The Therapeutic Parenting Podcast - Successful Strategies for Parenting a Violent and Aggressive Child

Successful Strategies for Parenting a Violent and Aggressive Child

06/21/21 • 33 min

Little else could be more destructive to a family unit than a child who is violent and aggressive towards their adoptive or foster parents.
In this week's episode, our expert guest, Jane Mitchell, tells us that children can show superhuman strength when their fears are adrenaline-fuelled.
The result can be harm to the parents and costly damage to the family home.
As Jane explains, this behaviour is a symptom of the child's sense of overwhelm triggered by traumatic memories. They're not conscious of what they're doing and parents need to put into place careful plans and strategies to cope.
There's plenty of good advice here on effective de-escalation techniques and Jane also refers to two courses* provided by the National Association of Therapeutic Parents (the NATP) as well as to the non-violence resistance courses available through many local authorities in the UK.
The vast majority of children who behave this way learn to control their fears with the right kind of therapeutic parenting - and to move forward into a more settled way of life.
*Therapeutically De-escalating Violence 6-week Programme and the Introduction to De-escalation and Protective Interventions are available through COECT's partner agency, the Inspire Training Group

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COECT, The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma is an umbrella organisation combining resources, research and knowledge from cutting edge experts in the sector – Inspire Training Group, National Association of Therapeutic Parents, Sarah Naish – Keynote Speaker and Author, The Haven – Parenting and Wellbeing Centre and Safer Fostering.

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Telephone – 01453 519000

Email – [email protected]

Website - www.coect.co.uk

Previous Episode

Dealing with Relationship Strain for Parents of Traumatized Children

This week COECT's CEO Sarah Naish talks from personal experience about the strain placed on a relationship when a couple adopts or fosters traumatized children.
Parents can quickly experience isolation within the relationship itself. This is especially the case if one becomes the main carer and the other is not around enough to witness the difficulties that arise.
About 1 in 3 relationships fail in such families unless help is sought.
As Sarah says, raising traumatized children can test relationships to the limit but she presents three effective strategies to combat the problem.
COECT also holds workshops and webinars to help couples put these strategies into practice.
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COECT, The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma is an umbrella organisation combining resources, research and knowledge from cutting edge experts in the sector – Inspire Training Group, National Association of Therapeutic Parents, Sarah Naish – Keynote Speaker and Author, The Haven – Parenting and Wellbeing Centre and Safer Fostering.

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/CoEChildTrauma

Telephone – 01453 519000

Email – [email protected]

Website - www.coect.co.uk

Next Episode

What To Do When Your Child Soils Themselves

Your first reaction to the sight of your child smeared in its own poo could well be shock and revulsion.

But understanding why they do strange things with their faeces or when they urinate on the carpet is key to finding a solution.
You might be surprised to learn that this is one of the issues most asked-about on our Facebook page.
This episode's guest, Sarah Dillon, the COECT's Therapeutic Lead, has helped many parents and children overcome wee and poo issues using therapeutic parenting-inspired strategies.
As she tells us, such problems can seriously interfere with how children attach to their parents and they can occur with older teenagers as well as the very young.
But, the important thing is to find a way to ensure that relationships stay strong by using a series of strategies that reinforce a child's sense that it is safe, accepted and loved.
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COECT, The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma is an umbrella organisation combining resources, research and knowledge from cutting edge experts in the sector – Inspire Training Group, National Association of Therapeutic Parents, Sarah Naish – Keynote Speaker and Author, The Haven – Parenting and Wellbeing Centre and Safer Fostering.