4. Is your shame making you SICK? | Philip Folsom

10/17/19 • 82 min

The BS We Feed Ourselves — Gut/Brain healing for overachievers

Summary:

Today we have a guest who has gone into the “dark woods” and made it out the other side. There he learned that individuals and organizations can DO and BE ANYTHING, if two things are in place: a model of success, and the tools to reach it. He’s dramatically improved the lives of over 500,000 individuals struggling with depression, PTSD, and other health issues. He’s an Anthropologist, as well as the founder of Wolf Tribe Institute... AND, yes! He works with wolves on a regular bases: Philip Folsom!

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What We Discuss:

00:01:54:00 - "If you want to grow and develop and transform yourself or get healthy, you have to enter the woods at the scariest, most bleak, shadow-filled place. Which is of course what we try to avoid, which is why change is so hard."

00:05:53:11 - The female orgasm.

00:09:48:03 - Phillip explains what the "dark woods" means.

00:09:48:05 - The raw resistance of fear is why we can’t change diet, lifestyles, lovers.

00:10:16:23 - It takes a death of self. Death is a terrifying thing to do by yourself. It takes someone else.

00:11:10:17 - Alcoholism journey

00:12:13:11 - Willpower is a muscle. it's not a finite resource. you have to work on it.

00:16:25:21 - Phillip Discusses the lack of "sickness" in indigenous tribes.

00:17:40:22 - Kinship vs Ego

00:19:16:16 - "It's impossible for us to KNOW more than 70 people" discussion.

00:20:38:22 - People "have" the planet because “we got really good at bonding”.

00:22:04:24 - Dire wolf skull

00:22:32:12 - Explanation of how your brain responds to the scariest thing on the planet: humans.

00:26:11:04 - A week, a month, a decade awash in stress hormones...

00:26:33:08 - Low Grade Chronic Stress is making everyone sick

00:28:36:22 - Autoimmune issues and PTSD survivors

00:38:00:20 - Loneliness leads to cortisol

00:38:47:10 - Shame regulates behavior

00:41:31:13 - Pride based systems are not time tested. In primitive cultures that’s insanity.

00:54:28:13 - How to find and build your tribe

00:54:41:14 - Wolf Sanctuary

01:00:05:19 - Why "Getting Ahead FIRST" is the BS You're Feeding Yourself.

01:02:05:13 - Question for men: "if you remove sports, alcohol, and your job" who's your tribe?

01:05:46:06 - Go find your men’s groups

01:08:45:06 - “Connection” is a step towards healing, according to the Autoimmune Protocol

01:13:32:22 - How absolving each other’s shame can help you heal.

01:15:44:22 - Why do you keep circling the mountains?

01:16:44:21 - The importance of "service-based" purpose

01:17:36:00 - For the Phoenix to be reborn, she has to die.

Links from this Episode:

https://philipfolsom.com/

https://www.k4men.com/

What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary:

How to Listen:

Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.

You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.

What We Discuss:

00:05:53:11 - The female orgasm.

00:09:48:03 - Phillip explains what the "dark woods" means.

00:09:48:05 - The raw resistance of fear is why we can’t change diet, lifestyles, lovers.

00:10:16:23 - It takes a death of self. Death is a terrifying thing to do by yourself. It takes someone else.

00:11:10:17 - Alcoholism journey

00:12:13:11 - Willpower is a muscle. it's not a finite resource. you have to work on it.

00:16:25:21 - Phillip Discusses the lack of "sickness" in indigenous tribes.

00:17:40:22 - Kinship vs Ego

00:19:16:16 - "It's impossible for us to KNOW more than 70 people" discussion.

00:20:38:22 - People "have" the planet because “we got really good at bonding”.

00:22:04:24 - Dire wolf skull

00:22:32:12 - Explanation of how your brain responds to the scariest thing on the planet: humans.

00:26:11:04 - A week, a month, a decade awash in stress hormones...

00:26:33:08 - Low Grade Chronic Stress is making everyone sick

00:28:36:22 - Autoimmune issues and PTSD survivors

00:38:00:20 - Loneliness leads to cortisol

00:38:47:10 - Shame regulates behavior

00:41:31:13 - Pride based systems are not time tested. In primitive cultures that’s insanity.

00:54:28:13 - How to find and build your tribe

00:54:41:14 - Wolf Sanctuary

01:00:05:19 - Why "Getting Ahead FIRST" is the BS You're Feeding Yourself.

01:02:05:13 - Question for men: "if you remove sports, alcohol, and your job" who's your tribe?

01:05:46:06 - Go find your men’s groups

01:08:45:06 - “Connection” is a step towards healing, according to the Autoimmune Protocol

01:13:32:22 - How absolving each other’s shame can help you heal.

01:15:44:22 - Why do you keep circling the mountains?

01:16:44:21 - The importance of "service-based" purpose

01:17:36:00 - For the Phoenix to be reborn, she has to die.

Links from this Episode:

https://philipfolsom.com/

https://www.k4men.com/

What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

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3. "The Paleo Mom" talks Imposter Syndrome & growing up sick

Summary:

Dr. Sarah Ballantyne aka “The Paleo Mom” is an award-winning public speaker, New York Times bestselling author and world-renowned health expert in the autoimmune community. Dr. Sarah shares what to say when your doctor’s not listening, how to overcome imposter syndrome and strategies to keep you thriving in your career.

