Rediscovering Your Identity and Breaking Generational Cycles with Romel Peters

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06/20/24 • 35 min

In this episode, I am joined by Romel, a proud Mumpreneur, Intuitive Mindset Coach, Inspirational Speaker, Podcaster and Author on a mission to help individuals who struggle with self-identity rediscover who they are on a soul level by breaking the unhealthy cycles of generational patterns and expectations. Having undergone her massive transformation after hitting rock bottom in 2018, Romel now uses her expertise and experience to guide her clients through their own Self-Discovery journey. She is passionate about creating healthy spaces and the resources you may need to ‘master the art’ of harnessing your natural gift of intuition so you feel more capable and confident about stepping into your main character's energy, managing the ebbs and flows of life, and unleashing your authentic self (unapologetically) into this world.

Today, Romel shares her journey of healing from domestic abuse, losing her father, and rediscovering her true self. We discuss the importance of self-love, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles. She also provides insights on moving forward and creating a life you love, even after experiencing trauma.

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Timestamps:

[01:31] Romel's background and work as an intuitive mindset coach

[01:57] The importance of the intersection between business and personal well-being

[02:36] Benefits of recognizing challenges are not unique to oneself

[04:05] Rediscovering lost passions and true identity

[06:13] Romel's journey of healing

[08:05] Leaving a toxic relationship and the healing process

[11:20] Romel's advice for someone freshly out of an abusive relationship

[15:17] How emotional abuse manifests in a relationship

[16:09] Romel's most significant lesson from transitioning out of an abusive relationship

[18:26] The importance of embracing our humanity

[21:09] The significance of generational cycle breakers

[34:05] The empowering aspect of decision-making in the healing journey

Quotes:

It doesn't matter what you've been through, big or small, or whatever you felt from that. You, um, it's valid 'cause you've been through it, and it's what you feel, and it's not your story. It's not your story; it's just a chapter.
Whatever you need to rewire for yourself, keep repeating it, and it will become second nature. It is just, like I said, taking the baby steps. It all comes together once you do all the smaller stuff.
It will get better as long as you want it to. Essentially, what you feel on the inside will always reflect on the outside.
As hard as it might be, once you take that first step, it gets a little bit easier, and you just keep taking the steps until it's just a walk in the park.

Resources:

Romel Peters Coaching

Intuitive Mindset Coach & Mentor

https://www.romelpeters.com

https://www.instagram.com/romel_peters

https://www.facebook.com/romelmpeters

https://www.facebook.com/groups/breakingcyclestogether_

Gabi Garland

Calendly for Nashville:

https://calendly.com/gabigarland/resilientphoenixretreat

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabi.garland

Join the conversation now!

Timestamps:

[01:31] Romel's background and work as an intuitive mindset coach

[01:57] The importance of the intersection between business and personal well-being

[02:36] Benefits of recognizing challenges are not unique to oneself

[04:05] Rediscovering lost passions and true identity

[06:13] Romel's journey of healing

[08:05] Leaving a toxic relationship and the healing process

[11:20] Romel's advice for someone freshly out of an abusive relationship

[15:17] How emotional abuse manifests in a relationship

[16:09] Romel's most significant lesson from transitioning out of an abusive relationship

[18:26] The importance of embracing our humanity

[21:09] The significance of generational cycle breakers

[34:05] The empowering aspect of decision-making in the healing journey

Quotes:

It doesn't matter what you've been through, big or small, or whatever you felt from that. You, um, it's valid 'cause you've been through it, and it's what you feel, and it's not your story. It's not your story; it's just a chapter.
Whatever you need to rewire for yourself, keep repeating it, and it will become second nature. It is just, like I said, taking the baby steps. It all comes together once you do all the smaller stuff.
It will get better as long as you want it to. Essentially, what you feel on the inside will always reflect on the outside.
As hard as it might be, once you take that first step, it gets a little bit easier, and you just keep taking the steps until it's just a walk in the park.

