The Daring & Mighty Podcast

Do you ever feel so angry. So out of control. So extreme.

That you WOULD NOT DARE to unleash it?

If you did, god knows what would happen.

You certainly wouldn’t feel safe. And neither would anyone around you.

You might hurt yourself. And others.

You would fear being judged. And the shame of self judgement would be even worse.

Intolerable.

So you bottle it.

You carry the shame that there must be something wrong with you.

You push it down.

You carry the weight of self loathing for having to hide this part of you.

You bury it.

You wonder what is so damaged and so unhealed within you that you can feel such extreme emotion.

The shame, guilt and self loathing is swallowed.

The ferocious dragon inside you becomes your shameful secret.

Lock her away and throw the key.

You brush yourself down, button up, put on your lippy and pretend that you are pretty and perfect and have total emotional mastery.

You are ‘fine’.

But now you feel numb. A little bit dead inside.

A part of you has been silenced.

A part of you has been made bad, wrong, messy and not to be seen or heard. Ever.

And you wonder what’s worse.

To reveal your darkness or kill her off.

It’s hardly a trade off. Either way, the feelings are excruciating.

I NEED YOU TO REALLY HEAR SOMETHING.

You are not alone to feel like this.

It has been my experience. And it’s the experience of so many women I have worked with.

I remember as a little girl when feeling angry or irritable I was told that I was annoying or too much or difficult. I got approval when I was good and calm and quiet. I got menacing looks and judgement when I was emotional.

Receiving love was conditional. The condition being, do not be emotional.

So I learned to be good.

I learned to be pretty.

I learned to smile and be calm.

As I grew into adulthood, the repression of my darker emotions (dark because at some point I unconsciously decided to make anger, worry, sadness and anxiety to mean bad, dark and unloveable) had a physical impact.

Anxiety became normal for me. I lived with it as a standard part of my life. I didn’t know that anxiety results from pu...

This video is for you if:
* you feel blocked around money;
* money is the reason you feel you can’t have/do what you want;
* you feel you have other commitments that ‘should’ be prioritised over your own desires/wants/needs

I share the importance of:
* honouring your victim;
* being connected internally;
* creating trust & faith in the Universe;
* turning on your empowered feminine energy so that you are so switched on, turned on & fired up that you are a magnet for the empowered masculine.

This is a training video for women desiring to be in relationship. Katie shares, very vulnerably and powerfully, her own journey to finding her man. She shares a miraculous three step process to attract in your guy with ease and grace. The process is applicable to attracting in your heart's desire so even if you aren't searching for your match, it will support you in your own manifestations.

Thank you for joining.

A live teaching from the Founder of 'The School of Self Love' and author of 'The Self Love Affair' on why we don't trust ourselves and how to start trusting yourself.

> WHY WE DON’T TRUST

From a young age we give meaning to our experiences and largely we make a decision whether something or someone makes us feel safe because our primal instinct is to survive. That decision then guides our life as we navigate people and opportunities that come our way. That one decision made at a tender young age can have us miss out on incredible life experiences and relationships because we made a decision years ago that it would be unsafe or risky to go there. 

For example, if we say what we really think and someone criticises us or shames us or laughs at us, that doesn’t feel good. So, it would be easy to make that mean that it’s not safe to speak our truth. And so we don’t trust ourselves to say what we really think because that feels dangerous and unsafe in some way. Over time we forget how to speak up. We are not allowing ourselves to build evidence to the contrary – that actually it is safe to speak your truth. That often when you do you can positively affect someone else’s life or inspire them or help them. Your voice can create a ripple effect or even a tidal wave of positive change. But you decided it’s not safe all those years ago and so you have not trusted your voice and missed out on so much. So has the world because your voice really does matter. That said, in some parts of the world and in some environments it is almost fact that it’s not safe to speak your truth – I get it. And yet, throughout history there are examples of people speaking up even when their life was in actual danger and they did it because despite the external danger, they trusted their message was true and important enough to risk everything for the sake of a bigger cause. The Suffragettes and Nelson Mandela immediately spring to my mind.  

I remember when I was about 8 I wasn’t doing well at maths. I had a mean teacher who would single me out and make me stand up in front of the class and say my times table out loud and I couldn’t. I felt terrible shame and humiliation. I made it mean that it was painful and scary to stand up and speak in front of a group. It took me years and years to come out of my shell and be able to speak in front of an audience with confidence. 

