12. Why Feeling UNSAFE is Damaging Your Health
12/12/19 • 55 min
Summary: Karden Rabin, a health and wellness expert, teacher and entrepreneur. In this episode, he shares how we unknowingly damage our health when we react to stressful or threatening situations. He opens up about the illness he struggled with through his youth and how he learned to be an agent of healthy change in his life. He specializes in bodywork, therapeutic massage and mindfulness training.
What We Learn:
08:49 - How our automatic nervous system affects our health; including how the Parasympathetic system works.
10:01 - Karden’s story
23:36 - Feline cat failure
27:00 - One of the most absolute important principles of human development is “attachment.” You as a baby are essentially incapable of survival..so you are dependant on your primary caretaker.
You are exquisitely good, even as a newborn, at adapting and exhibiting behaviors that get your primary caretaker to attend to you. So, you forming an attachment to your primary caretaker and your primary caretaker providing all of your needs is the single most important goal of any baby or any child.
That’s not just in the form of being nourished with the food, it’s in comfort and in emotional and existential acknowledgment.
There is nothing more important.
In the same way that a tree, a plant will always grow toward the sun. A baby child will always grow toward the sun of their primary caretaker.
31:16 - For a lot of us Type A, do-gooders, caretakers, our primary way of getting the sun to pay attention to us was by being a good boy or a good girl, so we got the emotional nourishment that we require. And, if we didn’t somehow there was a withhold, there was neglect, maybe there was abuse or aggression.
32:00 - Emotional and behavior repression of type A people explanation.
44:59 - How to express anger without destroying relationships with loved ones
50:08 - You want to use the anger energy to guide you toward feeling safe. (instead of having a rage-filled outburst)
53:43 - The power of attention and self-sooting is incredible.
Links Mentioned:
Karden Rabin's Stress School at www.kardenrabin.com
Be part of the first-ever Stress School class!
Summary: Karden Rabin, a health and wellness expert, teacher and entrepreneur. In this episode, he shares how we unknowingly damage our health when we react to stressful or threatening situations. He opens up about the illness he struggled with through his youth and how he learned to be an agent of healthy change in his life. He specializes in bodywork, therapeutic massage and mindfulness training.
What We Learn:
08:49 - How our automatic nervous system affects our health; including how the Parasympathetic system works.
10:01 - Karden’s story
23:36 - Feline cat failure
27:00 - One of the most absolute important principles of human development is “attachment.” You as a baby are essentially incapable of survival..so you are dependant on your primary caretaker.
You are exquisitely good, even as a newborn, at adapting and exhibiting behaviors that get your primary caretaker to attend to you. So, you forming an attachment to your primary caretaker and your primary caretaker providing all of your needs is the single most important goal of any baby or any child.
That’s not just in the form of being nourished with the food, it’s in comfort and in emotional and existential acknowledgment.
There is nothing more important.
In the same way that a tree, a plant will always grow toward the sun. A baby child will always grow toward the sun of their primary caretaker.
31:16 - For a lot of us Type A, do-gooders, caretakers, our primary way of getting the sun to pay attention to us was by being a good boy or a good girl, so we got the emotional nourishment that we require. And, if we didn’t somehow there was a withhold, there was neglect, maybe there was abuse or aggression.
32:00 - Emotional and behavior repression of type A people explanation.
44:59 - How to express anger without destroying relationships with loved ones
50:08 - You want to use the anger energy to guide you toward feeling safe. (instead of having a rage-filled outburst)
53:43 - The power of attention and self-sooting is incredible.
Links Mentioned:
Karden Rabin's Stress School at www.kardenrabin.com
Be part of the first-ever Stress School class!
Previous Episode
11. Millennial Business Woman Says Illness Contributed to Success
Summary:
Natalie Kelley is a holistic health coach, recipe developer, and businesswoman. She’s also the host of the Thrive with IBD podcast. She’s experienced scary and painful moments due to her chronic illness: ulcerative colitis. In this episode, she opens up about how bloat and fatigue plagued her life and how she used to just pass it off as stress. Now, she’s found a way to turn her pain into purpose and is helping others with chronic illnesses like IBD thrive, and she’s just 23 years old.
What We Learn:
00:00:01:31 - Natalie explains what Ulcerative Colitis is
00:00:03:59 - I landed in the hospital.
00:00:06:40 - "I thought I'd never feel better"
00:00:08:34 - How to run a business with a sickness
00:00:23:18 - How to plan for 60 mins of "you time" daily!
00:00:26:03 - "I know for a while I was so resistant to that change because, in my head, I was like no. That's not my plan, this is my plan. This is what my blog has been about for 4 years, how can I change that? The moment I let that expectation go and let my business flow the way it's supposed to, I fell into exactly what I'm supposed to. Just keeping that mindset that change is okay and it's scary.
00:00:26:52 - Another thing, I think is to believe in yourself. It's so easy when you're creating a business to have that self-doubt, And, I've have struggled with that for so long, I think therapy can help and like what you said, write down all your accomplishments.
00:00:26:52 - Say you have a chronic illness and want to start your own business, even in moments when you're sick, don't let your dreams go, Don't think you have to quite your business, just take a break, but you're going to be able to get back to it.
00:00:27:50 - How did you do the amazing thing you did??? "Ask yourself How?"
00:00:31:45 - So, what's the BS you're feeding yourself?
Helpful Links:
Never Split The Difference - BOOK
Natalie’s: Website
Next Episode
13. Are you exercising wrong? MS Doctor shares techniques
Summary: Dr. Gretchen Hawley, a physical therapist and MS specialist shares the importance of exercise for improved mental performance and physical movement as well as helping people with autoimmune diseases gain hope and live life confidently! She’s also the founder of The MSing Link.
What We Learn:
03:55 Start at "So, let's talk about the importance of movement"
05:25 “The Mental Component of Physical Exercise”
07:39 THE BS Shawna feeds herself about "EXERCISE"
08:38 What if I go to the gym and people look at me because I'm doing an exercise wrong?
09:44 Wearing the same shirt 2 days in a row!
13:48 How did you get into MS specialty?
16:00 “Foot Drop” - Symptom and suggested solution
17:06 How Exercise can slow the progression of MS
18:02 "As much as it's comfortable to sit and binge on Netflix all day, our bodies are made to move. So, when you get them moving there's blood flow, there's oxygen flow. There are endorphins, There so much going on that we can't see that promotes, positive thinking, promotes strength, promotes good flexibility, so it can be hard a lot of the times to get moving, but time and time again research is proving how good it is for us mentally and physically."
19:08 Brain Protein
20:00 Break your 20 min daily workouts into 4, 5 min workouts you do throughout the day!
21:03 “How Exercise Build's Confidence”
29:04 How to put gratitude on your schedule
32:23 Exercises you can do at home
35:33 “If you keep envisioning yourself being at your goal, your brain is going to help you get there.” - She Means Business (BOOK)
36:48 The BS Dr. Gretchen is feeding herself
40:00 Dr. Terry Wahls has been a part of Dr. Gretchen's program...
"I love what your podcast stands for and all the guests you have. There’s so much BS that we all feed ourselves that we don't even realize..." -Dr. Gretchen.
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