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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast

The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast

Steph Douglas

Steph Douglas - Founder and CEO of Don’t Buy Her Flowers - chats frankly with a guest about LIFE and staring down the ‘rush hour’ that many of us feel we’re living in. The day to day overwhelm, juggling careers, relationships and families, parenthood, not looking like a dog’s dinner, the expectations and the big, tough bits that come with being a grown up.

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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - People Pleasing and Christmas

People Pleasing and Christmas

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12/03/21 • 44 min

Ahead of the MADNESS of Christmas and as we feel our stress levels start to rise, Steph chats with Psychotherapist and author Emma Reed Turrell about People Pleasing. Emma explains the four different types of People Pleaser, and they discuss how it can impact friendships, relationships and parenting. Steph also learns it’s not just about being ‘nice’, it’s actually about wanting to control people’s reactions and usually has some deep rooted beginnings from our childhoods. Crikey.

Emma gives some advice on how to enjoy Christmas and not spend it only pleasing others while feeling a *little* resentful, they discuss the joy of Die Hard and circling the Radio Times, and hear from some listeners who want some help with their people-pleasing ways and navigating family drama ahead of the festive period.

Emma’s book ‘Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live’ is available in DBHF packages from 9th November.

Emma’s Instagram @emmareedturrell

If you want to get in touch with Steph:

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Instagram: steph_dontbuyherflowers


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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - The business of running a charity with Emma Cantrell
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11/08/22 • 28 min

Emma Cantrell is the CEO of Children’s Charity First Days. Emma explains why she started the charity in 2013 when her two children were very small, initially to redistribute kids’ clothes and toys from people who didn’t need them anymore to those that did.

Since then, Emma and her team have added more services including advising families on where they can get additional help, peer support and one to one coaching. Emma talks about how she has had to find balance, how to cope with doing a job where the stakes are so high and what the current cost of living crisis means for her and the team. In recent years demand has doubled, making Emma’s job more difficult, but even more important.

This episode is sponsored by Naturalmat, an organic bed and mattress company who use exclusively natural, organic and sustainable material and make mattresses and bedding for grown ups and babies and kids All handmade in Devon. Use the code DBHF15 for 15% off your first order, valid until 31st Jan. visit naturalmat.co.uk

How to get involved with First Days:

We have got a brilliant giveaway with Spabreaks to win a £250 voucher and a DBHF Recovery Hamper of gorgeous products to relax with. Sign up to the DBHF newsletter HERE by 11.59pm on Friday 11th Nov. If you’re already signed up to our newsletter, no need to do anything and you will be automatically entered.


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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Marriage, Equality & The Mental Load - A Candid Chat with Steph & Doug
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03/21/25 • 62 min

Steph sits down with her husband of 17 years, Mark (Doug) Douglas, for an unfiltered and often hilarious deep dive into marriage, equality at home, and the invisible workload that often falls on women. From their whirlwind romance and early parenting struggles to resentment, gender roles, and the reality of balancing careers and family, no topic is off-limits.


Doug is a finance professional navigating the ever-evolving dynamics of modern partnerships. As a couple, Steph and Doug have had to unlearn traditional gender roles, redefine teamwork, and figure out how to stop bickering about the food shop. Spoiler alert - they don’t have it all figured out!


We Talk About:


The Mental Load & Motherhood - Why Steph felt trapped while Doug got to enjoy a solo train ride and a Pret sandwich.


When the Kindness Goes - How exhaustion and resentment creep into long-term relationships. Relearning Equality - The moment Doug realized doing the food shop wasn’t just about clicking ‘repeat order’ on Tesco.


Paternity Leave & Male Privilege - Why many men still hesitate to take time off and what needs to change.


The Pancake Revelation - A seemingly small act that transformed their approach to sharing responsibilities.


The Chats That Changed Everything - From Eve Rodsky’s episode, How to Make it Fair to Matt Frey's This Is How Your Marriage Ends, the resources that helped them shift their mindset.


With plenty of laughter, some uncomfortable truths, and a whole lot of real talk, this episode is for anyone who has ever argued about housework, felt unseen in their relationship, or just wants to feel less alone in the chaos of modern family life.


And for those of you listening in real time, let's not forget that Mother's Day is just around the corner and Don't Buy Her Flowers is on standby to help you with a thoughtful gift that shows the mother in your life the gratitude they so deserve!


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Thoughtful gifts at Don’t Buy Her Flowers


This episode we are proud to have two excellent sponsors:


Anara Skincare - luxury, natural skincare without compromise. Use code DBHF20 for 20% off.


Sweet Freedom - award winning syrups and spreads, always sweet, always natural. Use code DBHF15 for 15% off.


We recorded this episode at Patch in Twickenham, which is a co-working space and they have another four locations in England. Patch are offering 50% off the first two months membership with the code Steph50. Go to patch.work


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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - How to survive in hospitality with James O’Hara

How to survive in hospitality with James O’Hara

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11/09/22 • 29 min

Steph spoke with James O’Hara about his life in hospitality as a serial business owner - the challenges, the peaks, managing a team and the lessons James has learned along the way. James also talks about how young people don’t drink like we did in the 90s/00s, Covid’s legacy and how belligerence has helped him as a founder.

