STARS in the Yoniverse: The New Sex Talk

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12/21/22 • 46 min

This week in the Yoniverse, we have an amazing treat for you! Dr. Evelin Dacker sat down with Áine six months ago at the beginning of the Sexualchemy hiatus, and the conversation feels just as fresh and potent today as it did then.

Dr. Dacker is a Board-Certified Integrative and Holistic Family Physician who specializes in sexual health and consent. Her unique approach to wellness incorporates pleasure as an important aspect for healing trauma and illness - which feels revolutionary in our society today.

In this episode of The Flaming Yoni:

The complications of entering into the holiday season;
The beautiful support and feedback we’ve received from Episode 2 of TFY;
Why sexuality medicine doesn’t actually “treat” anything or contribute to sexual health;
Dr. Dacker’s background in medicine, and why she started focusing on sexuality, pleasure and sexual health in addition to her primary care practice;
How the old school safer sex elevator speech turned into STARS;
STIs as the perfect metaphor for our internalized sex negativity;
The mind-body disconnect the majority of people experience with sex;
How inspiring it is to see younger people talking about sex in a more positive and attuned way;
The magic of being a woman in her Crone years - and the path of traveling from Maiden to Mother to Crone; and
How to have the “scary” STARS talk - Sexual Health, Turn Ons, Avoids, Relationship Expectations and Intentions, Safety Needs.

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Follow Dr. Evelin Dacker:

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Twitter: @evelindacker
Website: evelindacker.com

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sexualchemy/exclusive-content

In this episode of The Flaming Yoni:

The complications of entering into the holiday season;
The beautiful support and feedback we’ve received from Episode 2 of TFY;
Why sexuality medicine doesn’t actually “treat” anything or contribute to sexual health;
Dr. Dacker’s background in medicine, and why she started focusing on sexuality, pleasure and sexual health in addition to her primary care practice;
How the old school safer sex elevator speech turned into STARS;
STIs as the perfect metaphor for our internalized sex negativity;
The mind-body disconnect the majority of people experience with sex;
How inspiring it is to see younger people talking about sex in a more positive and attuned way;
The magic of being a woman in her Crone years - and the path of traveling from Maiden to Mother to Crone; and
How to have the “scary” STARS talk - Sexual Health, Turn Ons, Avoids, Relationship Expectations and Intentions, Safety Needs.

The Flaming Yoni website: theflamingyoni.com

Follow Áine:

Instagram: @priestessaine
Twitter: @PriestessAine
TikTok: @priestessaine

Follow Scarlet:

Instagram: @salacious_scarlet
Twitter: @Salacious_Scar

Follow Dr. Evelin Dacker:

Instagram: @sexmeddoc
Twitter: @evelindacker
Website: evelindacker.com

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sexualchemy/exclusive-content

Previous Episode

Enter the Queen Cobra

Now that you are all caught up with your girls this season, we thought it would be fun to let you in on a conversation we have been having about labels. While labels can feel restricting and unnecessary, they can also be useful as a point of reference in certain settings. As we processed what it means to lose our previous “titles” from when we were partnered, we bounced around ideas of what new identities we might want to play with...until one stuck.

In this episode of The Flaming Yoni:

Exploring the value of labels and constructs as “robes” that we wear.
The intersection of labels, identity, and sexual expression.
Why the label of “Unicorn” does not strongly resonate with Áine and Scarlet
How the symbol of The Queen Cobra materialized for Áine and Scarlet individually and jointly.
The snake as an abiding spiritual and mythological incarnation of feminine sexuality.
The snake’s ability to move how they want to move - unrestricted and unrestrained - and the importance of embodying that same freedom and sovereignty as unpartnered femmes in the world.
The importance of boundaries as you navigate sexually open spaces.

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Follow Áine:

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Twitter: @PriestessAine
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Twitter: @Salacious_Scar

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Next Episode

Shibari Suspension + New Year Intentions

This week in the Yoniverse, Scarlet and Áine sit down on Christmas Day to wish all of you a VERY Happy Holidays, discuss some recent forays into new realms of kink, and 2023 intention setting!

In this episode of The Flaming Yoni:

Happy Holidays from Áine and Scarlet;
Scarlet’s pre-holiday play session that included Shibari - a beautiful form of Japanese bondage - and how it was part of her fulfillment of a 2022 intention to dive more deeply into other forms of kink;
Áine’s similar experience with Shibari a couple of months ago, which she has been fascinated with for a couple of years;
Walking through a couple of cards that Scarlet and Áine pulled from Oracle and Tarot decks...and how they will be bringing the immaterial into the material with The Flaming Yoni, SlutSisters, and more in 2023!
2023 personal intentions for both Scarlet and Àine - their process for setting them, including a walkthrough of intentions set for 2022 and how those have gone.
If you have not yet signed up for the MŌN App - you should! Áine and Scarlet love to host candid and sometimes spontaneous conversations over there.
The Flaming Yoni website is LIVE!!! Go see what we’ve been putting together for you, and this is also where you will see all the latest news about SlutSisters.

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