
Why Chasing Love Pushes It Further Away (And What To Do Instead)
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03/11/25 • 24 min
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Have you ever felt like the harder you chase love, the further it seems to run from you? Like every time you try to prove your worth, convince someone to choose you, or hold on tighter, they only slip further away? And faster.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, we’re diving deep into the energetics of chasing, why it never works, and how this pattern is actually by divine design—pushing you toward the real lesson or pain you’ve been avoiding. Because the truth is, every time you run after someone, you’re not just chasing them... you’re running from yourself.
We'll talk about:
- Why anything that is pursued instinctively moves away (and how this plays out in relationships)
- The subconscious craving for external validation and how to break the cycle
- How your relationships mirror your inner wounds, forcing you to confront the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding
- How moving through your emotions rather than running from them transforms your energy field and makes you effortlessly attractive
If you’ve spent years chasing unavailable love, waiting for someone to finally choose you, or feeling stuck in the exhausting cycle of wanting what doesn’t want you back—this episode is for you. We’re tearing down the illusions and getting to the core truth of what actually makes you magnetic.
🎧 Press play now. The love you seek is already seeking you—but first, you have to stop running.
Ready to step into your Magnetic Love Era? If so, The Magnetic Love Story Manifestation Method is now open for enrollment.
https://www.thefemmecast.com/products/courses/view/1180320
Have you ever felt like the harder you chase love, the further it seems to run from you? Like every time you try to prove your worth, convince someone to choose you, or hold on tighter, they only slip further away? And faster.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, we’re diving deep into the energetics of chasing, why it never works, and how this pattern is actually by divine design—pushing you toward the real lesson or pain you’ve been avoiding. Because the truth is, every time you run after someone, you’re not just chasing them... you’re running from yourself.
We'll talk about:
- Why anything that is pursued instinctively moves away (and how this plays out in relationships)
- The subconscious craving for external validation and how to break the cycle
- How your relationships mirror your inner wounds, forcing you to confront the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding
- How moving through your emotions rather than running from them transforms your energy field and makes you effortlessly attractive
If you’ve spent years chasing unavailable love, waiting for someone to finally choose you, or feeling stuck in the exhausting cycle of wanting what doesn’t want you back—this episode is for you. We’re tearing down the illusions and getting to the core truth of what actually makes you magnetic.
🎧 Press play now. The love you seek is already seeking you—but first, you have to stop running.
Ready to step into your Magnetic Love Era? If so, The Magnetic Love Story Manifestation Method is now open for enrollment.
https://www.thefemmecast.com/products/courses/view/1180320
Previous Episode

From Breakup to Breakthrough: The Lessons Hidden in Heartbreak and Opening Yourself Up To Love Again
Every relationship, whether fleeting or long-term, leaves a mark. Some teach us what we don’t want, while others reveal what we truly desire. But if we don’t pause to reflect, we risk repeating toxic cycles and attracting the same emotionally unavailable partners.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, we’re diving deep into the lessons our past relationships leave behind—how they shape our self-worth, our non-negotiables, and our ability to attract healthy, secure love. Because healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about moving forward with clarity.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- How to stop repeating toxic relationship patterns
- The key lessons heartbreak teaches us about self-worth & boundaries
- Manifestation techniques to attract emotionally available love
- Embracing vulnerability as a superpower in relationships
- Creating a love life that reflects your deepest desires
Your past relationships don’t define you—they prepare you. The more you honor your growth, the more aligned love you attract. It’s time to choose yourself first.
Ready to step into your Magnetic Love Era? If so, The Magnetic Love Story Manifestation Method is now open for enrollment.
https://www.thefemmecast.com/products/courses/view/1180320
Next Episode

The Father Wound: How Chasing His Love Kept Me Chase Emotionally Unavailable Men
Why do we chase after people who can’t fully love us back? The answer runs deeper than we think.
In this powerful episode of The Femme Cast, I take you inside my personal journey—how a childhood spent longing to hear “I love you” from my father unknowingly shaped my adult relationships. Every emotionally unavailable man I chased was a reflection of that little girl inside me, still hoping for validation, still craving those three simple words.
- How childhood experiences with emotionally unavailable fathers shape our love lives
- Why our nervous systems become wired to chase instead of receive love
- The hidden reason we keep seeking validation from those who can’t give it
- The moment I realized I had to stop running—and start healing
- How to break free from the chase and attract true emotional availability
This isn’t just about my story—it’s about all of us who have ever felt unworthy of love, who have chased instead of received, and who are finally ready to rewrite the script. If you’re tired of the painful cycle, this episode is your wake-up call.
🎧 Press play now. The love you seek is already seeking you—but first, you have to stop running.
Ready to step into your Magnetic Love Era? If so, The Magnetic Love Story Manifestation Method is now open for enrollment.
https://www.thefemmecast.com/products/courses/view/1180320
The Femme Cast - Why Chasing Love Pushes It Further Away (And What To Do Instead)
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Hey you guys , what is up and welcome back to the show . I'm so excited and grateful that you're here . Welcome if you're new .
MARIA @THEFEMMECASTI'm very excited and I'm also very high strung today because I just recorded 30 videos 30 like little mini videos for the training that is launching next week . I'm so fucking excited for th
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