Are you feeling trapped?

05/15/15 • 22 min

The Head Trash + Healing Show with Alexia Leachman

In this podcast I thought I’d spend a bit of time talking about how head trash might show up in your life and to help you to trace it back to its roots cause and what you can do about it.

Today I’m going to talk about something that I think we all feel at some point... feeling trapped. What is that all about then? And is there anything that can be done about it?

Well, yes there is something you can do about it. If you’re feeling trapped for whatever reason... maybe in your job, in a relationship, or in the town that you live in... then NEWSFLASH!! ... it’s just a feeling. You’re not ACTUALLY trapped. Unless you're locked in a cell or a cage, or tied to a wall, then your feelings of being trapped, are just that... FEELINGS. And the great thing about feelings is that we can change them. But I’m not talking about positive thinking stuff.. I’m talking about some rewiring of thought.. some repatterning!

Why are you feeling trapped?

If you’re feeling trapped, then it’s likely that one of your key values in life is freedom. You LOVE freedom, and so you HATE being trapped. The thing is, these are natural opposites and so the love for one will feed the hate of the other. And the more you love one, the more you’ll hate the other.

Why? Newtons 3rd Law of course!

Newton's 3rd Law states that: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

This means that for every force there is a reaction force that is equal in size, but opposite in direction. That is to say that whenever an object* pushes another object* it gets pushed back in the opposite direction equally hard.

*objects are matter and matter is energy, and I'm talking about emotional energy so the same universal law applies

So how do you get out of this mess? Well the answer is to clear the excessive emotional energy that currently exists at both ends. Or to put it another way, to create neutrality.

Neutrality is the absence of emotionally charged negative thoughts, feelings and emotions... giving you freedom choice and flexibility.

What can you do if you're feeling trapped?

Practically, that means using our 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Methodto clear FREEDOM and TRAPPED... it’ll probably take you around 45 minutes... but could be one of the most transformational 45 minutes you’ve ever spent.

But, doing this might not totally resolve your problem because you might have some value conflicts going on too. Specifically you might have a value conflict involving freedom....

Freedom Vs Family

Family is often on a direct collision corse with freedom for some people... their need for freedom is so strong that some people check out of the family set up, just to FEEL free.

Freedom Vs Success

Success requires knuckling down and doing the work, which might mean compromising on your freedom in the short term... but if freedom wins short term, then success might never succeed.

Freedom Vs Love

Some people are afraid of commitment because they value freedom so much, and yet love is really important to them, but freedom wins short term and love is never given the space to grow... and yet true love ultimately means freedom but their fear or hate of being trapped prevents them from ever getting to that place.

If you think you have value conflicts then you need to neutralise your values (and their opposites using the 5 step process and that will enable you to find a way forward that enables your values to exist collaboratively rather than competitively.

In this podcast I thought I’d spend a bit of time talking about how head trash might show up in your life and to help you to trace it back to its roots cause and what you can do about it.

Today I’m going to talk about something that I think we all feel at some point... feeling trapped. What is that all about then? And is there anything that can be done about it?

Why are you feeling trapped?

Why? Newtons 3rd Law of course!

Newton's 3rd Law states that: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

*objects are matter and matter is energy, and I'm talking about emotional energy so the same universal law applies

So how do you get out of this mess? Well the answer is to clear the excessive emotional energy that currently exists at both ends. Or to put it another way, to create neutrality.

Neutrality is the absence of emotionally charged negative thoughts, feelings and emotions... giving you freedom choice and flexibility.

What can you do if you're feeling trapped?

But, doing this might not totally resolve your problem because you might have some value conflicts going on too. Specifically you might have a value conflict involving freedom....

Freedom Vs Family

Family is often on a direct collision corse with freedom for some people... their need for freedom is so strong that some people check out of the family set up, just to FEEL free.

Freedom Vs Success

Success requires knuckling down and doing the work, which might mean compromising on your freedom in the short term... but if freedom wins short term, then success might never succeed.

Freedom Vs Love

Previous Episode

Using the mind to heal the body

If your body is suffering from some physical conditions or dis-ease, then maybe a good place to start is by taking a closer look at what's going on in your head. The link between mind and body is finally being acknowledged by the scientific community and the field of psycho-neuro-immunology (PNI) is where some of the latest scientific thinking in this area is taking place.

Using your mind to heal the body

In today's podcast I chat to Dr Eva Detko about this new exciting field to try and understand more about what it can teach us in terms of using our minds to heal the body.

