What Makes up Emotional Intelligence?

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06/09/21 • 61 min

I love talking about emotions and helping people get better at working with them. I’ve taken numerous clients through this entire growth process, and it has really made a difference in their lives. Here are the first 5 items I consider part of emotional intelligence:

1. Are aware you are having an emotion
2. Can name the emotion with an emotion word
3. Are aware where this emotion came from
4. Understand why it bothers/delights you
5. Aware of where you feel this emotion in your body as a sensation

As I go through all 11 items they get more complex and involve more personal awareness. Adding each of these skills also increases your problem solving skills, communication skills, relationships and therefore makes your life much easier to live and more enjoyable!

I also touch on some information from the book I’m featuring in this month’s Book Club Program, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. At the very end of the book, she lists out what to look out for as clues of an emotionally mature person. She lists just 3 things, but gives several detailed rich expressions of behaviors that hold up that ability. Here are the 3 things:

Realistic and Reliable
Respectful and Reciprocal
They’re Responsive

I hope you learned so much about yourself today and can give yourself a pat on the back for what you DO know and are aware of another step you can take on your path to additional emotional intelligence and maturity.

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Vanessa’s Book Club: We’re reading the book ‘Adult Children of Emotionally immature Parents: How to heal from distant, Rejecting or Self-Involved Parents’. We start June 14. For all the details and to invest in yourself, check out this link:

https://soulamplified.ac-page.com/book-club

The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap is staring another round in August--

Click here to set up a Curiosity Call (or DM me) to learn more and get signed up to start August 2021!

https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18953727&appointmentType=19164977

Website: www.SoulAmplified.org
Intuition Quiz: www.EnlightenedBossLady.com (update Dec 2021--The quiz is no longer available)
Instagram: @SoulAmplified
e-mail me about coaching, The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap Course, or other questions: [email protected]

Realistic and Reliable
Respectful and Reciprocal
They’re Responsive

Contact Me or Consume My Stuff Here:

https://soulamplified.ac-page.com/book-club

The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap is staring another round in August--

Click here to set up a Curiosity Call (or DM me) to learn more and get signed up to start August 2021!

https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18953727&appointmentType=19164977

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How Codependency causes you to Second Guess Yourself

There are a lot of inner thoughts happening in each of us, but in codependency the mental clutter gets LOUDER. A lot of the mental chatter goes to figuring out what other's want without actually asking them. There is this expectation in codependent persons that you are expected to just know--to be mind readers!
There are 3 types of self talking in your mind, at least that is the way I decided to describe it to you today! The Actual Self, the Approval Seeking Self and the Worry/Ego part of you. I go into the role each of them plays in creating this mental chaos and VOLUME, and what are some basic things you can do you begin to turn the tides to trust yourself more.
You got this babe!
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I started a Book Club! We're studying the book 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents' and we're starting June 14th. One month, 4 group calls, endless healing.
This book is all about how parents who aren't tuned in to their children effect their children. There are:

quizzes
a description of the 4 types of emotionally immature parents
2 types of ways children tend to respond to this parenting.

If you have ever been confused by your parent's reactions, how they deal with things, felt like it was easier if you just didn't express your needs to them or felt they were unpredictable--then this book is for you!
Join the group here: https://soulamplified.ac-page.com/book-club

Website: www. SoulAmplified.org
Intuition Quiz: www.EnlightenedBossLady.com (update Dec 2021--The quiz is no longer available)
Instagram: @SoulAmplified
e-mail me about coaching, The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap Course, or other questions: [email protected]

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Spirituality 101: What are Spirit Guides and How can they Help Us?

You have spirit guides and they are here to help you! You can communicate with them, letting them know you are ready. I share about the different kinds, the variety of ways communication can occur and how to simply get started.

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Last Call for Vanessa’s Book Club! We’re reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, see the link below for all the info and to sign up:

https://soulamplified.ac-page.com/book-club

It’s time for the next round of The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap! Do you want a complete codependency overhaul, where in 9 months you could state your needs without guilt, easily set boundaries and let go of the suffering that so many nuances of codependency causes? Well then it’s time for a Curiosity Call to learn if this is the right program for you!

Click here to set up a Curiosity Call (or DM me) to learn more about the People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap and get signed up to start August 2021! (Update--The next PPRR begins Feb 2022!)

https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18953727&appointmentType=19164977

Website: www.SoulAmplified.org
Intuition Quiz: www.EnlightenedBossLady.com (Update Dec 2021--The quiz is, sadly, no longer available.)
Instagram: @SoulAmplified
e-mail me about coaching, The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap Course, or other questions: [email protected]