EP 36: "Switch Flipping" with Katie - Part 2

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08/21/23 • 44 min

TRIGGER WARNING!!! This episode discusses BDSM, beatings, self-harm, and possibly other issues that may trigger listeners/viewers who are sensitive to these topics. In this episode, Katie discusses a little more in-depth about her connection with BDSM and that she and her Dom are into "impact play." Impact Play, for those not into BDSM, can range from light spankings to being beaten with an object. Traci has extensive experience with impact play and explains that sometimes people get their pain and pleasure wires crossed. For most people, pain is pain, and pleasure is pleasure. Sometimes people find relief or release in pain and actively look for this "pleasure" in unhealthy ways, such as self-harm. Katie admitted to cutting herself, and Traci points out that the ways self-harm is tied to self-worth and pleasure. Traci then helps Katie break apart the ties to all of these, so she can still seek "pain/pleasure" and it's separate from self-harm and self-worth. KEY POINTS:

Katie illustrates her childhood connection to pain = pleasure.
Katie identifies other triggers and memories she has regarding her childhood.
Traci explains how some people are wired a little differently, that pain = pleasure instead of pleasure = pleasure.
Traci and Katie discuss self-harm, self-worth, and the pain/pleasure connection.
Traci gives Katie several techniques to help manage her "Switch Flips".

QUOTABLES: "My belief is that you can embrace your wiring issue and find healthy ways to express it through BDSM." "When you were born, you were neutral." "Sucking up my whole life and getting my brain to be quiet seems like the better choice." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

Katie illustrates her childhood connection to pain = pleasure.
Katie identifies other triggers and memories she has regarding her childhood.
Traci explains how some people are wired a little differently, that pain = pleasure instead of pleasure = pleasure.
Traci and Katie discuss self-harm, self-worth, and the pain/pleasure connection.
Traci gives Katie several techniques to help manage her "Switch Flips".

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EP 35: "Switch Flipping" with Katie - Part 1

Traci, The Hilarious Hypnotist, was flying home from and had a layover in Denver when she started up a chat with another couple, Katie & Scott. The couple had an interest in BDSM and polyamory and was looking for a hypnotist to help Katie get past some trauma. Traci gave them her business card, and a few months later they called for a consultation. After hearing Katie's story, Traci asked if she would be okay with sharing her healing journey on the podcast. Katie agreed, and then realized they'd be coming through Tampa to attend FetishCon in St. Petersburg, FL. They reconnected at Hilarious Hypnotist HQ and Katie shared the struggles she was having in her new "power exchange" relationship. Katie is a 24/7 submissive to her gentle Dom. She consciously knows she's SAFE in her current relationship, but occasionally she gets triggered by past trauma and without notice, "switches" to a Dominant role that violates their agreed-upon protocol, creating issues in the relationship. Katie is looking to figure out what her triggers are so she doesn't "switch" mid-scene and crash the relationship dynamic. KEY POINTS: Katie and Scott discuss their current situation, being in a 24/7 dominant/submissive relationship AND being polyamorous They talk about what happens when Katie "switch flips" the scene. Katie discusses being raise by alcoholic parents and their party lifestyle When her parents sobered up, things didn't get better. Katie didn't feel "safe" growing up and was often sent to her room for showing big emotions, feelings, crying, or sadness.

QUOTABLES: "It's time to let my unconscious brain meet my conscious brain and know that I'm safe." "Most of what comes up for me with that is through doing bodywork and it's like, fragmented." "Typically BDSM people are highly kinesthetic." "It's a great story for Netflix to create a story for Netflix. I own it."

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

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EP 37: "Change, Planes, and Automobiles" with Jeff - Part 1

While at Hypnothoughts, the world's largest hypnosis conference where The Hilarious Hypnotist was presenting, another hypnotist came by and said "I'm going to refer someone to you...because you have some things in common." Sure enough, we did, and after chatting for a few minutes I knew I wanted Jeff on the podcast because he is afraid of flying, to the extent that it causes panic attacks. Jeff begins sharing his 22-year history of panic attacks, and The Hilarious Hypnotist begins to see a pattern unfolding. Over the years, the panic attacks seem to evolve and then resolve, only to attach themselves to something else. It started off with driving, then exercise, and now airplanes. Traci begins to examine what was going on behind the scenes in Jeff's personal life and begins to unravel a pattern between the panic attacks and control issues. KEY POINTS:

Jeff shares his story about his first panic attack, and how he ended up in the hospital.
Jeff relates his story about his panic attacks related to exercise.
Jeff tells a horrendous story about his fear of flying, and how his last flight ended in disaster with his girlfriend getting sick on take-off.
Traci digs into what was happening around the same time these panic attacks rooted in his behavior and begins to notice a pattern of losing control in his personal life.

QUOTABLES: "People are predictable in some way, shape, or form." "Panic attacks are a way for someone to keep themselves safe; they feel threatened in some way." " I do not like to be not in control. And I don't like to feel like you are controlling me." "You are there for those you love no matter what." "I want my ribs back!" PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4