During our fascinating chat, Dr Eva shares some great ways that we can begin to tap into the power of the mind to heal the body including;

using visualisations of the body healing itself of toxins
giving the body time to heal
making time to relax perhaps through a meditation practice
keeping a rain check on your beliefs,
minimising the presence of negative emotions

Dr Eva also talks about the importance of a clean diet - filtered water, organic, gluten free, no sugar - and how when we feel sluggish or low in energy, that this is most likely to be down to our mental wellbeing.

People can programme themselves for health or programme themselves for illness - Dr Eva Detko

When we talk about the power of our beliefs, Dr Bruce Lipton's work is mentioned, as well as the scientific field of epigenetics. I interviewed an epigenticist on this podcast a while back so you might want to listen to that episode too - you can listen to my chat with epigeneticist Charan Surdhar here.

Dr Eva also talks about the power of hypnosis in helping with things like Chronic pain and talked about a Yourtube video where a man undergoes a hernia operation without anaesthetic but simply by using hypnosis. You can watch this video below.

Hypnosurgery live

Next Episode

How to love yourself

Most of us understand what it means to love another person. The emotional investment coupled with feelings of intense desire and admiration is familiar territory for us. In fact, we consciously take time to nurture and develop our live with others... we say nice things, we offer gifts, we do nice things, and importantly we let them know how we feel. But loving ourselves? Some people just find that plain weird.

So what is self love? Well, maybe we should start with what ISN’T self-love...

Here are some tell tale signs of not loving ourselves

regular negative self talk
putting ourselves down with talk of discouragement and
you push yourself to do things you don’t like doing
you become angry at yourself when you make mistakes
you are critical about yourself; your body, your decisions, your behaviour, the way you look, your choices
you tend to put others first
you find it hard to speak up for yourself
you find it hard to exercise, eat well, or break bad habits.
you don’t look after yourself - No concern for your outward appearance: Putting on dirty clothes, skipping showers, or just plain looking like a mess.
you feel insecure when other people are doing well: perhaps getting offended or feeling bad somehow when other people have what you want

What is self love?

Self-love is a combination of self-acceptance, self-awareness, and kindness and respect for ourselves. Self-love is both an idea, a concept in our minds that we are worthy of self respect and gentleness, and an action; treating ourselves with compassion and love.

This all sounds fine and dandy, but how on earth do we turn things around?

How to love yourself

On a conscious level, you can begin by

Spend some time coming up with a list of all the things that make you awesome and brilliant... ask your friends and family!
Remember to take the time to celebrate your successes, no matter how small... just remember not to fall into the trap of ‘rewarding’ yourself with takeaways, junk food, excessive alcohol on a regular basis, because that is probably more about a LACK of self love.
Do things that make you feel amazing
Come up with some positive affirmations and cite them regularly to yourself
Catch yourself saying the negative things, and re-write your internal script

But, as you will know if you follow this blog and podcast, I’m more interested in how we can dive down deep into the subconscious and do a bit of rewiring... all this conscious action can take a while to take effect and I'm a bit impatient. So I prefer to take the shortcuts even if I pick up a few scratches along the way!

Of course, what I’m about to suggest will involve using our 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method, so if you haven’t grabbed your copy yet, do it now.

Create neutrality around the core aspects of Self Love

This is important if you’re to make any progress. Here is a list of things that you could start by working on using the 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method

love,
loving myself , self love
respect,
respecting myself, self respect
acceptance
self acceptance
kindness, being kind
putting myself/one’s self first

Take a look in the mirror and say I LOVE YOU

Put some time aside to sit in front of a mirror. Look yourself in the eyes and simply say to yourself “I love you”. Keep repeating this and notice what you feel. You might find this quite hard and it might even make you cry. But stay with it. Even if you just do this, you’ll be making progress, but I want you to take this further.

Notice what you’re feeling when you say this to yourself. What is the resistance that is popping up into your head? Notice the phrases that appear in your mind. Also, notice where your feelings are showing up in your body. Then I want you ‘catch’ what you’re thinking and feeling and add that to the list of things you need to clear using the 5 step process. You might want to start by putting all of these thoughts and feelings in an imaginary bucket and then refer to the bucket contents as THIS and simply add THIS to your list - your subconscious will know what you mean, but be sure to bring all of THIS to your mind when you’re working on it.

Once you’ve cleared THIS, repeat the process again and notice the difference. Notice what’s changed in your mind and your body. The more you go through this, the more easy it will be to identify the dominant thoughts and feelings tha...