I remember I was in a dance group at school when I was about 11. A few of us gathered together to practice in the dance studio at lunch time. At one point I was in there alone and I started to freestyle dance and I felt amazing. Totally free, uninhibited and alive. I just went for it. And then I heard giggling. Some girls were spying on me from a window and I had no idea. I felt deep shame and embarrassment From that moment onwards I made the decision that it wasn’t safe to express myself physically. For years and years I was self conscious in my body. As I grew into my teen years, I was nervous on a dance floor – uptight and rigid. It was horrible. In the last 10 years I have started to loosen up. I am far more free and I love to express my body and feel safe in it.

I spent most of my life not trusting men. When I was about 7 my Dad left us for about 6 months. He went to live with another woman. Witnessing my Mum’s devastation and feeling responsible for her and my little sister had me make it mean that men cannot be trusted to stick around – that they will let you down and hurt you. That belief affected all of my relationships with men going forward. It even affected my relationships with women because I had experienced what I perceived to be another woman taking my Dad away from our family. I made that mean that women hurt other women because that woman hurt my Mum so deeply. Building trust with men was a long piece of work for me. I healed in stages and layers and then I met my man and married him last year. I have never trusted a man so deeply and it’s a profound experience to be able to. Day by day my marriage builds evidence for me that men CAN be trusted. And, my personal work right now is to strengthen my trust with women. It’s a work in progress and I have come a looooong long way with the evidence being a handful of deeply soulful, beautiful friendships with women and deeply trusting, honouring and inspirational relationships with my female coaching clients. 

When my Mum committed suicide I was 22 and I made that mean that I wasn’t worth sticking around for. Through various other childhood experiences I decided I wasn’t enough and Mum’s death kind of cemented that as actual bonafide fact. I was not enough. I was not loveable. <...

Manifesting is in your nature – in fact, you’ve been doing it your whole life. All that’s needed now is to consciously choose what you’re manifesting. 

We humans are energetic beings, vibrating at various frequencies. (If that sounds weird, I’d encourage you to read it from a place of Truth, instead of figuring it out with your mind). 

When we feel sad or flat, our frequency is low. Fear and shame are the lowest vibrations. Our frequency is high when we are bright and bubbly. Love is the highest vibration. And, as I’m sure you know, like attracts like. 

So the secret is to align yourself with the frequency of your desires.

Here we go!

STEP 1: RAISE YOUR VIBRATION

• Do what makes you feel GOOD. Have fun! Play! Laugh! Let your inner child free! I recommend scheduling in time to have fun, and even committing to it for 30 days! 
• Make a commitment to being grateful. Write at least 5 things you are grateful for every day. It will help you switch from feeling like a victim to feeling abundant!
• Use affirmations – a tool to master your mind and your mouth! When you notice beliefs that aren’t serving you, write them down. Then create an affirmation as a new belief to replace each one.

STEP 2: MANIFEST

• Take responsibility for your thoughts – regularly check in and choose thoughts that serve your vision.
• Get crystal clear on your vision – create and rehearse your vision in a way that lights you up. Write it as a story or make a vision board of images!
• Take action as if your vision is already becoming a reality. BE the woman who is living it now.
• Surrender. Allow the Universe to do her thing, knowing you have done your best and that’s enough. Trust the creation process.

STEP 3: DAYDREAM

Spend some time daydreaming about one thing you deeply desire. What does it feel like to already have it? For example, if you desire a new relationship, see yourself with the man and imagine what you would be doing and saying and feeling. 

Go deeper into it. See it more clearly. And then go even DEEPER. (I love getting lost in daydreams when I’m in the steam room and it’s crazy how they start to become my reality!)


STEP 4: VISUALISE

This is similar to daydreaming. However, I encourage you to commit to a daily ritual of consciously intending your desires. 

Write a snapshot of your vision first, so you have a clear image in your mind. Then really FEEL yourself there. Use your imagination to engage all your senses. By the end, you should be bouncing off the walls with excitement for what’s already yours!


STEP 5: MEDITATE

Meditation helps you connect with your source and experience the bliss of nothing. That stillness is a glimpse of the truth that you and the Universe are one. From this truth, you’ll be empowered to naturally manifest your desires. You know you are a creator. 

I encourage you to choose a meditation style and technique that feels good for you, and do it as often as possible! 

Darling, miracles are coming your way. All you need do is be available to receive your birthright!

I am SO excited for you!

Love you,

Katie xx

Founder of The School of Self Love 

P.S. I am speaking with women who are serious about creating deep transformation in their lives. To discover which of our coaching programmes would best suit you, CLICK HERE.