[010] How to Say "No!"

04/19/20 • 20 min

How can you say “no” to others with confidence? Why is saying “no” difficult? Saying “no” to others can be incredibly difficult for emerging leaders and managers. You might be a “people-pleaser”. You might feel guilty whenever you say “no”. Or you might be fearful of hurting or of being challenged. These are normal fears.

However, if you want to advance into leadership, you need to learn how to set boundaries to protect your time, priorities and goals. In order to do this, you need to learn how to say “no” when you need to.

In Episode 10 of The Leadership Pod, you will learn what stops you from saying “no”, why it’s important for emerging leaders to say “no”, and how to say “no” to others.

In this episode, you will learn:

How automatic conditioning stops you from saying “no”.
The role that guilt, fear of offending and fear of being challenged plays in saying “no”.
Why it’s important for emerging leaders to say “no”.
What happens if you don’t say “no” when you need to.
Two steps to saying “no” effectively.

Listen to this episode here [link]

Resources mentioned:

Episode 9, “5 Ways to Set Boundaries With Close Colleagues When You Get Promoted” https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/009-how-to-set-boundaries-close-colleagues-when-you/id1500219829?i=1000471319840
Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass, online video course: https://www.udemy.com/course/assertive-communication-skills-masterclass/?referralCode=91E0C72EBD36C4BC684B

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In Episode 10 of The Leadership Pod, you will learn what stops you from saying “no”, why it’s important for emerging leaders to say “no”, and how to say “no” to others.

In this episode, you will learn:

How automatic conditioning stops you from saying “no”.
The role that guilt, fear of offending and fear of being challenged plays in saying “no”.
Why it’s important for emerging leaders to say “no”.
What happens if you don’t say “no” when you need to.
Two steps to saying “no” effectively.

Listen to this episode here [link]

Resources mentioned:

Episode 9, “5 Ways to Set Boundaries With Close Colleagues When You Get Promoted” https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/009-how-to-set-boundaries-close-colleagues-when-you/id1500219829?i=1000471319840
Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass, online video course: https://www.udemy.com/course/assertive-communication-skills-masterclass/?referralCode=91E0C72EBD36C4BC684B

Love the show? Let me know!

Are you a fan of The Leadership Pod? Have the tips, insights and strategies I share with you helped you increase your visibility and influence so you can unlock your leadership potential?

Head over to Apple Podcasts and tell me how this podcast has helped you by leaving a review. And don’t forget to subscribe so you can be the first to know when I release a new episode.

What are you waiting for? Head over to Apple Podcasts, leave a review and subscribe! https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-leadership-pod/id1500219829

Join the Executive Impressions’ Community of Emerging Leaders!

Access these free resources and join hundreds of others in the Executive Impressions Community here: http://www.executive-impressions.com/your-gift

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Previous Episode

[009] How to Set Boundaries With Close Colleagues When You Get Promoted

How do you set boundaries with coworkers and close colleagues after you get promoted? How do you manage former peers when you get promoted? Your relationship with them has changed. They’re used to the old boundaries. But now you have to re-educate them as to where the new boundaries are.
Establishing new boundaries can be challenging for emerging leaders. In this episode, I share with you five steps to setting boundaries with close colleagues when you get promoted.

In this episode, you will learn:

It’s your right to set boundaries and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it.
How to sit down with your new team to get them on-board with your new boundaries.
What to do if people don’t respect your boundaries.
How to word your requests assertively and confidently.
How to avoid being a “people pleaser” and say “no” to set boundaries.

Resources mentioned:

“How to Set Boundaries With Close Colleagues When You Get Promoted”, (FREE) Blog Post by Kara Ronin: http://www.executive-impressions.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-with-close-colleagues-when-you-get-promoted
“Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass” online video course: https://www.udemy.com/course/assertive-communication-skills-masterclass/?referralCode=91E0C72EBD36C4BC684B
“I’ve always been a people pleaser. I cannot say ‘no’ to others. How can I change this?”, (FREE) Kara’s LinkedIn video: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/kararonin_leadership-softskills-execimpressions-activity-6630290459191320576-WUZy

Love the show? Let me know!

Are you a fan of The Leadership Pod? Have the tips, insights and strategies I share with you helped you increase your visibility and influence so you can unlock your leadership potential?

Head over to Apple Podcasts and tell me how this podcast has helped you by leaving a review. And don’t forget to subscribe so you can be the first to know when I release a new episode.

What are you waiting for? Head over to Apple Podcasts, leave a review and subscribe! https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-leadership-pod/id1500219829

Join the Executive Impressions’ Community of Emerging Leaders!

Access these free resources and join hundreds of others in the Executive Impressions Community here: http://www.executive-impressions.com/your-gift

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LinkedIn is my number one social media platform and I would love you to join me there. Everyday I share tips and insights and a lot of video post

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Next Episode

[011] Secrets of Self-Promotion for Consultants and New Leaders

How can you be self-promotional when you’re a consultant or a new leader? Self-promotion doesn’t come naturally to many people. You might feel like you’re boasting or showing off. This might prevent you from being self-promotional in the workplace and around your clients. There is an art to being self-promotional, and that’s what I share with you in this episode.

In Episode 11 of The Leadership Pod, you will learn:

How emerging leaders, women and people from technical backgrounds find it hard to be self-promotional.
What holds us back from being self-promotional.
Why you should be self-promotional.
How to introduce yourself using my simple structure at networking events.
How to talk about the value and results you generate.
How to position yourself as an industry expert on LinkedIn using video and voice messaging.

STRUCTURE FOR INTRODUCING YOURSELF AT NETWORKING EVENTS

I shared with you a structure to introduce yourself effectively at networking events. This structure is simple, but it will help you highlight the value and results you bring your clients or your team.

Here is the structure:

“I help....[who]...so they can...[value/result]...”

For example:

“I help people who are going through a divorce to come to an mutual agreement so they can part amicably and with less stress”.

“I help mid-size businesses increase their efficiency by incorporating technology into their work processes”.

Resources mentioned:

YouTube video, “How to Increase Your Visibility on LinkedIn: Use LinkedIn Video and Voice Messaging”.
Podcast Episode 8, “Q&A: How to Craft an Expert About Section for Your LinkedIn Profile”.
Podcast Episode 1, “How the Leadership Pod Can Help You as an Emerging Leader”.
Podcast Episode 2, “Why You Need to Start Thinking About Leadership Development Early in Your Career”.

CONTINUE YOUR LEARNING WITH MY BESTSELLING VIDEO COURSE

In this episode, I talk about developing the know, like and trust factor with clients and colleagues. In this video course, “Business Etiquette 101: Social Skills for Success”, I delve much deeper into the know, like and trust factor, and many other areas of business etiquette: https://www.udemy.com/course/business-etiquette-101-social-skills-for-success/?referralCode=77FFA114311BAE37A80F

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