71. UNITY MINDSET TO SHIFT ENVY AND JEALOUSY: Flourishing Friday

10/11/19 • 18 min

EPISODE 71: UNITY MINDSET TO SHIFT ENVY AND JEALOUSY

Flourishing Friday (FF)-Welcome to Flourishing Fridays (FF), where every Friday we bring you a Positive Psychology-based life hack that will help you to flourish. In these episodes we look at real life application of Positive Psychology, while giving you tips and strategies to put Positive Psychology into use in all areas of your life.

What if we rejoiced in each other’s success, triumphs, gifts, beauty as much as our own. Wouldn’t we ask “what’s good”? What are you celebrating? Thinking and saying “That’s amazing!”

Compersion not comparison. Wikipedia defines it as “an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy.” Started off as a term used in the polyamory comparison. Opposite of jealousy and envy. Importance of savouring what’s good with others.

Jealousy is the fear that someone is going to take what you have. Envy is the desire for what other people have. Both feelings come from a scarcity mindset.

This word exists in other languages. “Mudita,” in Sanskrit, means “the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people’s well-being.” “Unne,” in Norwegian means “to be happy on someone else’s behalf.”

A pre-requisite for compersion is an abundance mindset and a unity mindset.

Someone else winning doesn’t mean we have to lose.

Emiliya shows us the exciting concept of Unity and benefits of experiences happiness and joy for others. It is powerful to hold the mindset that we are connected to human beings and we are all one. It is this mindset that can shift our way of being. This shift in mindset from envy and jealousy to compersion can allow for a feeling of experiences happiness and joy. In positive psychology this idea is called active constructive responding. It is about getting excited and happy for others when they are celebrating! Asking for more positive moments and sharing good news is a form of savouring.

Read more about Compersion in Melanie Ginsburg article https://bit.ly/32HwqV5

For Full show notes & more information on what we have to offer,

visit The Flourishing Center at: www.theflourishingcenter.com

EPISODE 71: UNITY MINDSET TO SHIFT ENVY AND JEALOUSY

What if we rejoiced in each other’s success, triumphs, gifts, beauty as much as our own. Wouldn’t we ask “what’s good”? What are you celebrating? Thinking and saying “That’s amazing!”

Jealousy is the fear that someone is going to take what you have. Envy is the desire for what other people have. Both feelings come from a scarcity mindset.

A pre-requisite for compersion is an abundance mindset and a unity mindset.

Someone else winning doesn’t mean we have to lose.

Read more about Compersion in Melanie Ginsburg article https://bit.ly/32HwqV5

For Full show notes & more information on what we have to offer,

visit The Flourishing Center at: www.theflourishingcenter.com

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70. MENTAL TUG AND WAR- HOLDING SPACE: Coaches Corner

EPISODE 70: MENTAL TUG AND WAR- HOLDING SPACE

Coaches Corner (CC)- Welcome to the Coaches Corner, where you get to witness Positive Psychology-based coaching in action with master-level certified coaching. Listen to positive psychology in action through real-life coaching sessions with Emiliya Zhivotovskaya, who holds a Master Coach Certificate (MCC) from the International Coach Federation ICF.

Listen in on this session to hear coaching in action. Emiliya uses the positive psychology coaching model to help her client, Raj. Through this process, he can reveal what he desires to birth in his life. Through this session, you can hear he wants to move forward but feels frustrated and stuck. Listen to how coach Emiliya helps him discover how to tap into his resourcefulness. Emiliya uses paraphrasing, metaphor and curious questions to help support him on his journey. She helps him tap into his wisdom, and she lets him lead the dance of the coaching session to help her client overcome some difficult challenges. Emiliya holds the space for Raj effectively that allows him to go from feeling stuck to liberated.

A game of Tug and War.

Raj feels initially like he is being pulled in two directions, and through this coaching session, he can challenge his own thinking patterns and gain a clearer direction. He expresses his many options and how he feels and sees many obstacles. About midway through this session, Emiliya asked Raj, “How do you want to think’? This powerful question challenges his thinking and allows him to consider his thinking and tap into what he really needs.

For Full show notes & more information on what we have to offer,

visit The Flourishing Center at www.theflourishingcenter.com

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72. Dr. Shenell Evans: Practitioner Profile

EPISODE 72: POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH IN PRACTICE

Practitioner Profiler (PP)- Welcome to our Positive Psychology Practitioner Profiler where we highlight ordinary people that are doing extra ordinary things! Each practitioner is one of our graduates of the CertifIcate in Positive Psychology Program. Find out the exciting ways people are putting the science into practice within their Communities, Organizations and Lives.

In this episode, Emiliya Zhivotovskaya CEO & Founder, The Flourishing Center highlights Dr. Shenell Evans. Dr. Shenell is a Brooklyn-based clinical psychologist who specializes in creating sacred, evidence-based space for adults, particularly those living with chronic health conditions and the accompanying biopsychosocial-spiritual byproducts.

Grow after trauma using post traumatic growth.

Listen in how beautifully Dr. Shenell Evans defines Post traumatic growth. Regardless of where people fall on the illness—wellness continuum, chronic conditions evoke many issues: sense of grief/loss, sadness, anxiety, anger/frustration, physical/functional limitations, strained relationships, insurance dilemmas, treatment decisions, and, at times, treatment fatigue. For people who wish to reclaim their time will need support as they grieve, regroup, and recreate their lives in order to foster life satisfaction and meaning DESPITE CHRONIC ILLNESS.

Dr. Shenell Evans infuses positive psychology into her practice. Her training in Applied positive psychology allows her to emphasize the sense of thriving and flourishing. She helps her clients tap into the values to help them pull themselves forward. She helps get people back to base line and then she draws from positive psychology to help with patient care. She emphasizes optimizing our human experience. She taps into the wealth of knowledge to tap into positive neuro-science to help establish habit and routine. She wants to show up as authentically for her patients, for herself, for her family. She emphasizes showing up the best we can to optimize our human experience.

You can reach Dr. Shenell Evans at: https://www.drshenell.com

For Full show notes & more information on what we have to offer:

visit The Flourishing Center at: www.theflourishingcenter.com

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