The Dream You Inherited vs. The Dream You Create
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02/25/25 • 53 min
Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡
Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that so much of what we believe about ourselves isn’t even ours. We’ve been programmed—from childhood, from culture, from religion—to follow a script we never agreed to. And when we start to question it? That’s when the real magic happens. ✨
We’re talking:
🔥 The lies you’ve been taught that keep you stuck in your marriage (and in life)
🔥 How to tell the difference between your truth and someone else’s programming
🔥 The power of dismantling those old beliefs so you can rewrite your story
🔥 How listening to your body (not just your brain) is the key to breaking free
And yes, I’m getting vulnerable as hell about my own journey—how my political and personal evolution has changed everything about how I show up in the world. Next week, I’ll be sharing an episode that dives even deeper into that transformation in honor of the protests happening on March 4th.
So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re at war with yourself, if your inner voice is screaming that something isn’t right, or if you just need to hear that you are not crazy for wanting more, then hit play, my love. This episode is for you. 💛
P.S. If this episode speaks to you, share it with another woman in your life who might be feeling stuck in someone else’s dream. And if you haven’t yet, hit that subscribe button and drop a review—it helps so much! 🎧💖
Show Notes:
Don't Believe Him - The Ezra Klein Show
Ezra Klein - NYT Opinion
The Voice of Knowledge - Don Miguel Ruiz
Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡
Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that so much of what we believe about ourselves isn’t even ours. We’ve been programmed—from childhood, from culture, from religion—to follow a script we never agreed to. And when we start to question it? That’s when the real magic happens. ✨
We’re talking:
🔥 The lies you’ve been taught that keep you stuck in your marriage (and in life)
🔥 How to tell the difference between your truth and someone else’s programming
🔥 The power of dismantling those old beliefs so you can rewrite your story
🔥 How listening to your body (not just your brain) is the key to breaking free
And yes, I’m getting vulnerable as hell about my own journey—how my political and personal evolution has changed everything about how I show up in the world. Next week, I’ll be sharing an episode that dives even deeper into that transformation in honor of the protests happening on March 4th.
So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re at war with yourself, if your inner voice is screaming that something isn’t right, or if you just need to hear that you are not crazy for wanting more, then hit play, my love. This episode is for you. 💛
P.S. If this episode speaks to you, share it with another woman in your life who might be feeling stuck in someone else’s dream. And if you haven’t yet, hit that subscribe button and drop a review—it helps so much! 🎧💖
Show Notes:
Don't Believe Him - The Ezra Klein Show
Ezra Klein - NYT Opinion
The Voice of Knowledge - Don Miguel Ruiz
Previous Episode
“Something Had to Die for More to Be Born” With Guest Allison Alexander
Episode 45: Y’all, this episode is something truly special. I’ve been hinting at it for a while, and the moment is finally here—I’m joined by the incredible Allison Alexander! 🎉
Allison’s story is powerful, raw, and so deeply resonant for anyone who has ever questioned whether to stay or go. She takes us through her journey, from the moment she first felt the whisper that something wasn’t right in her marriage, to the radical self-discovery that followed. Through breathwork, movement, and deep inner work, she found clarity, peace, and ultimately, the courage to choose herself.
We talk about:
💡 The pivotal moment she realized her marriage wasn’t aligned anymore
💡 How physical distance gave her space to hear her own inner wisdom
💡 The power of embodiment—breathwork, movement, and listening to the body’s truth
💡 Why choosing yourself and being selfish is essential for us as women
💡 The surprising turn her relationship took when she held firm in her boundaries
And here’s the best part—Allison is bringing her magic directly to our community with an upcoming breathwork workshop on the 21st of this month! If you’ve been considering joining, now is the time. Because trust me, this is going to be next-level transformative. 🌿✨
🔗 Join us for the workshop: Text STAYORGOCommunity to 33777 to apply!
Also, don’t forget to check out Allison’s work—she offers intuitive coaching, tarot readings, and so much more. Connect with her through the links in the show notes!
This episode is a must-listen for anyone craving clarity, embodiment, and deep self-trust. You are worthy of choosing yourself. 💛
Show Notes:
Next Episode
Why My Power and Politics Are Inseparable—and Yours Might Be Too
Episode 47: I’ve been getting messages asking me to “just talk about divorce” and leave politics out of it. But here’s the truth: personal power is political.🔥 The same fire that helps you leave a suffocating marriage is the fire that makes me speak up. 💥
In this episode, I share my own messy awakening—how I went from staying small to reclaiming my voice. And why I refuse to shrink for anyone. If that hits deep, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in. 🎙️💪🔥
Show Notes:
Where Trump policies and Project 2025 proposals match up
What To Read Before Donald Trump’s 2025 Address to Congress
D.L. Mayfield: Recovering Autonomy After Religious Authoritarian Parenting
Post from last week's episode “White Women Need to Focus on White Women.”
Powerful Resources for Educating Yourself on Others Experiences
Outstanding: A Comedy Revolution
Accounts to consider following:
https://www.instagram.com/50501movement/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/jesscraven101/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/workingfamilies/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/xavier.ramey/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/thehumanityarchive/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/raytrospectively/
https://www.instagram.com/dasiadoesit/
https://www.instagram.com/thesimpleenvironmentalist/
https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/
https://www.instagram.com/ezraklein/
https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/
https://www.instagram.com/everydayactivist.co/?g=5
https://www.instagram.com/pattiegonia/
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