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What We Discuss:

"To hear so many stories of people who thought they were infertile and had a baby because of my work. Or, thought they were going to die and changed their diet and lifestyle ... I just started crying." - Dr. Sarah Ballantyne

00:01:28:14 - “For me, it took 10-12 years [to learn I had an autoimmune disease], but "if I look back it's kind of like my entire life was leading up to being broken.” - Shawna Bigby Davis

00:02:19:18 - How do you know if you have an autoimmune disease?

00:03:10:09 - Sexism in autoimmune diagnosis.

00:05:10:20 - The American Autoimmune Related Disease Association (AARDA) established approximately 50% of people who were later diagnosed with a serious or life-threatening auto-immune disease were labeled as hypochondriacs in the early phases of their disease.

00:05:42:23 - Symptoms of Autoimmune Disorders.

00:06:35:22 - Americans take roughly 50% of the world’s medications, but we're only 5% of the world's population.

00:06:59:15 - When did you discover diet and lifestyle could improve the way you feel so significantly?

00:07:20:09 - Dr. Sarah share's how her early symptoms started when she was between 7-10 years old.

00:09:23:24 - Dr. Sarah shares how her family had "homemade remedies" to help symptoms without realizing what was wrong.

00:10:11:00 - Responding to the "naysayers"

00:14:19:18 - Imposter Syndrome.

00:27:21:01 - "There's so much of autoimmune disease and chronic illness in general that feels very lonely. And, it feels like we're all trying to figure it out on the first time." And, finding that community is so important.” — Dr. Sarah Ballantyne

00:29:29:05 - "We would get up really early and we would go and sit in the infinity pool and watch the sunrise. So this infinity pool is like this warm pool and because it's February, it's cool out. And, the steam is rising up and you're in the middle of this thousand-year-old Redwood Forest. And, it is like a spiritual experience. It's incredible. The stillness of everything, then suddenly "snap" nature turns on. Like a switch. All the frogs, all the CRICKETS, all the birds, they all come on at once”. — Shawna Bigby Davis

00:30:41:13 - Dr. Sarah’s reaction upon seeing The Mother Tree:

“If she can survive forest fires, I can survive all of this. And, I went and walked by myself through the forest and I just started touching things & I just started crying.

"I licked a dirt cliff, it's fine. It's good soil-based organism probiotics.”

00:36:57:17 - Why SLEEP is Sarah’s lynchpin:

“Frankly, I burn myself out about 3 times a year. I did it again, Now, I feel terrible, now I have no energy, and if I start getting stressed enough that my sleep quality is eroding, or I start sacrificing sleep to tackle the to-do list, that's usually the beginning of the snowball.” - Dr. Sarah

00:39:13:08 - Overcoming Burnout

00:40:10:11 - What's in Shawna's Purse Segment

00:46:15:02 - Dr. Sarah's secret lip moisturizer

Links from this Episode:

Dr. Sarah’s Website

The Foundations of Health 3-Day Workshop

Book Mention: How to Raise an Adult

What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

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5. Clairvoyant for Fortune 500 CEOs shares wellness secrets

Summary: Gwen Dittmar is a clairvoyant who has supported Fortune 500 CEOs, entrepreneurs, actresses, health & wellness professionals, addiction recovery professionals, and more; all who want to reclaim their energy, work, and life. She’s a high-functioning over achiever who has faced a number of challenges, including a near death experience, and struggles with alcohol. She has learned from her experiences and leaned into her clairvoyance, and is now helping people discover how to embrace their magic and level up.

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What We Talk About:

00:08:56:16 - "When I got into the ambulance, I was just laying there, and I could see my mom, and I could see the guys, and I was so sick, and all of a sudden I just started to feel like, “Oh My Gosh, I think I'm dying.” And then I felt myself pullout of my body and go into this most amazing feeling.” ––Gwen Dittmar.

00:14:27:08 - Near death experience

00:18:39:11 - Gwen shares mom passing away story

00:19:53:19 - The benefits of "earthing" aka putting your bare feet on the ground.

00:21:38:14 - How to tap into your universal life force.

00:21:52:02 -”We look like form, but we're just energy; cells vibrating against each other.”

00:22:41:22 - Just imagine you have this energetic life bubble around you. And you consciously make a choice. No one is allowed to come into this space. This is my space. This is my energy. I can sense your energy. I can have compassion for your energy, but your energy doesn't come in to mine. -- Even when you're being sensual with people you can still have your own energy be your energy.

00:24:39:06 - Relationship structures. "H" vs "T"

00:35:52:19 - Gwen shares how she used alcohol to cope with her clairvoyance and how she now manages her addiction.

00:37:23:04 - “It's not that I'm extreme. I'm just open.”

00:37:35:22 - “I receive a lot. I feel a lot. I sense a lot. I'm in tune to a lot.”

00:38:06:18 - Gene Keys explanation

00:41:54:21 - How "Sober Curious" Facebook groups helped Gwen.

00:47:25:06 - How Gwen became a mother of 2 after she was told she'd never have children.

00:51:04:10 - Gwen opens up about her divorce

00:52:04:01 - "The human life is the vehicle to do that... so whether it comes through addiction, alcoholism, disease, or divorce, or custody challenges, or losing your home, or shifting careers, losing money and learning how to make it back again, near death experiences, the human vehicle is really just there so we can learn.” - Gwen Dittmar

01:00:54:24 - How relinquishing control and delegating tasks can help you grow in your business.

Links from this Episode:

Gwen Dittmar’s Website

Gene Keys Website

Sober Curious Facebook Group

If you liked this episode: Check out this episode about “Going into The Dark Woods” with Philip Folsom.

What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.