Are You Resisting Failure?

01/14/21 • 30 min

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Hello listeners, it’s Episode 20! This week I’m here talking about failure resistance. At first you make think, DUH, of course I am resisting failure.

That’s not exactly the full idea I’m discussing this week. Failure resistance is working or showing up in a way that avoids failure --as the primary driver. It is making any other goal or objective come in second place by default. I’m defining failure as not achieving the expected or desired outcome.

Often, this is our way of avoiding failure in the form of unpleasant feelings. I’ve come to realize that feelings cannot actually injure me, and I’ve discussed in past episodes how important it is to feel your wide range of emotions. You’d never want to limit yourself. In real life, this looks like making small goals, procrastinating, being hard on yourself or others when expectations aren’t met or not even considering failure as an option.

I challenge you to pause and take a deeper look at yourself and your emotions. Give a name to the feelings, explore why there are some feelings you’re avoiding and finally make steps and move forward. Go forth without the fear of failure!
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No Name, No Limits with Robin MacMillan

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019 Hey guys, I’m back this week with another guest episode. I’m talking with Robin MacMillan. She was such a joy and I’m glad I helped share her story.

Robin has two older children and her son Robbie who is 17. She didn’t think anything was different about her son when he was a baby, but was urged by a home nurse to have him checked out. Turns out, he was only the second recorded case of complete deletion of chromosome 9. He also suffers from a couple other prognosis, including a seizure disorder. He was nonverbal for a long time.

The biggest take away from Robin is her view on his diagnosis. There was no name and no actual picture of what his life would be like, she says they’d push until they came up against resistance with him and then would try another thing. It made her feel powerful not having his life and diagnosis put him in some predetermined “box”.

Robin also talks about how it is hard to find support and care for mothers. She works closely with fellow moms and runs gatherings/support groups. She is currently starting her own podcast to share about her journey for other parents and families to relate to.
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Why Are We All Yelling About the Raisin Toast with Andrea Jones

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021: Hello! I’m talking with Andrea Jones this week and her journey with her daughters PANDAS diagnosis. She’s a listener of the podcast and wanted to share her story and insights with other moms. She loves the network that social media and podcast have created and even her daughter encouraged her to share their story for others to benefit from!

Andrea and I discuss how important a parent’s insight and intuition is when it comes to our children and especially special needs children. We have to be their best advocates, even if it means we question the doctors and nurses. Andrea was a pediatric nurse prior to having children and she was highly aware of her child’s behavior changes. She used this acquired knowledge, along with her gut feelings, to fight for her daughter's diagnosis. Two years later, she confirmed it was PANDAS.

Andrea shares how her younger daughter is now the age that her older daughter was starting to show symptoms and be diagnosed. She says it’s such a great feeling to see it with her, but it’s also really hard and hurts. She wants moms to know it is okay to feel both emotions, together. You can sit in gratitude and grief!

Andrea has an awesome insight about our failures as moms. She says we need to look deeper and look at our good intentions, even if we missed the mark. We can use these opportunities to show our kids, we’re humans. We all make mistakes and we can model apologizing and our inner emotions. Andrea also talks about how she can care for herself when these crazy moments happen with her child(ren). She says she has to stop and think about what SHE needs right now, and not about the things she can’t control. Andrea loves using essential oils to help her body and emotions come back to normal.
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