosis in 2010, while she was raising young children. This experience taught her that we are often stronger than we believe, a lesson that becomes crucial during perimenopause and menopause when familiar workouts start to feel challenging.

Highlights:

A revolutionary take on women’s health: Krista challenges the weight-focused fitness mentality, advocating for muscle-building as the primary goal for midlife women.
The benefits of building muscle: improved mood, enhanced metabolism, and sustainable strength that supports independence into later years.
The liberating 80-20 approach to nutrition, allowing flexibility while maintaining focus on health.
The dangers of high-intensity training during perimenopause and menopause.
How nature serves as a powerful reset button for mental well-being, encouraging more frequent movement breaks.
The newfound freedom that comes with the empty nest, embracing travel and cultural experiences at a slower pace.

Key Takeaways:

Aging doesn’t have to mean defeat; instead, focus on adapting your workouts to suit your body’s needs.
Shifting the narrative from weight loss to muscle building can significantly enhance your quality of life during midlife.

Join us as we flip the script on midlife wellness, providing inspiration and practical tools to embrace your empty nest years with strength and adaptability.

Krista Daley's Bio

Krista helps midlife women clear the confusion on how to boost metabolism, stress less, and focus back on themselves again after caring for everyone else for so long.

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This Empty Nest Life - 96. Help! I Got Fired From My Favorite Job

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Speaker 100:00:00.240

Our generation . The parents were like okay , go get married now and have children . And just the gap between us , you know , graduating college , for example , and then getting married and having children that gap was so small that they were on to their next role .

Speaker 200:00:15.935

Right .

Speaker 100:00:16.414

Quickly .