Resources:

Romel Peters Coaching

Intuitive Mindset Coach & Mentor

https://www.romelpeters.com

https://www.instagram.com/romel_peters

https://www.facebook.com/romelmpeters

https://www.facebook.com/groups/breakingcyclestogether_

Gabi Garland

Calendly for Nashville:

https://calendly.com/gabigarland/resilientphoenixretreat

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabi.garland

Previous Episode

Embracing Purpose as a Single Woman Without Children with Sonjia “Lioness” Mackey

In a world often fixated on family and children, single childfree women may wonder about their place and purpose. But fret not, for your path to fulfillment lies in embracing your unique journey. Your divine purpose isn't bound by societal norms or expectations; it's about discovering what truly ignites your soul. Dive into your passions, explore new interests, and seize every opportunity that speaks to your heart.

In this episode, I am joined by Sonjia “Lioness” Mackey, divine purpose and life coach who targets single childfree women, to talk about how single women can discover their divine purpose, step into their unique identity, and create a life of more joy and fulfillment. She shares her motivation behind helping single women discover their purpose, steps for creating a happy life for the single woman, and how it feels to find your purpose as a single woman. She also discusses how married women can build a safe environment for single women friends. Tune in to learn more about this and other exciting topics!

Timestamps

[04:10] Sonjia Mackey’s background information

[04:46] The motivation behind helping single women discover their purpose and live a joyful life

[07:36] Sonjia’s advice to women who are being pressured to do things they don’t want to do

[10:40] Steps for creating a happy life for the single woman

[13:11] The shift in Sonjia’s life that made the difference

[16:49] How it feels to find your purpose as a single woman and then find a partner

[19:45] How the married women can build a safe environment for single women's friends

[25:00] Sonjia’s advice for women who don’t want kids

[27:53] The self-clarity questions that will help you figure out what you want in life

[35:28] How women can make themselves the focus in the new year

[38:42] The things that single women should be mindful of on their journey to a more fulfilling life

[44:00] Sonjia’s final thoughts

Notable quotes:

“We all have the drive to do something different, especially single women, and we need to give life to them, let them rise to the surface and explore them because they are there for a reason, and they are meant to create a life that is going to make us happy.”
“Stop waiting for other people for the things you want in life.”
“When you put the effort to live your best single life, it positions you to live your best-partnered life.”
“Closure is a gift of self-love that you give to yourself.”

Episode resources:

The book: Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Connect with us: Sonjia “Lioness” Mackey

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sonjia.mackey/

Gabi Garland

Website: https://www.resilientvoicemedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabi.garland/

Next Episode

Early Signs of An Abuser - My Domestic Violence Story Part 1

Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship can be challenging, especially when the abuse is subtle or disguised as love and concern. Abusive behavior often starts gradually, with seemingly minor incidents that escalate over time, making it difficult for victims to identify the pattern. Understanding these signs is crucial for potential victims and friends, family members, and professionals who can offer support and intervention.

In this episode, I share a series of pivotal moments, including quitting my job to move in with an abuser and the realization that things were not as they seemed; we gain insight into the complex dynamics of abusive relationships. This narration serves as a stark reminder that abusers often prey on those who are vulnerable or lacking in self-esteem. However, not always and in Gabi's story she was confident, successful and led a very happy life. Her goal is to highlight the importance of recognizing the warning signs early on. By sharing this story, The goal is to empower other women to identify red flags in their relationships and seek help before it's too late. Tune in to learn more about the story of my years spent with an abuser and how 20 years later I've healed so much of the woman I was back then and have found love and joy on the other side of abuse.

Timestamps

[02:10] Domestic Violence & reflection after watching #itendswithus

[05:17] My ex's death

[07:31] How I met him

[13:16] When the isolation started - key signs early on abusers do to isolate you

[16:10] When the unraveling of my self esteem and worthiness began

[19:52] The first trip to meet him

[25:20] Quitting my job to move across the country

Notable Quotes

“I wish that I had somebody to tell me this is crazy back then.”
“The things that are said or the ways that we show up in the world are based upon the narrative that we have carried from somebody else’s shitty words.”
“Sometimes, you don’t know or believe, you have the ability to start a new life.”
“We have the ability to choose.”
“Money and power go hand in hand, especially with men that are abusive and manipulative.”

Connect with me: Gabi Garland

Website: https://www.resilientvoicemedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabi.garland/