James’ career in hospitality started with a club night in Sheffield; James has a talent for spotting what customers are after next, and now owns multiple bars and venues and is part of the team that recently rescued Kelham Island Brewery after it went in to liquidation. He co-founded Tramlines Festival, which he sold in 2020, and is currently working towards the opening of Leah’s Yard in Sheffield.

We have got a brilliant giveaway with Spabreaks.com to win a £250 voucher and a DBHF Recovery Hamper of gorgeous products to relax with. Sign up to the DBHF newsletter HERE by 11.59pm on Friday 11th Nov. If you’re already signed up to our newsletter, no need to do anything and you will be automatically entered.

This episode is sponsored by Naturalmat, an organic bed and mattress company who use exclusively natural, organic and sustainable material and make mattresses and bedding for grown ups and babies and kids All handmade in Devon. Use the code DBHF15 for 15% off your first order, valid until 31st Jan. visit naturalmat.co.uk

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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Laura Danger – That Darn Chat on saving your relationship
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10/07/22 • 66 min

Laura Danger AKA That Darn Chat has amassed a massive 350k+ followers on TikTok and an Instagram account growing by thousands every week, creating videos about the mental load, with the strap line ‘Domestic labour is labour’. The reaction she gets shows that Laura’s is a voice people are wanting to hear from, and as one of Steph’s favourite topics, they get into it!

They discuss the wider impact on society of inequality at home, how writing lists isn’t the solution, and ask why women are ok in their own discomfort for everyone else’s comfort.

Steph asks Laura, if we’re asking men to do more, what’s in it for them? Steph and Laura also raise the massive question – if you do raise the mental load as an issue with your partner and they don’t respond in any way except negatively, where does that leave you?

Laura is a facilitator of the Fair Play Method; founded by Eve Rodsky, Fair Play is ‘a time and anxiety saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up their domestic responsibilities’. Steph and Laura discuss how this is a huge change from what society has expected from women, but one that when ignored, is often leaving women resentful and ultimately jeopardising relationships. Laura’s aim it to equip women with the language and understanding to have difficult conversations.

This episode is sponsored by boutique mortgage and insurance broker Hudson Rose. Quote ‘Don’t Buy Flowers’ if you go to Hudson Rose for advice, and they will donate £50 to your local food bank.


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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Teenagers and Midlife, The Perfect Storm with Lorraine Candy
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04/04/25 • 65 min

Parenting teenagers and navigating midlife can feel like a perfect storm. One moment you’re managing eye-rolls and slammed doors, the next you’re questioning why no one warned you about perimenopause. In this episode, Steph is joined by journalist, author, and parenting pro Lorraine Candy for a frank and reassuring conversation about raising teens, handling hormones, and keeping a sense of humour through it all.


In this episode Steph and Lorraine cover:

  • Why teenagers behave like they do (and how to stay calm when they don’t)
  • Talking to your kids about relationships, social media and boundaries
  • The truth about perimenopause and why so many women feel dismissed
  • Why midlife and parenting teens can feel like an emotional rollercoaster
  • Practical strategies for keeping communication open and family life less stressful

Lorraine also opens up about midlife, perimenopause and why so many women feel unsupported when they seek medical help. From advocating for yourself at the GP to understanding why teenagers don’t seem to "see" mess, this conversation is packed with insights, humour and reassurance for parents in the thick of it.


In this episode, we discuss:

  • The teenage brain: why logic often goes out the window
  • How to talk to your kids about sex, relationships, and social media
  • The struggles of perimenopause and why GPs still don’t have the right answers
  • Why midlife and parenting teens collide in unexpected ways
  • The importance of connection, dinner table conversations, and knowing when to back off

Lorraine Candy, is an author, editor and podcaster. She co-hosts the Postcards From Midlife podcast with Trish Halpin, host of The Times' podcast, The Parent Pod and is the author of 3 incredible books. She is a former editor of Cosmo, ELLE and Sunday Times Style and a mum of four children.


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Thoughtful gifts at Don’t Buy Her Flowers


This episode we are proud to have two excellent sponsors:


Anara Skincare - luxury, natural skincare without compromise. Use code DBHF20 for 20% off.


Sweet Freedom - award winning syrups and spreads, always sweet, always natural. Use code DBHF15 for 15% off.


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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Remembering Your Why with Yvonne Telford

Remembering Your Why with Yvonne Telford

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11/10/22 • 29 min

Yvonne Telford is the founder of clothing brand Kemi Telford, which she started in 2017 with £60 and some tote bags. Yvonne tells Steph about her founder story and how the business evolved into what it is now – a highly regarded fashion brand with partnerships with John Lewis and Tate, celebrity fans and featured in Vogue.

