How to Last Longer in Bed – 5 Practices

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10/28/19 • 66 min

#43: This is an episode that you fellas have been asking Bryan and I to record for quite some time now.

As guys, we’ve all been in the situation where we’ve gotten too excited, popped off too early much to the dismay of ourselves and our partners.

And if you’ve never experienced popping off too early, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say:

We hate you.

For the rest of us...

This conversation is about bringing you 5 practical practices that can help you command and consciously direct your sexual energy...

...so you and your partner can play as long (or as short) as you’d like.

What This Conversation Isn’t

NOT about how to become a better ego-driven sexual “performer”
NOT about giving you some sort of power to hold above your partner’s head
NOT about leveraging hacks/techniques that disconnect you from your partner (ie. Not “going out with a loaded gun,” dulling your senses with booze, distracting yourself with thoughts of baseball or Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day during sex, etc...)

What This Conversation Is: 3 Reasons to Practice Lasting Longer

These three reasons are in ascending order of importance:

Reason # 1: Building Confidence (about you)

Get out of your head and into your body
Establish command of and direct your sexual energy
Evoke your choice for when (and if ) you want to release

Reason #2: Forging Connection (about us)

Break your predictable patterns of sex and explore new terrain together
Deeply attune to her arousal triggers and help her uncover new areas of pleasure she can’t access herself
Become a more trustworthy lover that she feels safe to experiment with and open up to

Reason #3: Accessing Flow (about next-level experience)

Transcend superficial sex and experience heightened sensation and deep intimacy
Expand your zones of pleasure (beyond your crotch)
Lose track of time and self

You can download the 5 Practices Cheat Sheet at www.DoInnerWork.com/5practices

#43: This is an episode that you fellas have been asking Bryan and I to record for quite some time now.

As guys, we’ve all been in the situation where we’ve gotten too excited, popped off too early much to the dismay of ourselves and our partners.

And if you’ve never experienced popping off too early, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say:

We hate you.

For the rest of us...

This conversation is about bringing you 5 practical practices that can help you command and consciously direct your sexual energy...

...so you and your partner can play as long (or as short) as you’d like.

What This Conversation Isn’t

NOT about how to become a better ego-driven sexual “performer”
NOT about giving you some sort of power to hold above your partner’s head
NOT about leveraging hacks/techniques that disconnect you from your partner (ie. Not “going out with a loaded gun,” dulling your senses with booze, distracting yourself with thoughts of baseball or Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day during sex, etc...)

What This Conversation Is: 3 Reasons to Practice Lasting Longer

These three reasons are in ascending order of importance:

Reason # 1: Building Confidence (about you)

Get out of your head and into your body
Establish command of and direct your sexual energy
Evoke your choice for when (and if ) you want to release

Reason #2: Forging Connection (about us)

Break your predictable patterns of sex and explore new terrain together
Deeply attune to her arousal triggers and help her uncover new areas of pleasure she can’t access herself
Become a more trustworthy lover that she feels safe to experiment with and open up to

Reason #3: Accessing Flow (about next-level experience)

Transcend superficial sex and experience heightened sensation and deep intimacy
Expand your zones of pleasure (beyond your crotch)
Lose track of time and self

You can download the 5 Practices Cheat Sheet at www.DoInnerWork.com/5practices

Previous Episode

How to Do the 30 Day No Porn Challenge

#42: Since you all seemed to love the “How to Take 10 Days off Masturbation” episode, we thought we’d hit ya with the next big challenge:

How to Do the 30 Day No Porn Challenge.

Why Would I Torture Myself Like That?

Here are just a smattering of benefits I – and other men who have taken the challenge – have experienced that you can expect for yourself:

Electrified attraction with your partner
Deepened connection with your partner
Heightened sensations during sex (smells, feelings, sounds, tastes)
Heightened creativity and energy
More power and endurance in the gym

And yes, these are ALL legit (trust me, I took 4 years off from both porn and masturbation).

Take it from the Man Who Interviewed 25,000 Men

Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich – the #1 best-selling personal achievement book of all-time – interviewed 25,000 men over a 25 year period.

He said that ALL of the most successful businessmen were “highly sexed.”

AND – they’d figured out how to use their sexual energy beyond just the physical act:

The majority of men “dissipate their energies through over-indulgence in physical expression of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance that of mere physical expression.”

I took 4 years off from porn and masturbation during my 4 years in Sex Addicts Anonymous (2013-2017).

That’s precisely the time I got bold enough to leave a successful and lucrative 15 year career in financial services behind.

In This Episode:

The 3 steps to take the 30 Day No Porn Challenge:

#1: Define Your Why (for doing the 30 day challenge) #2: Anticipate the Triggers (that’ll make you want to dive into porn) #3: Design Alternatives (to diving into porn)

What Dominick learned from his 4 years of no porn and no masturbation
The 5 Stages every man goes through in his lifetime relationship with porn
How to choose No Porn WITH Masturbation, or No Porn WITHOUT Masturbation for 30 Days

Also, You May Enjoy:

Episode #9: Dominick’s 4 Years of Porn Abstinence Part 1 Episode #10: Dominick’s 4 Years of Porn Abstinence Part 2 Episode #29: How to Take 10 Days Off Masturbation

Next Episode

Discover the Great Man Within You

#44: We’re dropping a little extra bonus episode this week for two reasons:

#1. Discover the Great Man Within You

The Definition of Hell:

On your last day on earth, the man you became, meets the man you could have become.

Now if that doesn’t send a chill down your spine, you might be dead inside.

The idea of taking your last breath, confronted with the reality that you didn’t realize your fullest potential, and instead chose a path of safety, comfort, conservatism...

...is in fact the definition of hell.

Every man has two men inside of him.

The Good Enough Man......and The Great Man.

In the Definition of Hell...

The Good Enough Man...is the man you became.The Great Man within you...is the man you could have become.

Most men will never summon the courage to leave behind the comforts of Good Enough.

For those of you who wish to live your fullest potential, this episode will give you a gateway to start to discover – and live – the Great Man within you.

#2. The Man Amongst Men podcast will be changing it’s name on November 11th.

Heads up! The Man Amongst Men podcast will be undergoing a name change on November 11th to The Great Man podcast.

This episode reveals why we’ve chosen to undergo the name change.

If you’re already subscribed, you don’t need to do anything...just look for the new show title on November 11th.

If you haven’t yet subscribed...do it now so you’ll know how to find us come November 11th.

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