Blocking Beliefs
05/08/21 • 9 min
The relationship between negative cognitions and blocking beliefs.
The relationship between negative cognitions and blocking beliefs.
Previous Episode
Developing and Using Attachment Figures in Attachment Wounding
- Problems Communicating Between/Connecting Parts Across the Lifespan
- The AIP Model and Attachment Wounding
- Judgements of the Child State in the “Adaptive Self”
- When the Right Now Selves Isn’t Healthy Enough
- The Whale Metaphor and Attachment Wounding
- Attachment Wounds “Sound” Small, but they are Existentially Awful
- Existential Loneliness
- Attachment Figures are for the Child State in the Memory
- Attachment Resources as a Very Powerful Pair of Scissors to Disconnect from the Whale
- Creating an Attachment Resource
- Client Obstacles to Creating an Attachment Resource
- Putting the Attachment Figure in the Neighborhood
- Attachment Figures are Not Identical to Actual People in Childhood
- Borrowing Qualities
- Keeping Difficult Stuff Out
- Deciding on a Relational Slot
- Adding Qualities to the Attachment Figures: Food, Presence, Nurture, Reading, Attending, Protection, Guidance
- Expect that Grief May Appear When You Imagine Getting What Didn’t Happen
- Using the Somatic Memory of Rocking One of Your Own Children or Grandchildren
- Leveraging the Capacity to Imagine
- Naming the Attachment Figure
- Avoiding Relational Slots that are the Same Slot as an Abuser
- How to Use an Attachment Resource Between Sessions
- This is a Resource for Living, Not Just in Session
- Assessing for Attachment Wounding
- When You Can and Can’t Borrow Qualities from a Deceased Person
Next Episode
Understanding the AIP Model: The Whale Metaphor and the Mount Everest Metaphor
The AIP Model
· The Difficult Stuff Connects to Right Now/Existing Adaptive Information
· Enough Adaptive Information Must Be Present
· You Can’t Easily Connect Maladaptive Information to Maladaptive Information
· What’s Complex About Complex Trauma Related to the AIP Model?
o A Different Way of Thinking About Complex Trauma
o Mountain Ranges of Adaptive Information vs Mountain Ranges of Maladaptive Information
The Mount Everest Metaphor
· You Cannot Metabolize a Trauma the Size of Mount Everest into Adaptive Information the Size of a Walnut—You Can’t
· Where to Start with Complex Trauma?
o Where Not to Start
o Types of Targets that Make Good Early Targets with Complex Trauma
The Whale Metaphor
· What are the Whales?
· What is the Size of the Client’s Boat?
· You Cannot Land a Whale into a Canoe
· Helping the Client Build a Bigger Boat
· What Clients Learn when Working with “Smaller” Wounds First
o Test the Gear
o Learn How to Notice Effectively
o They Learn that the Can Heal
o Healing Builds Adaptive Information/Makes the Boat Bigger
· If the Client in a Canoe Connects to a Whale we Need a Strong Pair of Scissors to Safely Disconnect
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