Ep 69: How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself - Avoiding “Comparison” with 1 Quick Activity!
05/30/22 • 11 min
Are you constantly questioning your success? Looking around and recognizing success in others but not in yourself? When you are looking around and comparing yourself to others you are slowing yourself down! You lose momentum. In this episode Paula encourages you to refocus on yourself, your goals, and the people in your life who are cheering you on with 1 quick activity! This will help you to get your creative juices flowing, recognize your power and build your momentum in the right direction!
Once you’ve completed this exercise send it to Paula via email, [email protected] or in her DMs!
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Timestamps:(01:30) Are you judging your success against what you see in others?
(03:10) What happens when you are constantly looking at others.
(06:25) Are you missing the people who are cheering you on?
(07:40) Focusing on the things that are working in your favor.
Are you constantly questioning your success? Looking around and recognizing success in others but not in yourself? When you are looking around and comparing yourself to others you are slowing yourself down! You lose momentum. In this episode Paula encourages you to refocus on yourself, your goals, and the people in your life who are cheering you on with 1 quick activity! This will help you to get your creative juices flowing, recognize your power and build your momentum in the right direction!
Once you’ve completed this exercise send it to Paula via email, [email protected] or in her DMs!
Continue the conversation by joining my private Facebook group “I am Becoming...” here: http://www.facebook.com/groups/befearlesswithpaula
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be_fearless_with_paula/
If you’re interested in working with Paula, send her an email [email protected]
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/befearlesswithpaula/
Don’t forget to rate and review The Confidence Sessions and please subscribe if you like what you heard! https://www.thecourageblueprint.com/podcast
Timestamps:(01:30) Are you judging your success against what you see in others?
(03:10) What happens when you are constantly looking at others.
(06:25) Are you missing the people who are cheering you on?
(07:40) Focusing on the things that are working in your favor.
Previous Episode
Ep. 68: Introducing “Cold Fear” - A Journey to Success through Rejection, Patience & Disappointment with John David Mann
What does it take to write a successful book? Today’s guest, John David Mann, shares how he stepped into his career as a writer in his 50s and had his first book rejected over 20 times by publishers! He shares how he is grateful for these rejections because it allowed him to write a better book and become the writer he is today. John shares the story of his upcoming title Cold Fear, releasing June 7th, including the trials along the way!
In this episode we chat about:
John’s journey from writing parables to a crime thriller.
How leadership and leaders can make all the difference, good or bad.
Rejection, patience & personal growth.
Behind the scenes of writing a novel.
Growing your empathy through research and experience.
Why you should read “Cold Fear”.
And so much more!
John David Mann is coauthor of more than thirty books, including four New York Times bestsellers and five national bestsellers. His writing has won multiple awards, including the Living Now Book Awards Evergreen Medal for its “contributions to positive global change.” His first thriller, Steel Fear, has been nominated for a Barry Award. This year’s sequel, Cold Fear, was hailed by Jeffrey Deaver as “one of the best crime novels of the year.”
Connect with John David Mann!
https://webbandmann.com
https://www.facebook.com//johndavidmann
https://www.linkedin.com/in/johndavidmann
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Check out Paula’s recommended resources HERE!
If you’re interested in working with Paula, send her an email [email protected]
Continue the conversation by joining my private Facebook group “I am Becoming...” here: http://www.facebook.com/groups/befearlesswithpaula
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be__fearless_with_paula/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/befearlesswithpaula/
Don’t forget to rate and review The Confidence Sessions and please subscribe if you like what you heard! https://www.thecourageblueprint.com/podcast
Timestamps:(02:29) John introduces the difference between writing a parable and a thriller or crime novel.
(05:57) Steel Fear is both a thriller and a leadership novel, based upon real events.
(11:14) How leadership and leaders can make all the difference, good or bad.
(13:01) Why it took 13 years from the initial idea to launching the book.
(15:18) John’s first Go Giver book was rejected by 21 publishers!
(19:09) The challenge of writing a sequel to a best selling novel.
(21:00) The things you don’t see behind the scenes of writing a novel.
(25:00) Embracing patience in business and in writing.
(29:40) How research and experience creates empathy and pays off in writing.
(32:05) John began writing as a career in his 50s and dealing with disappointment.
(36:55) Why you should read Cold Fear.
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Ep. 70: Having Courageous Conversations - Diversity, Equity & Inclusion in Life & Business with Antoinetta Mosley
What does it mean to be diverse, equitable and inclusive in your business and your life? It is not enough to just take performative action! In today’s episode Antoinetta Mosely, CEO and DEI strategist, shares the importance of following the PACE framework and how you should not “DIY your DEI”. She shares how teaching courageous conversations as a skill can help build a culture where people are celebrated, not tolerated. Antoinetta shares the truth behind allies and advocates, advocating for your own needs and her personal mantra “Giggle. Pray. Make magic!”
In this episode we chat about:
Antoinetta’s journey into DEI.
Cultivating courageous skills.
Having ground rules around uncomfortable conversations.
Where to find DEI resources.
And so much more!
Antoinetta Mosley is the CEO and Principal Leader at I Follow the Leader LLC, a strategic consulting firm specializing in diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) strategy, initiatives, and education. As a Certified Diversity Professional (CDP), Antoinetta has worked on a range of projects for organizations of all sizes, including small to global nonprofits as well as Fortune 500 companies and travels the country as a sought-after speaker on DEI, courageous conversations, and belonging in the workplace.
Connect with Antoinetta!
antoinettamosley.com
Ifollowtheleader.com
https://www.facebook.com/ifollowtheleader
https://www.linkedin.com/in/antoinettamosley/
www.instagram.com/ifollowtheleader
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Check out Paula’s recommended resources HERE!
If you’re interested in working with Paula, send her an email [email protected]
Continue the conversation by joining my private Facebook group “I am Becoming...” here: http://www.facebook.com/groups/befearlesswithpaula
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be__fearless_with_paula/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/befearlesswithpaula/
Don’t forget to rate and review The Confidence Sessions and please subscribe if you like what you heard! https://www.thecourageblueprint.com/podcast
Timestamps:(03:30) Antoinetta’s journey into diversity & inclusion in leadership during her graduate program.
(06:00) How to cultivate courage with daily habits to build courageous skills.
(08:50) The importance of allies and advocates in the diversity space.
(12:00) Cultivating the skill of diversity conversations. Ground rules
(14:45) Why it’s important to have professional DEI advice and performative practices.
(17:40) Ways to ensure you are using equitable and diverse services.
(19:51) Approaching DEI after pausing and exploring, not jumping to action.
(20:45) Where to find DEI resources for individuals and small business owners/entrepreneurs.
(23:55) How the pandemic has impacted having comfortable or uncomfortable conversations.
(28:00) Setting boundaries to be celebrated, not tolerated. Advocating for yourself.
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