E159 Nice Guys Finish Empty: Unmasking the People-Pleasing Paradox
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05/23/23 • 46 min
Get what you want by MASTERING the art of Negotiation! Come to the Negotiation Lab.
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Join Chad and Adrian as they dissect the fascinating world of leadership and people-pleasing. Adrian spills the tea on his own journey, where being a leader became his antidote to anxiety and his chance to be Mr. Popular. But hey, there's a catch! Neglecting his own needs in the pursuit of constant helpiness leaves him feeling empty and bitter.
Chad chimes in with some juicy revelations, exposing the dark side of people-pleasing: seeking approval and dodging responsibility. They dive into the consequences of playing the martyr and how it turns relationships into a never-ending debt-collection game. Get ready for a wild ride as they challenge the notion of selflessness and preach the gospel of self-love.
Chad and Adrian spill the tea on leadership, selflessness, and why treating yourself like a doormat is so last season. Tune in for eye-opening insights on finding the sweet spot between serving others and treating yo' self.
In this conversation we:
- reveal shady motivations behind people-pleasing
- expose the dire consequences of neglecting oneself,
- dive into the transactional dynamics of relationships
- debunk the ludicrous idea of treating oneself like a disposable tool.
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Do you want to have a convo about how you can implement this? Reach out with the links below.
Connect with Dan Tocchini:
https://www.instagram.com/dan_tocchini/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dantocchini
Connect with Adrian Koehler:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3c7kMcC7nah-QdxffV2NXA
https://www.instagram.com/adrian.k/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriankoehler
Connect with Chad Brown:
Get what you want by MASTERING the art of Negotiation! Come to the Negotiation Lab.
https://takenewground.com/nlab
Join Chad and Adrian as they dissect the fascinating world of leadership and people-pleasing. Adrian spills the tea on his own journey, where being a leader became his antidote to anxiety and his chance to be Mr. Popular. But hey, there's a catch! Neglecting his own needs in the pursuit of constant helpiness leaves him feeling empty and bitter.
Chad chimes in with some juicy revelations, exposing the dark side of people-pleasing: seeking approval and dodging responsibility. They dive into the consequences of playing the martyr and how it turns relationships into a never-ending debt-collection game. Get ready for a wild ride as they challenge the notion of selflessness and preach the gospel of self-love.
Chad and Adrian spill the tea on leadership, selflessness, and why treating yourself like a doormat is so last season. Tune in for eye-opening insights on finding the sweet spot between serving others and treating yo' self.
In this conversation we:
- reveal shady motivations behind people-pleasing
- expose the dire consequences of neglecting oneself,
- dive into the transactional dynamics of relationships
- debunk the ludicrous idea of treating oneself like a disposable tool.
//
Do you want to have a convo about how you can implement this? Reach out with the links below.
Connect with Dan Tocchini:
https://www.instagram.com/dan_tocchini/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dantocchini
Connect with Adrian Koehler:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3c7kMcC7nah-QdxffV2NXA
https://www.instagram.com/adrian.k/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriankoehler
Connect with Chad Brown:
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So, grab your earbuds, kick back, and let's dive headfirst into the amusing chaos of office politics.
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Do you want to have a convo about how you can implement this? Reach out with the links below.
Connect with Dan Tocchini:
https://www.instagram.com/dan_tocchini/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dantocchini
Connect with Adrian Koehler:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3c7kMcC7nah-QdxffV2NXA
https://www.instagram.com/adrian.k/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriankoehler
Connect with Chad Brown:
Next Episode
Cliff Notes: E159 Nice Guys Finish Empty
Get what you want by MASTERING the art of Negotiation! Come to the Negotiation Lab.
https://takenewground.com/nlab
Join Chad and Adrian as they dissect the fascinating world of leadership and people-pleasing. Adrian spills the tea on his own journey, where being a leader became his antidote to anxiety and his chance to be Mr. Popular. But hey, there's a catch! Neglecting his own needs in the pursuit of constant helpiness leaves him feeling empty and bitter.
Chad chimes in with some juicy revelations, exposing the dark side of people-pleasing: seeking approval and dodging responsibility. They dive into the consequences of playing the martyr and how it turns relationships into a never-ending debt-collection game. Get ready for a wild ride as they challenge the notion of selflessness and preach the gospel of self-love.
Chad and Adrian spill the tea on leadership, selflessness, and why treating yourself like a doormat is so last season. Tune in for eye-opening insights on finding the sweet spot between serving others and treating yo' self.
In this conversation we:
- reveal shady motivations behind people-pleasing
- expose the dire consequences of neglecting oneself,
- dive into the transactional dynamics of relationships
- debunk the ludicrous idea of treating oneself like a disposable tool.
//
Do you want to have a convo about how you can implement this? Reach out with the links below.
Connect with Dan Tocchini:
https://www.instagram.com/dan_tocchini/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dantocchini
Connect with Adrian Koehler:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3c7kMcC7nah-QdxffV2NXA
https://www.instagram.com/adrian.k/?hl=en
https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriankoehler
Connect with Chad Brown:
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