The Habit Lab - Episode 24: Dismantling Unhelpful Habits

Episode 24: Dismantling Unhelpful Habits

03/08/24 • 36 min

We all have habits we're looking to ditch, in this episode Jenna walks through the 4 steps she takes her coaching clients through to help them dismantle their unhelpful habits
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These are the 4 steps she refers to in this episode:

Increase awareness
Replace w/ another habit
Get true comfort
Little bits of better

<Here is the other podcast on this topic Jenna references in this episode>
https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sugar-is-my-porn-addiction-comfort-and-kindness-with/id1559373076?i=1000558712123

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Increase awareness
Replace w/ another habit
Get true comfort
Little bits of better

<Here is the other podcast on this topic Jenna references in this episode>
https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sugar-is-my-porn-addiction-comfort-and-kindness-with/id1559373076?i=1000558712123

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Episode 23: Creative Childcare Habits

It's possible to find creative childcare solution that feel like win-wins for you & your kids. If you don't have a big budget or family in town- there are other options that don't simply feel like childcare, but feel like community building.
In this episode Jenna breaks down:
1) Date Night Swap
2) Marriage Vacays (aka- kidless)
3) Sitters doing light housework
4) Teenager Babysitters & having them bring over their younger siblings

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Episode 25: Idealism - the motivation murderer

But for real... we unknowingly allow idealism to murder our motivation by keeping us frozen. Sometimes it appears saying we're waiting to show up with excellence before taking action, but when you peel back that layer- is it actually stealing from us or serving us.
How-to combat Idealism
1) notice chronic feelings of disappointment/failure
2) increase awareness that thats usually evidence of unrealistic expectations
(aka-idealism)
3) examine your expectations
HABIT TO EXAMINE YOUR EXPECTATIONS.
Ask yourself the following questions

What were my expectations here? (of myself or situation) Take a few minutes to sit with yourself to flush out these answers. They're probably all subconscious & nothing you actually vocalized beforehand.
What did I actually do? (list what you did do/happened & notice the factors beyond your control at play & be aware of your own limits)
Were my inital expectations realistic? (Honestly assess what you expected -vs- how long it took & the factors outside of your control.)
Did I spend my time well? (Consider the effort you put in with your current skills & those factors. Remember perfect isn't the standard here.)
Could I say I was successful even if I didn't hit my initial expectations? ( This will require you to redefine what success means. You might not have 100% fit your ideal outcome, but being "successful" is a wider/broader net.
Do you owe yourself an apology? I often do this when I realize I was shaming my efforts based on unattainable standards?
Can you give yourself gratitude for the effort you put in? Behavioral Scientist have found that we change more quickly when we choose to be proud of yourself even when we are only marginally better. If we embrace the learning curve, we arrive at mastery faster.