Ep 84 Taner Hassan | Sex Addiction, Pornography & Adultery | The Self Development Podcast
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06/26/24 • 74 min
Summary
In this episode, Jonny Lawrence interviews Taner Hassan, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in sex and porn addiction, compulsive behaviour, and psychosexual issues. They discuss the importance of authenticity in therapy and the need for accurate information in the field.
Taner shares his personal journey of self-love and acceptance, highlighting the transformative power of receiving love from others. He emphasises the importance of resonating with oneself and others in relationships. In this part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss the challenges of trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted. They share assuming stories of trying to change their accents and personas to please others.
Taner reflects on embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously. They also explore the emotions of anger and resentment and the need to acknowledge one's own part in conflicts. Taner emphasises the importance of feeling and processing emotions rather than avoiding them. In this final part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss addictive behaviour, the dangers of sex and pornography addiction, and the impact of cheating on relationships.
Taner emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour and the need to challenge the behaviour itself. He also highlights the distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender. Taner encourages people to take risks, learn from failures, and visualise their goals. He also mentions his involvement in the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' and invites listeners to watch it.
Takeaways
- Working for oneself requires self-motivation and organisational skills.
- Authenticity is crucial in therapy and allows for a deeper connection with clients.
- Accurate information is essential in the field of therapy to provide effective help.
- Self-love and acceptance are transformative and require personal growth and reflection.
- Resonating with oneself and others is important in building meaningful relationships. Trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted is exhausting and can lead to a loss of self-identity.
- Embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment.
- Anger is often a secondary emotion that masks underlying fear or other emotions.
- Resentment is toxic and can be resolved by acknowledging one's own part in conflicts.
- It is important to feel and process emotions rather than avoiding them. Understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour is crucial in addressing and challenging the behaviour itself.
- There is a distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender.
- Taking risks, learning from failures, and visualising goals are important for self-development.
- Relationships can recover from the betrayal of cheating, but it requires understanding the story and addressing the underlying issues.
- Taner invites listeners to watch the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' in which he has a role.
Find Taner Hassan
Instagram: @tanertherapy
Website: https://www.taner-hassan.com/
Find The Self Development Coach
Website: https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk/
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Summary
In this episode, Jonny Lawrence interviews Taner Hassan, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in sex and porn addiction, compulsive behaviour, and psychosexual issues. They discuss the importance of authenticity in therapy and the need for accurate information in the field.
Taner shares his personal journey of self-love and acceptance, highlighting the transformative power of receiving love from others. He emphasises the importance of resonating with oneself and others in relationships. In this part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss the challenges of trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted. They share assuming stories of trying to change their accents and personas to please others.
Taner reflects on embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously. They also explore the emotions of anger and resentment and the need to acknowledge one's own part in conflicts. Taner emphasises the importance of feeling and processing emotions rather than avoiding them. In this final part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss addictive behaviour, the dangers of sex and pornography addiction, and the impact of cheating on relationships.
Taner emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour and the need to challenge the behaviour itself. He also highlights the distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender. Taner encourages people to take risks, learn from failures, and visualise their goals. He also mentions his involvement in the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' and invites listeners to watch it.
Takeaways
- Working for oneself requires self-motivation and organisational skills.
- Authenticity is crucial in therapy and allows for a deeper connection with clients.
- Accurate information is essential in the field of therapy to provide effective help.
- Self-love and acceptance are transformative and require personal growth and reflection.
- Resonating with oneself and others is important in building meaningful relationships. Trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted is exhausting and can lead to a loss of self-identity.
- Embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment.
- Anger is often a secondary emotion that masks underlying fear or other emotions.
- Resentment is toxic and can be resolved by acknowledging one's own part in conflicts.
- It is important to feel and process emotions rather than avoiding them. Understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour is crucial in addressing and challenging the behaviour itself.
- There is a distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender.
- Taking risks, learning from failures, and visualising goals are important for self-development.
- Relationships can recover from the betrayal of cheating, but it requires understanding the story and addressing the underlying issues.
- Taner invites listeners to watch the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' in which he has a role.
Find Taner Hassan
Instagram: @tanertherapy
Website: https://www.taner-hassan.com/
Find The Self Development Coach
Website: https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk/
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Ep 83 Caroline Strawson | Narcissism, Trauma-Bonding & Neuro-Divergence | The Self Development Podcast
Summary
In this episode, self-development coach Johnny Lawrence interviews narcissism expert Caroline Strawson. They discuss the overuse and misinterpretation of the term 'narcissist' in society, the impact of narcissistic abuse as a form of domestic abuse, and the importance of understanding narcissism from a trauma-informed perspective. Caroline shares her personal journey of healing from narcissistic abuse and how she transitioned from being a podiatrist to a trauma-informed therapist and coach. They also explore the concept of post-traumatic growth and the complexities of narcissism, including the covert narcissist and the role of trauma in narcissistic behaviour. In this conversation, Caroline and Johnny discuss the dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the impact of narcissistic abuse. They explore the concept of mirror neurons and how people in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection. They also discuss the concept of trauma bonding and the physiological addiction that can develop in toxic relationships. Caroline emphasises the importance of strategy and support in healing from narcissistic abuse. She highlights the need to honour and express emotions, such as anger and sadness, in a healthy way. They also touch on the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism.
Takeaways
- The term 'narcissist' is often overused and misinterpreted in society, leading to the minimisation of the experiences of those who have suffered narcissistic abuse.
- Narcissistic abuse is a form of domestic abuse and should be taken seriously.
- Healing from narcissistic abuse requires understanding and addressing the trauma that underlies it.
- Post-traumatic growth is possible after experiencing narcissistic abuse, leading to a thriving and flourishing life.
- Narcissism is a complex issue, and there are different types of narcissists, including the covert narcissist.
- It is important to focus on healing oneself rather than trying to change a narcissist, as they are unlikely to take ownership or responsibility for their behaviour. People in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection.
- Trauma bonding can develop in toxic relationships, leading to a physiological addiction to the cycle of love bombing and silent treatment.
- Expressing and honouring emotions, such as anger and sadness, is crucial for healing from narcissistic abuse.
- Understanding the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism is important to avoid misdiagnosis and provide appropriate support.
- Hope is essential in the healing process, and finding the right community and support can make a significant difference.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Buzzword
06:18 Caroline's Journey: From Podiatrist to Trauma-Informed Therapist
12:24 Post-Traumatic Growth and Living a Thriving Life
30:16 Defining Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
36:23 The Complexity of Narcissism and Reactive Abuse
37:12 The Dynamics of Narcissistic Relationships and the Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
39:38 Mirror Neurons and the Development of Narcissistic Traits in Relationships
41:49 Trauma Bonding and the Physiological Addiction in Toxic Relationships
44:38 Healing and the Importance of Expressing and Honoring Emotions
47:31 Understanding the Differences Between Neurodivergence and Narcissism
50:02 Finding Hope and Support in the Healing Process
Find Caroline Strawson
Website: https://carolinestrawson.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/?hl=en
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Johnny Lawrence is a motivational speaker and self-development coach with 20 years of experience helping individuals transform into the people they aspire to be.
In "The Johnny Lawrence Podcast," Johnny explores the essence of being human by delving into our everyday emotions and the quirky ways we all behave. Each episode features a mix of solo insights from Johnny and engaging conversations with guests as they discuss how they navigate the chaos of life.
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