80: Recovering from loss; how to survive the death of a child. With Chloe Pestana mom of three.

11/12/19 • 60 min

How do we possibly survive as a parent, if one of our children has died? Today we have a soulful, brave & beautiful mama on the show who is going to share one of the hardest experiences of a mother’s life-the loss of a child.

Chloe Pestana, mom of 3 who lives with her husband and kids in Oahu Hawaii, wants to help other families that might be going through a tragic loss by sharing her own story of the loss of her beloved three year old son Legend. Her courage and grace in light of tragedy is honestly astounding.

Legend’s sudden death on December 23, 2017 due to a rare birth defect unknown to us called Arteriovenous Malformation in the Spinal cord, changed the trajectory of the Pestana’s lives forever. Now they have a foundation in honor of her son called “Shakas for Legend” foundation & scholarship program which honors her son and his passion for skateboarding.

Today we discuss:

Being a young mother and the pressures associated with that
Getting married young
The power of presence and how she intentionally chose to slow down when Legend was born
How we don't often talk about or prepare for death in our culture
How her family went from thriving to shock when her three year old son legend wouldn't wake up one morning
Her experience with her son in a coma for 12 hours and then losing him that day.
The darkness and rock bottom grief experienced by her and her family upon Legend's tragic and sudden death
Facing a moment of choice between living and dying
How she chose to move forward with life after his death
How she talks about the loss to her daughters
The strength of her family & how her husband was a rock throughout all of this
Chloe tells us about Arteriovenous Malformation and it's implications
Why she wouldn't have done anything differently had they even know he was afflicted with the Arteriovenous Malformation
Her experience with feeling Legend's presence all around her
Living intuitively and spiritually

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Today we discuss:

Being a young mother and the pressures associated with that
Getting married young
The power of presence and how she intentionally chose to slow down when Legend was born
How we don't often talk about or prepare for death in our culture
How her family went from thriving to shock when her three year old son legend wouldn't wake up one morning
Her experience with her son in a coma for 12 hours and then losing him that day.
The darkness and rock bottom grief experienced by her and her family upon Legend's tragic and sudden death
Facing a moment of choice between living and dying
How she chose to move forward with life after his death
How she talks about the loss to her daughters
The strength of her family & how her husband was a rock throughout all of this
Chloe tells us about Arteriovenous Malformation and it's implications
Why she wouldn't have done anything differently had they even know he was afflicted with the Arteriovenous Malformation
Her experience with feeling Legend's presence all around her
Living intuitively and spiritually

New PDF on the website https://www.soulmammas.com Pick Up your Freebie on Stepping into your Soul as Mammas today!

20 percent off all one on one coaching for November and December to all loyal Soul Mammas Podcast listeners! Use code soulmammaspodcast in email or check out. Link above.

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79: Twin daughters with down syndrome-one mamas journey to vie for inclusion for children with disabilities, with Rachael Prescott

Today’s guest Rachael Prescott is a mama who advocates for viewing and treating people with disabilities as valued and worthy of inclusion. This mama has two boys and two twin girls Nettie and Lottie, diagnosed with Down Syndrome.

Rachael is truthful in sharing her journey with other mamas and loves to promote choosing joy through all circumstances and in parenting. If you follow her on instagram you can see first hand her adorable and spirited little girls and their journey’s as well as the really hard/scary stuff like open heart surgeries, hospital visits, and health scares.

Today we talk about:

The negativity she felt was imposed from doctors upon a double down syndrome diagnosis
How whether they have disabilities or not, these are her precious babies. She doesn't see them differently.
How joy plays such a huge role in their lives
How mamas who might be facing scary diagnoses in their children can still experience so much joy
Learning from the unconditional love of our children
Why all children deserve equal treatment
How her sons advocate for their sisters
How down syndrome kids have their own unique personalities like any other child.
Going through open heart surgery and frightening hospital visits
Spreading hope and joy in order to simple other families going through something similar.

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81: How to Step into Our Power as Moms-With Core Power Yoga Santa Barbara Owner Cara Ferrick

On the outside Cara Ferrick, mompreneur of two has it all-a beautiful family, thriving businesses, etc., but just like all of us, we all have to our own story.

This mama has had to go through some serious hurdles, like the tragic death of her mother to cancer, to inform who she is today .Cara is the owner of Core Power Yoga in Santa Barbara as well as five other franchises in California. Cara is grounded, ambitious & believes in living out our greatest desires while leading by example for our children.

Today we talk about:

Her experience working in the business world in New York & becoming the assistant to Ralph Lauren
The loss of her mom to cancer & how that changed her perspective on life drastically
Traveling the world on a sailboat to heal after her moms death
Moving into the world of motherhood and away from the faced paced world in New York
How she's negotiating motherhood & owning businesses
How there is NO such thing as balance
Mom guilt & how she has dealt with babysitters during meetings, etc.
Why motherhood community means so much to her
Why we should always speak our true & authentic stories and how sharing them connects us.

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