Yvonne talks with Steph about the boom Kemi Telford experienced during the Pandemic, and the importance of remembering her ‘Why?’ as retail slows down. They discuss how it’s easy to lose focus with the distraction of other people’s ideas and other businesses. Yvonne explains her decision around focusing on selling direct, stripping back to her core values and how she stays close to her customers.

We have got a brilliant giveaway with Spabreaks to win a £250 voucher and a DBHF Recovery Hamper of gorgeous products to relax with. Sign up to the DBHF newsletter HERE by 11.59pm on Friday 11th Nov. If you’re already signed up to our newsletter, no need to do anything and you will be automatically entered.

This episode is sponsored by Naturalmat, an organic bed and mattress company who use exclusively natural, organic and sustainable material and make mattresses and bedding for grown ups and babies and kids All handmade in Devon. Use the code DBHF15 for 15% off your first order, valid until 31st Jan. visit naturalmat.co.uk

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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Break ups and Divorce with Samantha Baines

Break ups and Divorce with Samantha Baines

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02/07/22 • 51 min

After going through her own divorce, comedian, actress and author Samantha Baines started The Divorce Social podcast talking to a different guest each week about their break up experience.

Sam and Steph talk about losing yourself in a relationship, and the ‘phases’ after a marriage ends. Sam gives some excellent advice on how to support a friend (and what not to say) and some thoughts on not seeing the relationship as all just a horrible mistake. Also, everyone should apparently spend a week with Channing Tatum to get through a divorce. Righto, we’re in.

This episode is sponsored by Lovehoney, the Sexual Happiness Company, the UK’s most popular online shop for buying adult toys and lingerie discreetly and whose Bullet vibrator is now featuring in the Don’t Buy Her Flowers Break Up Package

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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Why we’re all Overwhelmed and how to get through it, with Brigid Schulte
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09/08/23 • 59 min

Steph talks with writer and speaker Brigid Schulte about Overwhelm, where it comes from and what we can do to rally against it. Brigid brilliantly uses research and history to understand how we got here, and reassures that when it feels hard, it’s because it is.

Brigid explains why women feel they don’t deserve free time, why we feel we have to ‘excel’ at motherhood and importantly, what all this pressure and juggling does to women’s physical and mental health, careers and relationships. They discuss how women find it difficult to live in the moment because of the volume of roles and responsibilities they’re juggling, how children coming along makes the imbalance even more difficult, and the societal expectations that impacts men and women trying to find a better balance. And Brigid offers some advice on how to turn down the volume on it all, and advises we all need to ‘let that shit go’

Brigid shares what she’s learned as a journalist at The Washington Post, author of ‘Overwhelmed’ (2014) and the Director of Better Life Lab at New America, the work-family justice and gender equity program at New America, a nonpartisan think tank.

Thank you to Naturalmat for sponsoring this episode, handmakers of organic beds and mattresses, and DBHF podcast listeners can get 15% off with the code DBHF15

Brigid’s book ‘Overwhelmed – How to work, love and play when noone has the time’.

Brigid’s Twitter

Better Life Lab at New America

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The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast - Business special: Business, leading and burnout with Alex Depledge, MBE
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03/20/23 • 41 min

Steph chats with businesswoman Alex Depledge for a Business Special episode of the podcast.

Alex is undoubtedly a brilliant entrepreneur, having co-founded, grown and sold first business Hassle.com for €32m, before starting another tech platform – Resi.co.uk – the UK's largest and only nationwide residential architectural platform. Alex’s ‘thing’ is disrupting with a tech solution, and cutting deals, both of which she’s very good at. She appears to have no fear, has been involved with a number of bodies, boards and think tanks, and is passionately championing women in a male-dominated industry.

Alex is incredibly straight-talking but doesn’t shy away from being vulnerable, about the challenges of being the boss, including the stress and emotion of leading a business through Covid, trying to balance work and family. Alex also says that she’s grateful for the burnout she went through at 27, because it taught her a lot early on that most people experience a bit later while also trying to manage a family and having greater responsibility to juggle.

This episode is sponsored by HR consultancy HR Star, who want to reinvent the poor reputation of HR. Visit http://www.hr-star.co.uk/ for more information and quote DBHF for 10% off their People Strategy Session.

Resi.co.uk

Alex talks about starting and selling Hassle.com on the Secret Leaders podcast

Alex on Jimmy’s Jobs of the Future podcast

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How many episodes does The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast have?

The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast currently has 60 episodes available.

What topics does The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast cover?

The podcast is about Society & Culture, Parenting, Sex, Kids & Family, Cancer, Divorce, Family, Funny, Christmas, Podcasts, Relationships, Health, Business, Single and Death.

What is the most popular episode on The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast?

The episode title 'People Pleasing and Christmas' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast?

The average episode length on The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast is 50 minutes.

How often are episodes of The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast released?

Episodes of The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast are typically released every 13 days, 22 hours.

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The first episode of The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast was released on Dec 2, 2021.

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