#310 ENERGY LEAKS |The 3 Sneaky Ways You Drain Your Motivation & Health Without Realizing It

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05/13/25 • 25 min

If you’re feeling fatigue, burnout, or just not like yourself lately... this might be why: you’re leaking energy.

In this solo episode, I’m diving into the three biggest energy drains I’ve experienced—and what might be draining you without even realizing it. From old friendships that no longer align, to overcommitting from fear of missing out, to the mental loops of comparison and perfectionism... these leaks add up.

I’ll show you how to spot where your energy is going (and why it’s not coming back), how lower motivation and self-control often start with these hidden drains, and how certain interactions—even with people we care about—can fatigue us more than we know. In this episode:

Why even "productive thoughts" like perfectionism tank your nervous system
The 3 biggest energy leaks: people, patterns, and mindset
Why your lack of motivation might actually be leaking energy, not lack of discipline
What emotional labor and “attention residue” have to do with your burnout

This isn’t about cutting people off or hustling harder. It’s about alignment. Energy alignment. Because when you plug those leaks, everything flows better—creativity, rest, even joy.

00:45 — Energy Leaks: What They Are & Why They Matter 02:00 — When People Drain You: Emotional Labor & Boundaries 08:10 — The Hidden Cost of Overcommitting and Multitasking 10:30 — Mindset Leaks: Perfectionism, Comparison & Burnout 18:50 — How to Audit & Plug Your Biggest Energy Drains

LISTEN TO NEXT: Reparenting Yourself ( ep 287)

If you’re feeling fatigue, burnout, or just not like yourself lately... this might be why: you’re leaking energy.

Why even "productive thoughts" like perfectionism tank your nervous system
The 3 biggest energy leaks: people, patterns, and mindset
Why your lack of motivation might actually be leaking energy, not lack of discipline
What emotional labor and “attention residue” have to do with your burnout

This isn’t about cutting people off or hustling harder. It’s about alignment. Energy alignment. Because when you plug those leaks, everything flows better—creativity, rest, even joy.

LISTEN TO NEXT: Reparenting Yourself ( ep 287)

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💫 Mentioned: The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz 🔗 Connect with Mariana Moreno spiritedlatina.com | IG: @freespiritedlatina Listen to Next: Ep 292 - Unlock Emotional Resilience with The Holistic Psychologist

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Get Anita's Home Therapy Book Here

🔗 Connect with Anita Yokota www.anitayokota.com | IG: anitayokota

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Transcript

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If you're feeling fatigue, burnout, stress, anxiety, can pretty much guarantee that it is due to this one thing, and that is an energy leak. And we talk about energy leaks coming from many different things. This can be woo-woo if you want it to be, but it also can be very real and demonstrable in terms of energy leaks from relationships, from different people you interact with, from jobs you're not excited about or really that are taxing you, stressors, all of this st