213: How to stick to your boundaries - with Terri Cole (REPLAY)

12/21/21 • 59 min

Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it’s a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)... or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it’s a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.

My special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she’s simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries.

Here’s how.

My special guest today is Terri Cole and she’s simplifying how to stick to your boundaries.

We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including:

Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries
What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON’T set boundaries for ourselves? What’s happening, really?
How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint’ is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people
In a work setting, what to do if you’re afraid you’ll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries
And ultimately, at home... what you must do when it’s a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you’re having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time?

Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she’s going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you’ll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships... more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries.

Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

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Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/terri-cole-stick-to-your-boundaries-replay

Here’s how.

My special guest today is Terri Cole and she’s simplifying how to stick to your boundaries.

We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including:

Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries
What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON’T set boundaries for ourselves? What’s happening, really?
How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint’ is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people
In a work setting, what to do if you’re afraid you’ll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries
And ultimately, at home... what you must do when it’s a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you’re having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time?

Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

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Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/terri-cole-stick-to-your-boundaries-replay

Previous Episode

212: How to cook lighter with an Instant Pot - with Jeffrey Eisner (REPLAY)

Let’s talk about cooking, more specifically, let’s simplify how to cook lighter with your Instant Pot! It’s happened, I too have jumped on the bandwagon of cooking with an Instant Pot... and can I say, I LOVE IT. It makes batch cooking a cinch and the versatility of what you can make, my goodness, I feel like I’m just scratching the surface!

My special guest today is celebrity cookbook author, Jeffrey Eisner and he’s simplifying how to cook lighter with an Instant Pot. While yes, you could make super gooey, creamy and decadent meals like mac-n-cheese in your Instant Pot, Jeffrey is also going to show us a way to lighten it all up, cooking to your specific eating lifestyle. Whether it’s Keto, Paleo, Gluten-free, or vegetarian and vegan, it’s all about eating wholesome, real food that raises your vibration rather than ones that sink you into a food coma and total brain fog... but here’s the caveat: he promises we won’t lose any of the flavor along the way.

Here’s how.

My special guest today is Jeffrey Eisner and he’s simplifying how to cook lighter with an Instant Pot.

We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including:

For those just getting started using their Instant Pot, the 2-3 tips that would help you feel less intimidated, so you can get going with experimenting, playing and cooking food with it this week
What “cooking lighter” looks like for him these days and which recipes he’s enjoying making right now, which might give you a few ideas on what to cook tonight
Which must-have staples you need stocked in your pantry, specifically for pressure cooking
- Lawry’s seasoned salt
- beef, chicken, vegetable stock, specifically Better than Bouillon concentrated stock base
- dried beans (black, pinto, white beans)
- quinoa, rice (white, brown, wild), and farro
- herbs & spices - TIP: buy one new spice each week to build your pantry and experiment with new flavors!
How to cook for kids or picky eaters with an Instant Pot - he shares his best advice for parents without much time to cook, but want happy bellies around the dinner table
...and ultimately, he shared a little bit about his own wellness journey - what he wished he knew earlier on when it comes to eating lighter and maintaining his weight.

Like Jeff, I’ve struggled with my weight since I was a little girl. The number on the scale would go UP and it’d go down in waves. 20 lbs here, 30 lbs there... ugh. And like Jeff, recently I’ve started to really pay attention to the food I put into my body. Ask yourself: what is life-giving food for me and my lifestyle? And what isn’t?

I hope that wherever you are in your health and wellness journey, you’ll find this lighthearted interview inspires you to try something new with your Instant Pot cooking this week.

Q: Are you ready to cook lighter using an Instant Pot? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

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Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/jeffrey-eisner-cook-lighter-instant-pot-replay

Next Episode

214: How to sleep better at night - with Shae Leonard (REPLAY)

Do you wish you could sleep better at night? Insomnia, anyone?! Welp, relief is on the way because we’re talking all about sleep on today’s episode!

My special guest today is health coach Shae Leonard and she’s simplifying how to sleep better at night. Whether it’s stress or something else that’s keeping you up at night, Shae leads us through seven simple steps to course correct that’ll have you sleep like a baby in no time at all.

Here’s how.

My special guest today is Shae Leonard and she’s simplifying how to sleep better at night.

We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including:

How she defines “sleep hygiene” and why it’s so important to focus on this right now
What the first step is to improve your sleep hygiene to help you sleep better tonight
What the 7 fundamentals for great sleep hygiene are and how these simple shifts can make a positive impact in the long run
Everything we need to know about “full-spectrum light” - what it is and why we need to avoid it 1-2 hours before bedtime, plus she shares a few healthy alternatives
Why we need to avoid amping up our brains at night and those sneaky ways we do it without even knowing it
...and ultimately, why it is important to “quiet your digestion” at night - how to do it, starting tonight.

It’s crazy to think that the majority of people are going to be fast asleep at 2am tonight in your neighborhood and city. Like the whole world powers down to rest, all at once. If you’re someone prone to late night brain whirling or you seem to be tossing and turning for no reason at all, I hope today’s conversation really gives you some tools to try out tonight.

And let us know what worked! I’m always keen to hear from listeners on what you’re learning from the podcast, testing out in your own life, and seeing results in simplifying... reach out on Instagram @thesimplifiers, tag us, DM me... I’d love to hear from you!

Q: Are you ready to sleep better tonight? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

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Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/shae-leonard-how-to-sleep-better-at-night-replay